Brighten the Corner Where YOU Are

What is life all about anyway? Some say it is to build success, some argue it is to do good and spread goodwill, others pose that life is a self discovery journey that encompasses feeling good and doing good, a personal measurement of success and finding your “zen” passion points.

All true, no debate from me. But let me add that I think life is to be lived from one happy moment to the next. It is not that we don’t meet challenges or obstacles, I acknowledge that in my book Climb Every Obstacle: Eliminate Your Limits!

Of course we do face unsettling events, death, trauma, fear, or other mixtures of emotions that can of course blend into a simmering pot of caution. The message here is to find the bright side.

Brighten the corner where you are; in the present, right now. Once you learn how to ferret out even a second of bright clarity, you can begin to build an automatic gush of understanding and happiness. Something life changing actually happens when you STOP fighting with the way things are and live brightly in the present.

Right now I am reading, Women, Food and God. Gennen Roth,the author, has taken me to to my mythical core where I now see that the learned stories and past histories I have learned primarily from my Mom who does not accept or embrace her body as a prized sanctuary of grace, even though ironically her name is Grace, has shadowed my feelings about my own body and it outer worth.

My Mom is incredible. She is beautiful, intelligent, accomplished and a woman of worth. But, the way she shies away from her body shows a disconnect from the good God placed in her.

As her only daughter child, I am only now beginning to accept my body – no more abusive diets, no more starvation, no more over extension, no more people pleasing, no more avoidance, no more!

I know how to cast light, I really do. If there is one characteristic that I have inculcated it is my ability to let others shine and to find their brightness. I don’t need the limelight. But there is a hidden dagger with this last statement…no I don’t need the limelight, but I should too let my whole life, including my body, shine.

As late as last month if someone called me sexy, especially a man, I would cringe thinking I have been too forward or worse cast my femininity too far. Ridiculous!

Geneen Roth has helped me drill down into where those un-true stories I tell myself about being sexy came from. I had to scope my whole being, expose my lunacy, feel the heat, describe what I saw, listen to what I heard to find the controlling lies to re-write my truth and find the real joy of inner brightness.

The core answer to brightness in any corner where is are is LOVE; it’s the alpha and the omega. Only LOVE emits brightness. Geneen says when you are in a space of love “it feels like relief. It feels like infinite goodness… It feels like the essence of tenderness, compassion, joy, peace. Life LOVE itself.”

Learn this lesson well.

Whatever your inner issue is – food, addiction, money, loneliness, family, spirit, friends, sabotage, body image, sexiness – you can move beyond what dims your true light to a bright eminence that eclipses the light of sunshine.

You deserve lovely sunshine each and every day and so do the people who are in your bright corner.

Life is But a Dream

“Row row row your boat
gently down the stream…”

and then downsizing happens, pain, divorce, trauma, death, recession, weight gain, defeat illusions crop up everywhere.

Forget merrily, forget joy, forget prosperity. Forget living.

You are bigger than pain. You are stronger than defeat be it downsizing, divorce, death, weight…whatever your obstacle—you are stronger. You are stronger.

Here is what I want you to do: GO BACK TO YOUR PAIN

  • First, embrace your pain. Really lovingly let your pain in.
  • Second, feel the pain in its most raw, eviscerating state.
  • Third, look at the pain.
  • Fourth, speak to the pain. But, this time don’t run away nor deny your pain. Instead have an honest talk with your pain point and clearly state your feelings. Clearly see yourself in the light of total control and peace.
  • Fifth, feel yourself who you are in front of the pain. Use “I” statements such as “I” am an achiever. “I” am a dancer. “I” am powerful. “I” am love.

Speak out loud exactly who you are and what you thought your self-inflicted, self-loathing pain was blocking you from. Now, erase the pain. Bask in the freedom of being a dancer. Excel as an achiever. Empower yourself with your power.

Zen master Shunrya Suzuki Roshi says enlightenment comes when you follow one thing all the way to the end. Follow your pain, grief, defeat or whatever has imprisoned you until now and then follow your dreams to the end.

Life is but a dream when you wake up from the illusory control of pain. Recognize that you have the power and strength to embrace, see and talk to any of your pain points and follow them to the end so that you find enlightenment.

Pain can never destroy an enlightened person. You are strong. You are no longer a prisoner to pain. No more lies, excuses, denial, shibboleths. No more excuses; excuses be gone!

You don’t need pain. You don’t have to be broken.

You are strong. You are powerful. You are in control.

You can row your boat in a stream, in a torrent, in a storm without fear of losing your way to enlightenment.

Row your boat, be merry, and live the life of your dreams.

Harmony: The Answer to Happiness

A New Earth

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It is axiomatic that when you are angry, stressed, frightened, or in any other toxic state of mind that you are not in alignment with your true, valued purpose for life. It is truly not possible to be happy and disturbed at the same time…utterly impossible!

I don’t care what the precipitating factors are for being out of alignment, whether external or internal in your mind, it is your mind that can restore balance and harmony. Right now, begin to center your mind and think about harmony; this is the only answer to happiness.

Let us begin: (Take FIVE minutes to restore your happiness)

* Clear all noise clutter- NO television, radio, telephone or computer
* Close your eyes
* Offer statement(s) of gratitude. “I am thankful for my breath” “Thank you universe for quiet peace” “My heart is grateful for …..”
* Visualize you in the most harmonious, happy place. Linger there and feel the profound wonders of joy, serenity, purpose
* Claim the calm that comes when you accept harmony, happiness
Say: I am happy! I am calm. I am a joyful and happy being. I am….
* Accept that you are happy. I am happy-let the universe know by showing your happiness with a smile, kind word, tender touch, or helpful action that broadens and deepens the harmony you have within.
* Open your eyes and your mind

You are happy. Go out and live happy-that’s your real purpose.

Repeat this restoration exercise often.
Harmony and happiness can be fleeting when we concentrate on events, situations, or stories which are otherwise.

Attract happiness and harmony with deliberate intention-focus your thoughts solely on being in this state of mind consistently and you will live the answer to happiness:harmony.

Be still, release the emotional noise and be in the pure essence of happiness. Eckhart Tolle

Are You Awake?

Parents, especially on school days, ask their children are you awake? to rouse them early in the morning to get them up for school. The children should return the favor and ask the parent, Are YOU Awake?

Adults do so many rut things strictly out of habit, automatically doing the same thing without thought. That’s okay, right. But, what a probing question it is to ask yourself every morning, Are you awake?

“Habits are at first cobwebs, then cables.” — Spanish Proverb

Wake up mind. Say: Mind, are you awake? Really, how awake is your mind? Are you alert, inquisitive, prepared, or are you sleepy and robotic when you start your morning?

Wake up your mind by going into quiet meditation, tagging mental exercises such as puzzles, making a task list, singing, or by physical action activities. Un-dull your senses, wake up mind.

Wake up body. Give your body a wake up call too. I had the chance to go out to Senior Citizen dance night at the mall near where I live. It was a joy to see elderly couples doing the swing or ballroom dances at their geriatric age.

Give your body an awakening jolt by being active. Dance, zumba, play bridge, lobby a few tennis balls, walk or job. Work up a sweat-wake up your body.

Wake up heart. Wake up your heart. Open yourself up to caring about yourself and others. Stimulate your emotional heart by saying loving words. Be positive, energetic, sincere as you awaken others to your peaceful heart.

Wake up life. Wake your senses. Live from all five-seeing, smelling, tasting, hearing, and touching. Discover what a sensory world we live in and play each waking moment as a “present” pre-sent just for you.

Singer, philanthropist, activist – John Legend has remixed “Wake Up Everybody” to remind us all that the “world won’t get any better if we just wait and see…we gotta change it…just you and me.”

Wake Up Everybody
Wake up everybody. It’s time to start a new day.
Be alive, be present, be awake!