What is life all about anyway? Some say it is to build success, some argue it is to do good and spread goodwill, others pose that life is a self discovery journey that encompasses feeling good and doing good, a personal measurement of success and finding your “zen” passion points.
All true, no debate from me. But let me add that I think life is to be lived from one happy moment to the next. It is not that we don’t meet challenges or obstacles, I acknowledge that in my book Climb Every Obstacle: Eliminate Your Limits!
Of course we do face unsettling events, death, trauma, fear, or other mixtures of emotions that can of course blend into a simmering pot of caution. The message here is to find the bright side.
Brighten the corner where you are; in the present, right now. Once you learn how to ferret out even a second of bright clarity, you can begin to build an automatic gush of understanding and happiness. Something life changing actually happens when you STOP fighting with the way things are and live brightly in the present.
Right now I am reading, Women, Food and God. Gennen Roth,the author, has taken me to to my mythical core where I now see that the learned stories and past histories I have learned primarily from my Mom who does not accept or embrace her body as a prized sanctuary of grace, even though ironically her name is Grace, has shadowed my feelings about my own body and it outer worth.
My Mom is incredible. She is beautiful, intelligent, accomplished and a woman of worth. But, the way she shies away from her body shows a disconnect from the good God placed in her.
As her only daughter child, I am only now beginning to accept my body – no more abusive diets, no more starvation, no more over extension, no more people pleasing, no more avoidance, no more!
I know how to cast light, I really do. If there is one characteristic that I have inculcated it is my ability to let others shine and to find their brightness. I don’t need the limelight. But there is a hidden dagger with this last statement…no I don’t need the limelight, but I should too let my whole life, including my body, shine.
As late as last month if someone called me sexy, especially a man, I would cringe thinking I have been too forward or worse cast my femininity too far. Ridiculous!
Geneen Roth has helped me drill down into where those un-true stories I tell myself about being sexy came from. I had to scope my whole being, expose my lunacy, feel the heat, describe what I saw, listen to what I heard to find the controlling lies to re-write my truth and find the real joy of inner brightness.
The core answer to brightness in any corner where is are is LOVE; it’s the alpha and the omega. Only LOVE emits brightness. Geneen says when you are in a space of love “it feels like relief. It feels like infinite goodness… It feels like the essence of tenderness, compassion, joy, peace. Life LOVE itself.”
Learn this lesson well.
Whatever your inner issue is – food, addiction, money, loneliness, family, spirit, friends, sabotage, body image, sexiness – you can move beyond what dims your true light to a bright eminence that eclipses the light of sunshine.
You deserve lovely sunshine each and every day and so do the people who are in your bright corner.