Are You an Action Addict?

It was tempting to write another title headline: Are You an Addict?
I decided against it for it is not my intention to highlight the word addict; instead my intention is to inspire action.

So, to be clear the word ACtIOn is the operative meaning.
What does it mean to be an action addict?
That is a curious question that deserves a ten minute time out.
Maybe it would be helpful to think about the words separately and then create your own connotations.

The question is not a random question, but one I have been puzzling over for the past year. I have gone so far to ask myself what is the opposite of “action addict?” Is it boredom? Is the antithesis laziness? Does addict mean that you ignore, surrender control or relinquish your ability to do anything about addictive behavior?  I hope not.

To posit another counter question is to ask the looming question WHY? Why do I do the things I do? Why am I an action addict?  This is the soul question that I ask readers to ask themselves – WHY -in my book, Climb Every Obstacle: Eliminate Your Limits under Obstacle 74: Over-activity.

Recently I read a posting that supports what I wrote in the book. Let me quote this directly:

Unearthing the reasons why we fill our lives with so much gives us insight into our character. When we do so many things, it is often because we are afraid to cope with our deepest feelings – the act of doing then, doesn’t become something constructive, but rather an effort to evade what is happening within. The simple act of noting down our feelings about our responsibilities can be a way for us to open the door into ourselves and see just how much we tend to skirt around our uncomfortable emotions by trying to replace them with things that fill our time.” ~ Daily OM

Hummmmmmm?

An action addict to me is someone in-tuned to the action (verb) steps it takes to achieve certain results or outcomes and they are addicted to doing the action until the goal complete or the result is manifest.

Joe Vitale, in The Secret, says that what you give your attention to is what you manifest. Where attention goes, it grows (I think this is a James Arthur Ray saying).

So, the pivotal question is what addictive action are you giving your attention to?

My action addictions are: speaking, writing, organizing, analysis, sharing, service projects, and learning; all positive extensions of my personality and purpose.  I know exactly WHY I utilize my time and talents this way.  My intended outcome or the result that I am intending is to add LIFE (learning, inspiration, function, and expertise) so that I can direct the destiny of each person in my influence circle.

What actions are you addicted to?

WHY?
Post your responses on the discussion page.

Celebrate the action addictions and the clarity of purpose that you have!

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Are You an Action Addict?

It was tempting to write another title headline: Are You an Addict?
I decided against it for it is not my intention to highlight the word addict; instead my intention is to inspire action.

So, to be clear the word ACtIOn is the operative meaning.
What does it mean to be an action addict?
That is a curious question that deserves a ten minute time out.
Maybe it would be helpful to think about the words separately and then create your own connotations.

The question is not a random question, but one I have been puzzling over for the past year. I have gone so far to ask myself what is the opposite of “action addict?” Is it boredom? Is the antithesis laziness? Does addict mean that you ignore, surrender control or relinquish your ability to do anything about addictive behavior?  I hope not.

To posit another counter question is to ask the looming question WHY? Why do I do the things I do? Why am I an action addict?  This is the soul question that I ask readers to ask themselves – WHY -in my book, Climb Every Obstacle: Eliminate Your Limits under Obstacle 74: Over-activity.

Recently I read a posting that supports what I wrote in the book. Let me quote this directly:

Unearthing the reasons why we fill our lives with so much gives us insight into our character. When we do so many things, it is often because we are afraid to cope with our deepest feelings – the act of doing then, doesn’t become something constructive, but rather an effort to evade what is happening within. The simple act of noting down our feelings about our responsibilities can be a way for us to open the door into ourselves and see just how much we tend to skirt around our uncomfortable emotions by trying to replace them with things that fill our time.” ~ Daily OM

Hummmmmmm?

An action addict to me is someone in-tuned to the action (verb) steps it takes to achieve certain results or outcomes and they are addicted to doing the action until the goal complete or the result is manifest.

Joe Vitale, in The Secret, says that what you give your attention to is what you manifest. Where attention goes, it grows (I think this is a James Arthur Ray saying).

So, the pivotal question is what addictive action are you giving your attention to?

My action addictions are: speaking, writing, organizing, analysis, sharing, service projects, and learning; all positive extensions of my personality and purpose.  I know exactly WHY I utilize my time and talents this way.  My intended outcome or the result that I am intending is to add LIFE (learning, inspiration, function, and expertise) so that I can direct the destiny of each person in my influence circle.

What actions are you addicted to?

WHY?
Post your responses on the discussion page.

Celebrate the action addictions and the clarity of purpose that you have!

Miracle Monday

Monday Miracle

 

Every day contains opportunities, some call them miracles, so to stay in the spirit of expectation and action I have decided to concentrate on Monday miracles since it is an active means of attracting new bounties.

I ask you to join me in creating intentional Monday miracles. Here is the suggested process:

1. Wake up (regardless of the time of the day) and meditate. Wake up and feel alive. Take 10 minutes. Really get down deep into your internal awareness and meditate on what you want. Recommendation: CD: Meditation-Be Still by Barbara Faison (www.barbarafaison.com)
2. Come clean. Really clean up any lingering mess. Ask for forgiveness, forgive yourself and disallow negativity.  Then take the time to refresh your inner happiness; tap into your passion and enjoy the moments where you were funny, joyful, spiritually uplifted, attuned, in your natural zone of expression.
3. Quiet down. Take a few minutes on Mondays to quiet external noise and allow yourself to experience quiet peace.
4. Clear Your Focus. Clearly, vividly, expressly focus on ONE thing and only ONE thing every Monday. The next Monday you may choose to shift your focus to another thing or remain focused on what miracle you want to manifest.
5. See the end. See your finish point. Be in the scenery and experience all of the expressions that accompany embracing your Monday Miracle.

This process may require some practice for those who are beginning to Manifest on Mondays, but in a short time, with direct commitment, you will accelerate through these steps with ease and purpose.

Begin today…right now.
Manifest your Monday right now and let us know the result….Be well, be clear, and expect miracles.

FYI: My Monday miracle just occurred – I need to complete three more community project presentation for my Accredited Speaker application to Toastmasters International and received a call from someone today inviting me to speak on April 18th at the exact  company I had planned to contact and ask for the opportunity. This is miraculous!

I am thankful.

Tell us your Monday miracle, share the goodness in your life.

Do You Care or Curse?

Do You Care or Curse?

Ultimately, that is the choice we make with our feelings hundreds of times a day-care or curse? The difference between the two often means happiness inside or despotic misery.  The choice is real, most of the time automatic and situational, but once you begin to pay attention to your feelings and thoughts you will begin to realize that yes you do make one of the choices.

Interestingly, our natural proclivity is to care. You learn how to curse a situation.  Watch the natural choices of a mother in the animal kingdom and you will see an innate caring instinct. But, for survival purposes that mother teaches her young how to curse, or become a predator, in the wild. Humans, who have the added faculty of intelligence, make the same choice-we learn how to curse certain situations based on feelings.

But, human choice to curse is usually made under the guise of the same notion of protection found in the animal kingdom. But, this is wrong. We learn to curse the unknown or what we fear, curse each other as competitors, damn those who are different, curse obstacles that come into our lives as an impediment which was dumped into our lap to make our lives difficult.

The natural human choice is to care. In spite of how often we are bombarded with instances where the volume of cursing is turned up to shrieking noise, caring still happens. Three four and five year old girls decided to sell their own drawings which they made with crayon and color markers to help the tsunami victims in Japan two days ago.

Why did they do it, they cared. A high school baseball coach donated a kidney to one of his players. He did it, in his words, “because I cared.” A young man stops to help an elderly couple after an accident-he cared too.  Teachers teach because they care. Doctors and nurses save lives because they care. Daycare workers care. Architects care about the safety of a structure. Fathers care about their children. When you listen to someone without judgment, you care.

Those who curse care too, but in an inverted way. People who curse measure their care based on past memories of pain which them provokes them to shield caring in a cloak of bitter internalized nonchalance. But, the caring is there not far from the surface if you studied the air of a grumbling curmudgeon.  Reasonably, this is true because it is natural to care. So, even though someone exhibits a hardened shell that looks like they curse the world, a persistent dose of caring attention will usually soften their seemingly bitter heart. They too have happiness inside and a caring sensitivity toward others.

This is not a sentimental musing. Honestly, it is not. F. W. Sears writes, “when w permit ourselves to condemn a thing because we say it is “bad” or condemn some person for any cause whatever, that is taking a destructive attitude toward that thing or person no matter how just we may think our position in the case may be we cannot relate with these negative, destructive currents in our thought world and expect constructive and harmonious effects….”

Make it a practice to care about the bitter and downtrodden, lots of people do.  Pause for a moment to pick out caring moments that others do. Just last week I watched this new show, Secret Millionaire, on ABC. The tagline is giving back never fet soo good.” The premise of the show, from its premiere episode, is for millionaires to live undercover, where others do not know they are wealthy, and spend time in the community with people who are serving are caring for others and then give a portion of their money away to strengthen the work those caring servants are doing which benefit others.  On the premiere episode a woman, Dani Johnson, who was once homeless but became a millionaire, spent time in a food kitchen where two elderly twin ladies prepared hot food for those in the community who needed a hot meal. For the housebound, their volunteers visited with them when they took them their meals; what they did was care because often the visit was more healing than the food. Another lady on the show devoted her time, talent and money decorating rooms and granting wishes for children who were very sick. Even though she was a busy mother and wife, it was her calling to care to decorate these rooms with bright and cheerful motifs to uplift the spirits of the ill child and their devastated parents. The millionaire funded both of these causes with a gift of a check, but as importantly she connected to her heart of care.

You may not be a millionaire, neither am I, but what we do share is a willingness to care. Care just a little more about your neighbor, check in on someone who is sick or elderly, send a card you have not seen or talked to in a while, smile, show your happiness inside.

The main rule for caring is to do something for others with tenderness. Be tender and patient even with the one, human or animal, who has been scarred and appears to curse the world. Let them feel your care.  Make a care investment  everywhere, it is the harmonious thing to do.

Recommended Reading:  The Prosperity Bible (compilation)

Success is Intentional

Yes, you can make your own success.
Yes, success is subjective.
Yes, success is intentional, regardless of how it is defined.

Matt Weinstein and Luke Barber in Gently Down the Stream writes that there are only four keys to success.  Stephen Covey espouses that there are 7 Habits of Highly Successful People.  Others in the personal development field assert their own numbers:  James Arthur Ray Harmonic Wealth, Deepak Chopra , Les Brown,  Oprah, Anthony Robbins, Jack Canfield, Wayne Dyer, Cheryl Richardson, or Michael Beckwith all make an assertion that there is a certain key to success.

I agree.

We all can make success intentional.  There are stories abound, and I make a practice to read at least one inspiring story a day, about people who exceed expectations and build their own success.  Secondly, I make a point to surround myself with achieving people. In my inner heart circle that are multiples who have made success their mantra.  All ages, all races-a diverse group of people who deliberate success.

One person I will highlight is Otis Marks II.  He was stricken with multiple sclerosis and like Montel Williams, is determined to live a quality, active successful life. I truly admire his will to live life.

Yes, your DNA is different, but your Direct Navigational Audacity is a shared commonality for success. In essence, you can boldly go wherever you want to go. You can and should create your own galaxy of success.

Make your DNA (Direct Navigational Audacity) bold. Steer your own success with intentional audacity.
Remember success, however you choose to measure it, is intentional.
Set your intentions.

How to set your intentions:

1. Clearly define your passion, determine what you want to do. Write down specific goals.
2. Clear out negativity. Surround yourself with positive, passionate people who will give truthful feedback.
3. Make a plan. Navigate each personal step you must take to audaciously reach your goal.
4. Be tenacious. Grab a bulldog hold on your plan. Get a mentor, clean up your finances, and work your plan.
5. Celebrate short-term incremental goal successes along the way.
6. Examine your progress. Consult with your mentor and other achievers to gain perspective about achievement.

These steps are easy to integrate into your success DNA plan. It takes discipline and an inner intention to persevere until you achieve success. You can join the other legions of successful people.

Make you plan work and work your plan.
People pay for what they do, and still more for what they have allowed themselves to become. And they pay for it very simply; by the lives they lead. ~James Baldwin

Tell me about your success. Write how you achieved success in your comments.

Recommended Reading:

Living Well, Montel Williams with William Doyle, Penguin Group, 2008

The Heart of Grace

ABC News highlighted a high school basketball team as its “Persons of the Week” last year  for their acts of compassionate grace. View the video http://abcnews.go.com/Video/playerIndex?id=6926639 to capture the fullness of this post.

My immediate feeling after viewing the video referenced above was What is grace?

Grace is humble acceptance. It is honor, dignity, values, strength, compassion, fearless faith.

My next question was How does grace feel?

To most grace feels soothing, non-competitive, empathetic, solid.

For the members of the rival basketball teams, grace felt like caring.

The Milwaukee Madison Knights high school basketball team’s co-captain, Johnntell Franklin, mother had just died from cancer.  He left her bedside and came to the game played against rivals Dekalb Barbs of Illinois.  Because he was not listed as a player the coach could not put him in to play, even though he recognized how important it was for Johntell to assuage his personal pain, without incurring a technical foul.  He sent Johntell in, but the grace evolves deeper when the Dekalb coach told his top free throw shooter to miss the free throw shots in deference to Johntell’s grief.
These young men felt grace, the whole crowd felt grace, and the coaches taught the permanent message of grace to these young men. Dekalb Coach says, “There are a lot of things much more important than the Xs and Os of basketball.” Knights coach wrote “unheard of sportsmanship and class.”

I recently experienced another act of grace after witnessing an unjust act which would have spun others into anger, harsh words or recrimination. Instead this person acted with grace by accepting the outcome without complaint or finger pointing.  That too is grace – to be so aware that circumstances or outcomes do not make the person.

Let us all act with grace.

Manifest a Monday Miracle

Work toward a Monday miracle.

What I have learned is that you can manifest whatever you want in your life. After hearing from many of you asking advice on how to manifest more miracles (goodness) in your life, it is time to devote one day a week (Mondays) to teaching you how to attract goodness into your life.

You are the only person to determine what “goodness” means to you – it could be a car, a mate, a resolution, a breakthrough, an increase, a reward, an awareness, a release, a promotion, a flight…it can be anything! It can be whatever you want or need to manifest or come into the present as a gift to you.

Whatever “it” is, it is yours.

Everyday contains opportunities, some call them miracles, but I have decided to concentrate on Monday miracles since it is an active means of attracting new bounties.

I ask you to join me in creating intentional Monday miracles. Here is the suggested process:

1. Wake up (regardless of the time of the day) and meditate. Wake up and feel alive. Take 10 minutes. Really get down deep into your internal awareness and meditate on what you want. Recommendation: CD: Meditation-Be Still by Barbara Faison (www.barbarafaison.com)
2. Come clean. Really clean up any lingering mess. Ask for forgiveness, forgive yourself and disallow negativity.  Then take the time to refresh your inner happiness; tap into your passion and enjoy the moments where you were funny, joyful, spiritually uplifted, attuned, in your natural zone of expression.
3. Quiet down. Take a few minutes on Mondays to quiet external noise and allow yourself to experience quiet peace.
4. Clear Your Focus. Clearly, vividly, expressly focus on ONE thing and only ONE thing every Monday. The next Monday you may choose to shift your focus to another thing or remain focused on what miracle you want to manifest.
5. See the end. See your finish point. Be in the scenery and experience all of the expressions that accompany embracing your Monday Miracle.

This process may require some practice for those who are beginning to Manifest on Mondays, but in a short time, with direct commitment, you will accelerate through these steps with ease and purpose.

Begin today…right now.
Manifest your Monday right now and let us know the result….Be well, be clear, and expect miracles.

Recommended Reading: Choose Them Wisely: Thoughts Become Things, Mike Dooley (teacher in The Secret) Atria Books, 2009