You have reached a pinpoint moment in your life by already completing Emotional Exercises 1, 2, and 3. Really, I mean really, really feel good about doing the exercises. Taking effective action and piercing your layers of socialization and emotional makeup is life altering. But, we are not done yet, Emotional Exercise 4 is here.
But, before I begin the instructions for it, please sit in a quiet place with your feet on the floor and just smile. Smile deeply and feel the resonance of inner happiness and joy that knows you have begun to re-frame your emotions into a sacred personal picture/vision of who you are that is intimate with accurate and acute, deep feelings about what you passionately desire that is bordered with vivid coloration of WHY you deserve to have it all and more. Smile from your eyes, smile from your heart and smile from your soul inside. Priceless
How refreshing. Smiling releases healing endorphins which ready you for Emotional Exercise 4. Here are your instructions:
- Repeat Exercise 1 by refreshing your memory about the free-form word list that you wrote. You are only given three minutes for this part-look, review, and stop. Your three minutes are up.
- Next, take five minutes and read your WHY list that you wrote in Emotional Exercise 2. Five minute review, stop!
- Third, read your ONE value. It should be so ingrained in your being that you know, with an inner “I got this” knowing that you can recall your ONE value without paper. If you have to look it up or find it, go back to Emotional Exercise 3 and repeat until you are clear and definite about that ONE value that surpasses all others.
- New instruction – have a Walmart moment; match it! Match your one WHY with your ONE value and then write your goal using those words.
For example: my WHY is to feel and be healthy at a weight that supports longevity and my ONE value is self-respect. Therein, my goal statement is to exercise for at least 30 minutes a day and reach a pumping heart rate so that I will lose weight and reach a weight goal of 165 pounds which will strengthen my self-respect and heighten my peace of accomplishment.
Notice the words in my stated goal. You see action (exercise), you see a definite schedule (30 minutes a day), you see intensity (heart pumping heart rate), you see my end point (165 pounds) and you see how much I value self-respect and why (strengthen and heighten accomplishment). This goal is clear and strong in that I acknowledge that I already have high self-respect and peace within myself around this specific goal. Also, note that this is one goal – my value changes with each of my other goals. For instance, loving and being loved is the prime value in my relationship goal. This makes sense; each goal should carry a value specific to it.
→To complete Emotional Exercise 4 – write your value and goal statement that incorporates your WHY and ONE value that is definite, clear, meshes feelings with intent, and has an end point. That is what a goal is – it is a written statement and mental picture that is full of emotion that states what you want to achieve that is definite and has a point of closure. Match it! Line up these two things – what you value with your why – as a deliberate, absolute statement of intention that invests your deepest emotions and states a end point.
When all of this is synchronized and in harmony with your inner belief, you will see your choices and outlook radically change. A study of achievers prove that this formula — a true match of WHY and VALUE with a ending time frame — is what sets them apart from those who talk and are guided by fear.
Hint, you can probably guess what Emotional Exercise 5 might be. If not, and even if you can guess what it is, this closing exercise will seal your success, solidify your choices, and solve your recidivism. Gaming is over, only goals are ahead.
For now, go back to your quiet place after you have finished writing your statement and SMILE! Get to your happy spot because you are designing YOUR happiest life which constantly exercises and educates what is best for you.
You are loved!