Make a Mistake Right

created by Stuart Miles                                                                                    (graphic created by Stuart Miles)

Have you ever made a mistake?

Do you regret some mistake you’ve made? Of course. If you are breathing and not in denial, regardless of how long you have lived you have made mistakes and assuredly you have regrets about some of them. Threats to your confidence come and go, but you can change a threat into a treat! Find opportunity

Mistakes happen! That’s right, mistakes are a human frailty which are a consequence of the mind’s ability to make choices.  Humans are the only species on earth who have the capacity of thought and reason. Some choices are on target and others lead to mistakes. But, there are teaching moments and learning points even when you make a mistake. Don’t fret!

What you can do about it?

  1. Remind yourself that mistakes happen. Don’t beat yourself up and create negative energy around a happenstance mistake. Lingering in the fear of making a mistake is actually an act of self sabotage.
  2. Consider the mistake to be a right mistake. It could be a blessing in disguise.  The change precipitated by that choice could actually guide you to alternate options you would never have considered.  It’s quite possible for your new open-eyed view to lead you to an experience which is more beneficial; this regularly happens.
  3. Think about it. A right mistake usually prompts introspection. As is written in Climb Every Obstacle: Eliminate Your Limits!, mistakes magnify learning. If you take the time to graciously learn from your mistake, rather than ignoring it or being angry about it, you will begin to see its learning value.

Dig deep into the mistake.

BEWARE: If you are making mistakes that throw off your focus, skew your self-worth, damage another person, or create chaos – then what you are doing is probably not a mistake. Such behaviorism indicates fear. They even point to a deep sense of unworthiness.

Oprah columnist Martha Beck advises to be still in those moments. She says,“If we’re still enough to hear our own inner voices at this subtle, almost silent level, we tend to choose the course through life that feels most blessed and least traumatic.” Work that ego-centered pain out. Dig in, get an answer to the question why did this happen.

HALT. Stop before the distress starts. It’s unnecessary to beat yourself up. Instead, do something that diverts harmful emotions instantly. Don’t allow that pesky inner voice of past pain to ruin your true presence of goodness and goodwill.

Mistakes are a part of success. For one thing, they often improve your problem-solving skills. Those who avoid mistakes ultimately avoid success.

“The greatest mistake you can make is to be continuously fearing that you will make one.” ~Elbert Hubbard

Every right mistake has a right solution.

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Achieving Harmony: Step 1

Life balance experts cite five areas to achieve harmony: finances/career, spirituality/self care, relationships, health, and  fun/recreation.

Achieving harmony in your life is a process – a five step process we will explore together.  The first step is to examine your finances. You need to know where your money is, what it is used for, and how you spend money. “Debt is dumb,” says in your face financial guru Dave Ramsey.  He adds, “You are where you are right now financially as a sum total of the decisions you’ve made to this point.” But, don’t despair. Right now you are in a perfect position to make a financial change for the better.  Changing the way you think about money and how you spend money is the yellow brick road to harmonic wealth.

Financial Planning 101 – Achieving Harmony Step 1:

Reflect. Think about it, reflect. Ask what led you to make those mistakes in the first place. Was it job loss, divorce, impulsive spending? Make sure you know and understand what pulled you out of life balance so you don’t repeat those mistakes.

Get organized. Organize your bills and debts. Create a place to keep incoming bills. Pay your bills. Avoid late fees-make sure you send your check early so that it gets to the payer on time. Also it is a best practice to write down payments, check numbers and date sent so you will have a record in case a payment goes unrecorded. Put all payments in your finance ledger and balance that ledger against what payments are outstanding each and every month.

Plan. Tackle your debt!  You created the debt, now plan. Take time to establish a plan to pay off debts. Without an debt freedom action plan you darken your life. You want harmony, so be disciplined and plan harmonic wealth. Think about what you need to do here… figure out the most important debt to be paid off first, generate more income, spend less and save more money. That’s the simple formula for achieving harmony in your finances.  Set the plan and stick to it.

Save. You must save more than you spend. This is the truth!  Worrying about how you are going to pay your bills every month is misery. The best way to handle your financial life is to save.

Now is a perfect time to  is a time restore your financial balance, achieve harmony.

Reading List:

Total Money Makeover, Dave Ramsey

Your Life or Your Money: 9 Steps to Transforming Your Relationship with Money, Vicki Robin

Low Fee Socially Responsible Investing: Investing in your worldview on your terms, Tom Nowak

Treasure Map What You Want in 2013

Vision Board, Check Emotional Baggage

Vision Board, Check Emotional Baggage (Photo credit: deb roby)

Oprah Winfrey popularized the concept of a “Treasure Map.”

She devoted an entire hour of The Oprah Winfrey Show to the topic several years ago and the concept of creating a visual board of what you want skyrocketed. Although treasure mapping was not a new concept at the time, the practice exploded. Hoards of women and men and children around the globe began to create a visual collage of their goals for the future.

The results reported were astounding. Wave after wave of “treasure mappers” began recording achievement success, all attributed to their design a visual reminder of  what they wanted to accomplish in their life. Creating a treasure map is a very simple but effective idea: It involves creating a physical representation or collage of what you want to achieve that acts as a constant visual reminder and representation of your goals. Seeing daily the treasure map that you created intensifies the effects of visualization, which seals your intentions on your subconscious mind to motivate and encourage you towards achieving those goals.

Visualizing Goals on Paper.

A treasure map collage is a powerful goal attainment technique.  The reason it can be effective is that you identify exactly what you want for your life.  Treasure mapping is a creative image that you put on paper that shows what you desire and intend to work towards for a span of time.  Barbara  Laport has been using and teaching the process of goal design on collage, or treasure mapping, for more than twenty years.  She says, in her book Goal Achievement through Treasure Mapping, that this is one way to link vision with reality.

Treasure mapping is an effective goal design process.  It involves creating a physical, visual representation of your goals. You get to create this collage, which may be a work of art or a crude form of motivation for achievement.  Some treasure mappers are design conscious and some aren’t. The main point is not to spend too much energy on “beauty.” Rather spend your creative juice on the “bounty” of what you intend to achieve.

Key Treasure Mapping Step:

First of all, begin creating your treasure map when you are ready. You can create a treasure map anytime. It does not have to be completed New Year’s Day, although many use that date as a marker for their annual treasure map ritual. It’s up to you.  Start designing your goal collage when you are ready to craft your creative visual of your financial, personal, professional or material goals. That is when you begin.

  • The most important first step in creating your treasure map is to clearly know what you want to achieve. Your goals must be clarified at the beginning of the process.   Goal setting is the first pivot step in the process.
  • Next, you can begin to visualize what you want to happen once you have achieved your goals.

It is really that simple – know the goal(s) you want to achieve and then visualize the outcome. Dig into the details by asking questions about each goal: What do I want? What will I get when I achieve my goal? How does getting what I want feel? How will I celebrate?  Who will I be when this goal is attained? Catherine Ponder says the visualization of what you want to achieve is critical; she adds “this is when you open your mind to receive.”

Open your mind to receive

Think grandly, don’t minimize or settle for less than the boundless expanse of your goal.  Then, creatively design your goals and what you clearly visualize on paper. Keep in mind here, as you begin to set-up your treasure map vision board, to have order.  Make your vision board treasure map a clear road  map to success, not a chaotic mess of confusion. Clear design and clear outcome visualization make a huge difference.

You may look for inspiration in magazines or other print or online images that support the goal you want to achieve. For instance, if you have a goal of a vacation to Costa Rica, find pictures of scenery in Costa Rica. Your pictures must clearly represent that specific goal and not some vague longing. Another example might be a career or professional goal, then you need find exact pictures and motivational words that relate to your goal. If you want money, create a financial goal picture that clearly specifies the amount of money you want. The purpose is to see yourself there, to definitely see yourself achieving exactly what you want.

A treasure map captures your goal in vivid picture form on paper.   What you create will become your creative visualization of achievement.

Finish your treasure map vision board.

This may seem trivial, but often many fail to complete assignments that move them closer to their goal and thereby sabotage their ultimate achievement.  Keep working, clarify each goal and then add visual effects that inspire and  motivate your achievement. You may also add milestone markers along the way, depending on how sophisticated you want to get.

Get it done, create your goal intention masterpiece. You are the Picasso of your goals. Keep in mind, too, that if you later find an image that better captures your goal, add it in or replace a weaker image. It is perfectly fine to refine your treasure map throughout the year.

Treasure Map placement

Place your treasure map vision board in a prominent place. It is your reminder of the goals you want to achieve. Some achievers place their vision board on the refrigerator, others tape their treasure map on the bathroom mirror or place it in front of a mirror. You may wish to put your treasure map on your bedroom door. You make the choice of where you want to hang or place your treasure map; just make sure you see it every day as a prominent reminder of your goals for 2013.

Happy Treasure Mapping – collage your dreams!