The Roles We Play: 2 Ways to Shift Right Now

Do you give too much? Are you expected to “save the day” or be the shoulder to cry on? If so, you may be blocking not only your happiness but the maturity of responsibility in the other person that  is required by life in any relationship.  Overdoing levels of concern, or in other words becoming a doormat rescuer, is not happiness.  Living by purpose demands  balance – a reciprocity of sharing.

Dr. Robert Holden asks: Do you ever play “the giver” who only gives and never receives; or “the helper” who suppresses any personal needs; or “the independent one” who never asks for what they want; … or “the martyr” who cannot really give unconditionally because they do not really receive?

Honest review of these questions may be your pivot of change.

The roles we play ultimately become the binding roles that we accept.  Hidden within the play roles of “rescuer” or “giver” or “helper” or “independent one” or “martyr”  or a blend thereof is an internal desire to be wanted or know that you are wanted by someone. This unexamined inner longing imposes upon your preeminence. So, you must change roles.

There are two ways to shift roles that drain you or no longer serve your higher purpose now:

  1. Pay attention to how you respond in every relationship for a week. Write down the name of the person and the role you used while interacting with them. Be diligent here – every day for one week – identify the role you play with others.
  2. Next, categorize each role.  Look at how often you accept each role.  Now, add how do you feel after playing each role-this is difficult but necessary.

Once you objectively identify each role and which one you switch on and off to accommodate people in your life, you will start the engine of change.  The roles you play become so embedded and expected of you that pausing to examine the usefulness of these roles is not even not thought of as changeable.

But, change you must in order to find your your core identity.f

Know the roles that you play. Own up to and accept the roles that are positive and productive  in your life. Shift, release low performing, often toxic roles, and allow other people to claim their authentic responsibility by shifting your responses.

Live according to your known purpose -tend to your life seeds – and balance often your authenticity scales.

Care for others, care about others but care about yourself first.

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Miracle Monday

Monday Miracle

 

Every day contains opportunities, some call them miracles, so to stay in the spirit of expectation and action I have decided to concentrate on Monday miracles since it is an active means of attracting new bounties.

I ask you to join me in creating intentional Monday miracles. Here is the suggested process:

1. Wake up (regardless of the time of the day) and meditate. Wake up and feel alive. Take 10 minutes. Really get down deep into your internal awareness and meditate on what you want. Recommendation: CD: Meditation-Be Still by Barbara Faison (www.barbarafaison.com)
2. Come clean. Really clean up any lingering mess. Ask for forgiveness, forgive yourself and disallow negativity.  Then take the time to refresh your inner happiness; tap into your passion and enjoy the moments where you were funny, joyful, spiritually uplifted, attuned, in your natural zone of expression.
3. Quiet down. Take a few minutes on Mondays to quiet external noise and allow yourself to experience quiet peace.
4. Clear Your Focus. Clearly, vividly, expressly focus on ONE thing and only ONE thing every Monday. The next Monday you may choose to shift your focus to another thing or remain focused on what miracle you want to manifest.
5. See the end. See your finish point. Be in the scenery and experience all of the expressions that accompany embracing your Monday Miracle.

This process may require some practice for those who are beginning to Manifest on Mondays, but in a short time, with direct commitment, you will accelerate through these steps with ease and purpose.

Begin today…right now.
Manifest your Monday right now and let us know the result….Be well, be clear, and expect miracles.

FYI: My Monday miracle just occurred – I need to complete three more community project presentation for my Accredited Speaker application to Toastmasters International and received a call from someone today inviting me to speak on April 18th at the exact  company I had planned to contact and ask for the opportunity. This is miraculous!

I am thankful.

Tell us your Monday miracle, share the goodness in your life.

Monday Miracle: Attract One

 

Everyday contains opportunities, some call them miracles, but I have decided to concentrate on Monday miracles since it is an active means of attracting new bounties.

I ask you to join me in creating intentional Monday miracles. Here is the suggested process:

1. Wake up (regardless of the time of the day) and meditate. Wake up and feel alive. Take 10 minutes. Really get down deep into your internal awareness and meditate on what you want. Recommendation: CD: Meditation-Be Still by Barbara Faison (www.barbarafaison.com)
2. Come clean. Really clean up any lingering mess. Ask for forgiveness, forgive yourself and disallow negativity.  Then take the time to refresh your inner happiness; tap into your passion and enjoy the moments where you were funny, joyful, spiritually uplifted, attuned, in your natural zone of expression.
3. Quiet down. Take a few minutes on Mondays to quiet external noise and allow yourself to experience quiet peace.
4. Clear Your Focus. Clearly, vividly, expressly focus on ONE thing and only ONE thing every Monday. The next Monday you may choose to shift your focus to another thing or remain focused on what miracle you want to manifest.
5. See the end. See your finish point. Be in the scenery and experience all of the expressions that accompany embracing your Monday Miracle.

This process may require some practice for those who are beginning to Manifest on Mondays, but in a short time, with direct commitment, you will accelerate through these steps with ease and purpose.

Begin today…right now.
Manifest your Monday right now and let us know the result….Be well, be clear, and expect miracles.

 

Detox Your Mind

For a while I did not recognize that I was in a transition/clearing out phase. All I knew was that I felt unsettled and angry. Neither of these character traits belong to me so I began to explore the root of my dis-ease and found that I was toxic.

In spite of being careful about those whom I associated with, being a loving-giving person and having a quality family history, I discovered recessive toxicity.

The detox steps that I took included:

1.Isoloation. I had to isolate myself for cleansing and rejuvenation. The toxin parasites I had collected leeched not only my mind processing but also negatively impacted my energy level and health. Uncharacteristically, I have had four respiratory attacks in less than three months – something is definitely off here. My remedy is to undergo a cleansings where I only ate organic fruits and vegetables and drank plenty of water to flush my system of parasitic toxins.

2. Meter. I began to pay attention and meter test my energy around my associates. Yes,  even though all of them were unaware that they were being tested so that I could determine those who sizzled my toxic meter, I began to easily recognize persons, areas, and activities that elevated my toxic seeking sense. Those who pulsed my meter as toxic, I asked the universe to gently remove them away from my space.

The temptation I fought, ironically, was to want to take them back in spite of my truthful knowing doing so was not healthy. What I had to learn is that toxins contribute to chaos and thrives on the continuance thereof.  Dr. Claude Bristol asserts that toxins interfere with your subconscious power and robs you of the ability to function with higher reasoning.

3. Meditation. I began to read more and meditate with higher intensity. Obviously I needed to connect with internal spiritual answers which I could collect from my subconscious source.  Meditation, prayers and reading higher source material began to add refreshing energy into my absorbent mind.

I had to go higher and dig deeper and trust my subconscious promptings. Two books helped me to soar – Love and Power in A Limitless Word (Terry Cole Whitaker) slapped me in the face with the truth about myself and started me to heal. I slung that book away from me so many times that if it had been Humpty Dumpty, as reflected in my shattered self, I would have never re-gained equilibrium and complete fusion.  The second book – Life Shift (Aleta St. James) comforted me with a myriad of confirmations and affirmations.  Let me add here that reading my book, Climb Every Obstacle: Eliminate Your Limits added clarity and emphasis to my life change too.

Almost simultaneously, I began to practice deeper meditation using two CDs. First, Meditation: Your First Steps (Barbara Faison) and In the Garden with Mimi (Lee Williams) and began to ease my troubled, toxic  mind.

I had to detox and so should you.
Pause and check your emotional level and reactions in life. There is never anything to be ashamed of as you submit to this process and find real healing inner peace.