75 Questions: Day 31

There are 75 days before the start of a new Gregorian calendar year. So, for the next 44 days (Monday – Sunday) the blog postings will ask you one question. That question may inspire you, it may perplex you, it may anger you, or it may tickle you.  It’s about the real in you. The joyous intent of the 75 questions is to prompt a reaction, to get you to think beyond tradition or boundaries, and then get a truthful answer to the probe.

The overall intent of the 75 questions is to capture change. The questions are to be a catalyst for inner change that leaves you feeling more colorful, dynamic, powerful, intrigued, and authentic. When these healing emotions are opened up within you (they already exist), you change and your world changes and the whole world changes with you.

Post your answers, you will get a response to your replies and we will use these 75 questions to lift life as the year 2017 begins.

“Physical and spiritual illness can serve vital emotional and psychological needs. It can become an effective way of getting the attention one might not otherwise receive; it can ensure that one remain in a particular lifestyle or behavior pattern and avoid facing the chaos of change.” ~Carolyn Myss

Question 31: Are you healing?

 

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Tuesday Thought: Security

How secure are you?

This question may prompt you to think about what goes on in your mind. You may think “I am an idiot” after you make a mistake or you may hold grudges that indulge self-pity. Conversely, you may find it easy to celebrate success, yours or someone else’s. You may also readily accept responsibility for a mistake and use it to deepen your learning. The differences between the two sets of thought actions indicate your level of inner security.

“Mind is the master power that molds and makes and man is mind, and evermore he takes the tool of thought, and, shaping what he wills brings forth a thousand joys, a thousand ills. He thinks in secret, and it comes to pass. Environment is but his looking glass.”  ~James Allen

Who do you think you are?

Take a few minutes to reflect on this life pivot question. The value and esteem with which you honestly answer the question can track you to some hidden issues of debasement. Try this exercise:

I am _____________, _____________. __________ and I ____________. My life environment is _______________ and I enjoy _____________ of things about the manner that I live. My motto is _______________________________________________________________ and I take time to _________________ ___________, ______________, _________________ everyday.

Be Secure

Be Secure

NEXT: Write an affirmation for yourself (repeat this throughout the day)

LAST: How do you feel now that you have completed the three parts of this exercise?

Are you feeling more secure? Let us know what transformations occurred. Unlock your security, tell your story.

Miracle Monday

Every great dream begins with a dreamer.

Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.
~Harriet Tubman

You have within you the strength, patience and passion to change the world today.  Miracle Monday, or any day, is your opportunity to see a difference in not only your world, but to manifest a miracle that, by extension, changes the world.  You have that much power within your mind and soul.

Let’s put into practice manifesting a miracle.

1. Wake up (regardless of the time of the day) and meditate. Wake up and feel alive. Take 10 minutes. Really get down deep into your internal awareness and meditate on what you want. Recommendation: CDBeyond the Wall – Mark Romero (www.markromeromusic.com)
2. Come clean. Clean up any lingering mess, forgo anger or any other distress. Ask for forgiveness, forgive yourself and disallow negativity.  Then take the time to refresh your inner happiness; tap into your passion and enjoy the moments where you were funny, joyful, spiritually uplifted, attuned, in your natural zone of expression.
3. Quiet down. Take a few minutes on Mondays to quiet external noise and allow yourself to experience quiet peace.
4. Clear Your Focus. Clearly, vividly, expressly focus on ONE thing and only ONE thing every Monday. The next Monday you may choose to shift your focus to another thing or remain focused on what miracle you want to manifest.
5. See the end. See your finish point. Be in the scenery and experience all of the expressions that accompany embracing your Monday Miracle.

This process may require some practice for those who are beginning to Manifest on Mondays, but in a short time, with direct commitment, you will accelerate through these steps with ease and purpose.

Begin today…right now.
Manifest your Monday right now and let us know the result….Be well, be clear, and expect miracles.

 

Emotional Exercise 4

The happiest life is that which constantly exercises and educates what is best in us.    ~Hamerton

You have reached a pinpoint moment in your life by already completing Emotional Exercises 1, 2, and 3.  Really, I mean really, really feel good about doing the exercises.  Taking effective action and piercing your layers of socialization and emotional makeup is life altering.  But, we are not done yet, Emotional Exercise 4 is here.

But, before I begin the instructions for it, please sit in a quiet place with your feet on the floor and just smile. Smile deeply and feel the resonance of inner happiness and joy that knows you have begun to re-frame your emotions into a sacred personal picture/vision of who you are that is intimate with accurate and acute, deep feelings about what you passionately desire that is bordered with vivid coloration of WHY you deserve to have it all and more.  Smile from your eyes, smile from your heart and smile from your soul inside. Priceless

How refreshing.  Smiling releases healing endorphins which ready you for Emotional Exercise 4.  Here are your instructions:

  • Repeat Exercise 1 by refreshing your memory about the free-form word list that you wrote. You are only given three minutes for this part-look, review, and stop. Your three minutes are up.
  • Next, take five minutes and read your WHY list that you wrote in Emotional Exercise 2. Five minute review, stop!
  • Third, read your ONE value. It should be so ingrained in your being that you know, with an inner “I got this” knowing that you can recall your ONE value without paper.  If you have to look it up or find it, go back to Emotional Exercise 3 and repeat until you are clear and definite about that ONE value that surpasses all others.
  •  New instruction – have a Walmart moment; match it!  Match your one WHY with your ONE value and then write your goal using those words. 

For example: my WHY is to feel and be healthy at a weight that supports longevity and my ONE value is self-respect.  Therein, my goal statement is to exercise for at least 30 minutes a day and reach a pumping heart rate so that I will lose weight and reach a weight goal of 165 pounds which will strengthen my self-respect and heighten my peace of accomplishment.

Notice the words in my stated goal. You see action (exercise), you see a definite schedule (30 minutes a day), you see intensity (heart pumping heart rate), you see my end point (165 pounds) and you see how much I value self-respect and why (strengthen and heighten accomplishment).  This goal is clear and strong in that I acknowledge that I already have high self-respect and peace within myself around this specific goal.  Also, note that this is one goal – my value changes with each of my other goals. For instance, loving and being loved is the prime value in my relationship goal. This makes sense; each goal should carry a value specific to it.

→To complete Emotional Exercise 4 – write your value and goal statement that incorporates your WHY and ONE value that is definite, clear, meshes feelings with intent, and has an end point.  That is what a goal is – it is a written statement and mental picture that is full of emotion that states what you want to achieve that is definite and has a point of closure.   Match it! Line up these two things – what you value with your why – as a deliberate, absolute statement of intention that invests your deepest emotions and states a end point.

When all of this is synchronized and in harmony with your inner belief, you will see your choices and outlook radically change.  A study of achievers prove that this formula — a true match of WHY and VALUE with a ending time frame — is what sets them apart from those who talk and are guided by fear.

Hint, you can probably guess what Emotional Exercise 5 might be.  If not, and even if you can guess what it is, this closing exercise will seal your success, solidify your choices, and solve your recidivism.  Gaming is over, only goals are ahead.

For now, go back to your quiet place after you have finished writing your statement and SMILE! Get to your happy spot because you are designing YOUR happiest life which constantly exercises and educates what is best for you.

You are loved!

Emotional Exercise 3

Strength can only be developed by practice and effort. Emotional Exercise strengthens the mental  power vital to success.

 

By now you have completed Emotional Exercise 1 and Emotional Exercise 2. Congratulations-you have undertaken two mental power components that strengthen your purpose vitality.  It will be helpful, as we proceed to Emotional Exercise 3, to review both exercises again. Remind yourself of WHAT you want and WHY these wants are important/valuable to you.  The emotional linkage of the two is vital to conquering doubt and fear.  Reminder: re-reading or even re-doing either or both is perfectly fine. I have done this exercise three times already and tested it twice out on a diverse population sample in advance of posting it to you. Repetition is good, practice and effort strengthens.

Emotional Exercise 3: 

  • Take a look at the ten things listed in the column below:  Write ALL ten down on a separate piece of paper.
  1. Job and money
  2. religion/spirituality
  3. good health
  4. friends
  5. family
  6. independence/ability to make your own decisions
  7. self-respect
  8. being a loving person/being loved
  9. freedom
  10. good life/social parties/entertainment
  • Now, take away four of those from the list above. Just cross them out on your sheet of paper.
  • Next, take away four more. Cross out four more from the list.
  • Take away ONE more from the list.
  • STOP and look at the one thing you have left from the list. Really pause and see the word you have kept from your list.  This word is what you value and hold most precious.  This is your ONE THING that is sacred, soul-touching, most valuable to you in the present.

Write the ONE THING you have left on a separate piece of paper or page in your journal.  This is important because that ONE THING is your mental governor, the thing that you will do anything to protect and hold secure in your life.

  • Ask yourself – write down the answer here – am I making decisions and living the life that proves that this ONE THING is my lifeline, my purpose? Am I living on purpose – protecting what I MOST value right now?

I know this part of Emotional Exercise 3  is difficult, hard to use an inner scope of thought to see and feel the ONE thing that you value and then probe into how you are living to protect that ONE thing.  But, strength only comes with practice and effort.  Take the effort of clearly comprehend this ONE point of your POWER and TRIUMPH.  Once you inculcate this, you become a strong fortress.  Don’t hold back-make the effort. Identify what you are doing, or not doing, to strengthen your ONE THING. Write it all down, study this question over and over again. Over and over again, probe and study this question until it becomes a legitimate, honest true concentration of who you are; until it becomes an unarguable purpose that is only for you and only made for you and can only be done by you.  

This is heavy stuff, but your mental freedom depends on the effort and practice of cleaning up the dross and defining in clear detail the ONE THING for you.

  • Write your ONE THING on multiple pieces of paper – post it notes, stickys, index cards,  poster stock, color paper.
  • Place your ONE THING everywhere. In the bath mirror, on exit doors, in your wallet, on the desk, in a photo frame, as wallpaper on your computer, in OneNote; see it often.

We will continue with Emotional Exercise 4 later in the week. For now, do Exercise 3 with fortitude and grace; see and concentrate on your purposed ONE THING.

Thank you for the trust and work you have done in Emotional Exercise 3 and for the tolerance you have exhibited to get you here. Know your ONE THING or work harder and with purposeful effort to get to know your one thing. Once this is crystallized and deeply ingested, you are on the precipice of lasting change.

I purpose you goodness, be well.

Emotional Exercise 2

How do you feel now that you have completed Emotional Exercise 1?

When I finished my exercise yesterday, as we journey through behavioral change together, and the past two times I have completed Emotional Exercise 1, I felt so connected to my pure truth of self. It felt like a gentle cleansing that washed away anything unworthy of my highest intention. I felt then and now feel again so light, clean, and assured.  Taking time for introspection, which is where the words you wrote yesterday came from, is an initial step to increased self-recognition. It is a power move that strengthens and clarifies the inner essence of you.  The authentic you is someone who trusts and loves. The inner you is confident, fearless. The subconscious is instinctive, emotionally free.

Emotional Exercise 1 exposes your power. That exercise also reveals the ingrained emotional enemies that sabotage your authenticity, happiness, wisdom, power, attitude, achievement, and eventually the ultimate manifestation of your true purpose in life.  This is why I suggest that you repeat Emotional Exercise 1 often and pair it with the learning insight you will get from Emotional Exercise 2.

I discovered three times (from each time that I completed Emotional Exercise 1) that I had an internal conflict that must be resolved in order for me to share a whole, supportive relationship with my intended helpmate. I GET it now! But, until this was revealed to me and I was willing to accept the truth that showed up three times, my relationship behavior that would attract the man who would love and support me would not happen.  Even though I knew that my previous preparation for a helpmate indicated a shift, this time I believe because I went deeper into my heart energy and I also opened up more to allow stronger illumination so that I could see what change I needed to adopt, I clearly know now what and who to allow within the sacred  space of my heart.

“Our greatest enemies, the ones we must fight most often, are within.” ~Thomas Paine

Now that you are energized, light hearted, uplifted, and fearless about your future, let’s get into Emotional Exercise 2.

Assignment:

  • Open your page from Emotional Exercise 1 (that you wrote out free form yesterday) and quickly read your words.  Still, no judgment, no negative chatter about how ridiculous what you wrote sounds like while reading it today, NOTHING. True objectivity is required here.  Just read and absorb the inner promptings from Emotional Exercise 1.
  • Next, write on the back of your page – WHY. At the top of the opposite page that you wrote out Emotional Exercise 1, write in longhand again in a free form style the reasons WHY do you see yourself in such a whole, happy place six months from now.  Dig into the emotions of WHY you will change and what it means to you.

Again, do not belabor this, just write. Write. Write for  30 minutes.  Get into WHY.  Challenge your surface emotions and go deeper into more real, substantive reasons WHY you know you want this emotional and behavior change and knowingly attach the feelings with it.  Write and feel the feelings too.  Write, open up, flow with the words of justification and right emotions.  No judgment, no fear, no doubt.  Don’t linger or get impatient.

Emotional Exercise 2 tends to be tougher because you are asking yourself why do you deserve the exhilaration of being in Sedona, why you are excited about losing weight and getting your sexy whole self back. You are probing deep into WHY you deserve joy and happiness in whatever form these Emotional  Exercises reveal unto you.

Stay with it, write for only 30 minutes. Feel the lightness in your being. Attach the emotions to your achievement. Exercise your emotions. Write.

  • Stop. Write and put your pen down after you have reached my requested 30 minutes of writing time. I know it feels good to get it out, to let the pent-up reserved part of your subconscious emotions that you buried safely and deeply to avoid the superficial injuries of doubt, sabotage, ridicule, fear, or impossibility maim your true destiny and happiness become known and your strengthen your inner resolve. All good, but Rome was not built in a day and you will not resolve these deep pockets of shaded pain in one writing session.  Stop writing and rest in the emerging feeling of deserved happiness inside.
  • Feel deserving of ALL you desire and are purposed for. Feel the emotions of the exercise and rest. Let this marinate, absorb the power and freedom you feel.  Internalize the emotions. Inculcate deeply your vision of purposeful joy.  Touch your authentic self.

You are in charge of this new point of view. See the glorious horizons, feel the joy.

Exercise 3 will come to you next week. Right now and for the days until we get to Emotional Exercise 3 – feel the feelings of your emotions.   Feel the joy. See your horizons.  Smell the refreshing resonance of pure, refreshing change. Stay with these feelings – don’t bury them again. Let your feelings breathe and you breathe rare, mountaintop pure air of your authentic self.

Don’t let these emotions go. Attach yourself to the illumination and guided light into your near future.  You deserve every second of elation. You need the strength of this new found exhilaration. You must travel to and make the behavioral change of your intended glory.

Feel the feelings and grow.

I thank you for completing Emotional Exercise 2. Let me offer my highest gratitude and expectation that you will ingest the feelings and learning from both Emotional Exercise 1 and 2 into your permanent being.  Live in-joy.

Emotional Exercise 1

Most people fear change. No matter how much you are aware of and talk about making a change in your life usually because of the undercurrent of fear it is not done.

The intent of the Emotional Exercise that I will write about and the Assignment given is to push you beyond the limiting fear. You can rule the world. You can live your dreams. You can climb any obstacle. You can live the best life ever!

 You cannot talk yourself out of what you behave yourself into

Talk just will NOT do it. It takes emotional exercise (action) to change behavior. The reason why I am attaching emotion to exercise is because it takes the two together to modify behavior and outlook. One without the other is futile; exercise without emotion often becomes a faded dream that eventually dissipates into a vague longing which eventually becomes a mark of disappointment.  The pile on of one disappointment after another is the primary reason most people  just give up and retreat to just repetitive sad talk about change.

You can change and be a better person. You can change and connect without fear. You can have the emotional freedom you desire. It takes personal accountability, seeing and feeling your mind power, emotional energy, patience, and potent joy. 

Use Emotional Exercise to create new behavior

Your Emotional Exercise 1 for today:

  • Clear all, I really mean ALL distractions for 30 minutes. No computer, no cell phone, no telephone, no handheld device, no smartphone, no email, no television-NOTHING for 30 minutes.  If you find you are having difficulty doing this for 30 minutes – leave the page. You do not want to change. You are not ready to change. More power to you.  But, if you are willing to invest 30 minutes to refine a new you, then take the next step.
  • Get a piece of paper or go to a clean page in your journal. Write. That’s all you are required to do for thirty minutes. Write free-form, no editing, no thinking about polite words, put your sanitized mind to rest for 30 minutes and just write in random form whatever comes to your mind.  Write everything, anything you want to write.

Write in longhand a stream of consciousness musing. Write what is in your mind. No filters. No judgment. No wrong or right words. Just write words. Describe you. Write.

  • Breathe. Write and breathe in the freshness of putting onto paper everything you can imagine about you, your life, your outcomes, your behavior for the next six months to a year

Take deep breaths, let the words you are writing go deep within-no judgement, no cynicism,  no doubt or fear. Just breathe in refreshing, restorative air and write for 30 minutes.

  • Feel your words. No judgment, no doubt, no reservations here. JUST FEEL! No censors.
  • Stop. When you have reached 30 minutes – STOP. Be disciplined here-stop. Fold your paper and put it away. Do NOT read what you wrote. Fold your page in the journal or fold the sheet of paper you wrote on and put it away. No discussion. Nothing. File your page away in a safe place where only you will see it when you get to Emotional Exercise 2.
  • You are done for the day – feel good about that!

This first imprint Emotional Exercise is complete. It is your pivot step to behavior change.

I am proud of what you have done today.  Look for Emotional Exercise 2 tomorrow. We will build upon this exercise to strengthen your behavior change.

Thank you for your trust and inner courage.