75 Questions: Day 50

When this 75 Questions series began, there were 75 days before the glittery start of a new Gregorian calendar year. So, for the next 25 days (Monday – Sunday) the blog postings will ask you one question. That question may inspire you, it may perplex you, it may anger you, or it may tickle you.  It’s about the dharma in you.

The intent of the 75 questions is to probe, to prompt a reaction, to get you to stretch, to press beyond tradition or boundaries, to think broader, to break free and then give a thoughtful answer to the question. Truly, it is to release the “Elephant” in your mind. To get to an epiphany.

elephantfrom Quan Jewelry

The overall intent of the 75 questions is to capture change. The questions are to be a catalyst for inner change that leaves you feeling more dynamic, safe, powerful, intrigued, and authentic. You are powerful. You have the courage and strength to grow and change.

When these amazing emotions are opened up within you (they already exist), you change and your world changes and the whole world changes with you.

Question 50: What is the elephant in your mind?

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Monday Miracle: Moxie

You’ve got moxie, the ability to succeed.  Power, courage, roots, determination, strength, spirit, creativity – you have all of these traits, and more, embedded in the fiber of your beings. Your DNA is composed of moxie. Actually, you are moxie.

When you think of yourself as moxie, you will climb every obstacle.  You will eliminate your limits. Moxie people find a way out of no way, they never settle with half-finished work. Moxie winners toll and strive and sacrifice until they heave a herculean weight; power moxie believers complete the task.

MOXIE POWER

Up your moxie power.

That is it-moxie people believe.  Most people have short-sighted belief; they earnestly pursue a goal until someone tells them they are “crazy” for even thinking they can play professional basketball when they are only 5’6 inches tall. But, moxie man Charlie Criss ignored naysayers and joined 6’6 giants on the basketball court.  A 28-year-old Criss became, in the words of Sports Illustrated, “the NBA’s smallest player and oldest rookie” when he joined the Atlanta Hawks as guard.

Mamie “Peanut” Johnson still has plenty of moxie. Author Michelle Y. Green, in her book, A Strong Right Arm, tells the courageous story of the first African American female baseball player. In a tribute to her, the National Baseball Hall of Fame writer Emily Voss says, “In the late 1940s, she wanted to join the All-American Girls Professional Baseball League, and assumed that because Jackie Robinson had broken barriers in the major leagues, the AAGPBL would welcome black players too. The AAGPBL refused to let her try out, but Johnson came away more determined than ever to play ball.”

Moxie Matthew Webb became the first to make the crossing without the aid of artificial buoyancy. His first attempt ended in failure, but on August 25, 1875, he started from Admiralty Pier in Dover and made the crossing in 21 hours and 45 minutes, despite challenging tides (which delayed him for 5 hours) and a jellyfish sting.

Zhang Xin, this young moxie woman was a former factory worker,  Zhang is CEO of Beijing’s largest commercial real estate developer, regularly featured on lists like Forbes magazine’s “World’s Most Powerful Women” and “Top Ten Billionaire Women We Admire” is renowned for her commitment to justice, equality and ethical business.

CNN Hero of the Year for 2013, Chad Pregracke, has the moxie to clean rivers and waterways of debris. After removing over 67,000 tires from rivers, he says find a cause, take action. Be moxie.

Moxie believers are unstoppable.  They all evince power, courage, determination, strength, spirit, creativity. Therefore, heritage, ethnicity, gender, intellect, age, education, health, wealth, weight, environment or any perceived obstacle can never be a success barrier – moxie prevails.

Self-belief can stand alone.

You’ve got moxie-you are moxie. Never stop.

Aimee Copeland: I Love Life

Aimee Copeland

The homemade poster that Aimee holds says it all

Aimee Copeland, the young woman from Snellville, Georgia, who lost her hands, both feet and her entire right leg to flesh-eating bacteria last spring, embraced life and sent a powerful message of indomitable strength when she walked using a walker for the first time in front of millions on the Katie Couric show.

Tears flowed throughout the audience, but not from Aimee as she beamed and walked with a steady determination toward Couric. During her interview on the show, she talked with vigor about living and about her dreams for the future as an amputee saying “I love life. It’s a beautiful thing… even more so now.”

“My senses are so deepened,” she said. “Everything smells better. Everything is more vibrant, more beautiful.” Everything sparkles, like her eyes, in her new world. Copeland, 24, cut open her right leg falling from a zip line near the Tallapoosa River amazingly only four months ago. She has come so far; her spirits and determination to live has soared.

America loves Aimee, the world loves Aimee and she loves life. Home builders in Georgia built a complete annex onto her parent’s home for her that has everything she needs to grow her independence and Katie surprised Aimee with a new van, donated by a Georgia Chevrolet dealer, that will get her further down the road of life. She is amazing, her outlook is amazing. Her smile and her spirit is amazing.

Don’t call Aimee “disabled.” She is learning to use her “nubs” instead of adaptive equipment, attested by the medical staff at The Shepherd Rehabilitation Center in Atlanta.

She said what she has eclipses what she lost last spring.

Emotional Exercise 1

Most people fear change. No matter how much you are aware of and talk about making a change in your life usually because of the undercurrent of fear it is not done.

The intent of the Emotional Exercise that I will write about and the Assignment given is to push you beyond the limiting fear. You can rule the world. You can live your dreams. You can climb any obstacle. You can live the best life ever!

 You cannot talk yourself out of what you behave yourself into

Talk just will NOT do it. It takes emotional exercise (action) to change behavior. The reason why I am attaching emotion to exercise is because it takes the two together to modify behavior and outlook. One without the other is futile; exercise without emotion often becomes a faded dream that eventually dissipates into a vague longing which eventually becomes a mark of disappointment.  The pile on of one disappointment after another is the primary reason most people  just give up and retreat to just repetitive sad talk about change.

You can change and be a better person. You can change and connect without fear. You can have the emotional freedom you desire. It takes personal accountability, seeing and feeling your mind power, emotional energy, patience, and potent joy. 

Use Emotional Exercise to create new behavior

Your Emotional Exercise 1 for today:

  • Clear all, I really mean ALL distractions for 30 minutes. No computer, no cell phone, no telephone, no handheld device, no smartphone, no email, no television-NOTHING for 30 minutes.  If you find you are having difficulty doing this for 30 minutes – leave the page. You do not want to change. You are not ready to change. More power to you.  But, if you are willing to invest 30 minutes to refine a new you, then take the next step.
  • Get a piece of paper or go to a clean page in your journal. Write. That’s all you are required to do for thirty minutes. Write free-form, no editing, no thinking about polite words, put your sanitized mind to rest for 30 minutes and just write in random form whatever comes to your mind.  Write everything, anything you want to write.

Write in longhand a stream of consciousness musing. Write what is in your mind. No filters. No judgment. No wrong or right words. Just write words. Describe you. Write.

  • Breathe. Write and breathe in the freshness of putting onto paper everything you can imagine about you, your life, your outcomes, your behavior for the next six months to a year

Take deep breaths, let the words you are writing go deep within-no judgement, no cynicism,  no doubt or fear. Just breathe in refreshing, restorative air and write for 30 minutes.

  • Feel your words. No judgment, no doubt, no reservations here. JUST FEEL! No censors.
  • Stop. When you have reached 30 minutes – STOP. Be disciplined here-stop. Fold your paper and put it away. Do NOT read what you wrote. Fold your page in the journal or fold the sheet of paper you wrote on and put it away. No discussion. Nothing. File your page away in a safe place where only you will see it when you get to Emotional Exercise 2.
  • You are done for the day – feel good about that!

This first imprint Emotional Exercise is complete. It is your pivot step to behavior change.

I am proud of what you have done today.  Look for Emotional Exercise 2 tomorrow. We will build upon this exercise to strengthen your behavior change.

Thank you for your trust and inner courage.