Monday Miracle: Finality

Success demands finality. Progress is determined by completion. Thus, progressive success is predicated upon finishing.  Equivocation, sitting on the fence does not bring closure.

Closure comes from finality. Making a final decision, checking off your lists of tasks, clearing clutter miraculously bridges the divide between getting things done with final flair or remaining in a vacillating vacuum.  Closure fights fear-you’ve done it. That final resolution, regardless of how painful or muddled the situation was, is a triumph that is stored in your soul and cannot be taken away.

Professor Hossein Arsham believes that “decisions are at the heart of leader success, and at times there are critical moments when they can be difficult, perplexing, and nerve-racking. However, the boldest decisions are the safest.”


Finality is stimulating and is safe.  The more you finish, the more you will finish. Getting things done by reaching a final decision is restorative. Many people use vacillation or procrastination because they are afraid.

The what if? questions prompts wavering and doubt. Delaying decisions will only delay your peace of mind. Once you have made a final choice, that is done and over with-FINALLY! Keep your peace, make a decision and release fear and doubt.

Here is a tip to reach a final decision:

  • Play out the “what if?” scenario for a block of time. Make a decision tree. Decision-making experts say that this exercise can take from 15 minutes to a 1/2 day to multiple days depending on the complexity of the problem you are considering. Regardless of time frame, you will conclude with a final decision.

Finality is a breath of relief. Breathe deep, make a decision. Oh what a relief it is.



Monday Miracle: Patience

Today’s culture is fast-paced, full of cell phone transmissions, text messages, Facebook postings, Instagram notices, and Twitter tweets. Frenzy, even multiple smart phones is understood as normal.  Even so, patience is valuable.

Not everything should be instant. Patient deliberations are necessary, even in a frenetic fast-paced world.  Aresenio Hall, in a recent interview with Oprah on her OWN network, told Oprah that it took five years before a network accepted his “comeback” show idea for his late night talk show. He persistently shopped his idea to various networks and sought council from close friends such as Magic Johnson, Jay Leno, David Letterman to get their insight and confirmations.

Five years-that’s patience. Patience implies an intentional act of slowing down to consider options.  Consulting and deliberating is a mantra of success. Haste oftentimes leads to muddled disaster. Sure, it is correct to ponder and think about approaching decisions but over-thinking can also precipitate disaster. Success is a blend of patience and persistence.

Persistent patience is a virtue. What this means is that while you are deliberating or consulting with others whom you trust about an issue you are also plotting the needed steps to conclude with getting what you want.

Use discernment to your advantage. If you have a network of colleagues, friends and peers you can talk to-do so. If not, consider getting a mentor or being a part of a mastermind group. This way, you can bounce ideas, clarify your goal, and solicit the support you need to succeed. Neither of these steps are instant matters, patience is required but because of your diligence and persistence you will engage door-opening opportunities that would not have happened without patience.

Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.
~Napoleon Hill

Slow down, practice persistent patience.  Strengthen your capacity, diligently work-sweat a little. Think, think and think some more as you plot your actions. Oftentimes knowing that others believe you are capable of fulfilling your goal gives you the encouragement needed to embrace all of the stimulating growth challenges ahead.

Patience may prolong a decision, but the answer is solid.