75 Questions: Day 14

There are 75 days before the start of a new Gregorian calendar year. So, for the next 62 days (Monday – Sunday) the blog postings will ask you one question. That question may inspire you, it may perplex you, it may anger you, or it may tickle you. The whole thrust of the 75 questions is to prompt a reaction and honest answer to the probe.

The honored intent of the 75 questions is to capture change. The questions are to be a catalyst for inner change that leaves you feeling more dynamic, powerful, intrigued, and authentic. When these salient emotions are opened up within you (they already exist), you change and your world changes and the whole world changes with you.

Post your answers, you will get a response to your replies and we will use these 75 questions to lift life as the year 2017 begins.

Do you pray?

What Do You Expect?

What do you expect? Really, what DO you expect to happen in your life? The answer to this question can be the pivot for changes in your expectations. Do you expect life to work for you or against you? Do you expect to get what you want or do you expect threats that fight against your success?

Do you expect the opportunities of the world or do you expect bird-droppings?


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I anticipate that most people will say they expect to get what they want, but is that a consistent truth? Or, do you think doom when faced with obstacles that challenge your confidence or comfort? Let’s probe deeper to find the  internal attitude base of your expectations.  Our first step is to consider your first thoughts while reading two scenarios. Note your feelings and inner thoughts to these scenarios:

Scenario One:

You receive a phone call or get a letter that appears threatening and you begin to create mind ideas that there is a problem. As you replay the tone of the call or look at the return address on the envelope, you feel dread. Your mind tells you that this mess always happens to me. You feel threatened and get set to fight whatever comes since this is not “new” to you; there is always something you have to be on guard against such as possible rejection, complaints, or useless demands.  Here we go again is a primary response to the call or official looking letter.

Scenario Two:

You get the phone call of a lifetime or the letter is just what you are expecting. This call or letter portends to make this an exciting day; no problems.  You feel confident and assured whatever the person has to say, you know you can handle the demands that the letter may require. Whatever, whenever – it does not disturb you. You are ready to handle what comes your way, you do not feel threatened nor is your positive resolve to manage the outcome disturbed.

Which is your usual reaction when faced with different scenarios? Do you stoke the flame of dumping doubt and personalize problems or do you know that you can handle what may come regardless of what happens and invite new opportunities?

Truth be told, behavioral researchers say that most people react with the mindset that the world is against them or dumping on them far more than feel in control a majority of the time. “When the going get tough most folks think the world is against them. Listen to the backstabbing and complaining,” says Rhonda Britten.

Warning: What you expect is usually what you get

To paraphrase a song by The Dramatics, What you expect is what you get. Now that you have examined your expectation if confronted with the two different scenarios, the obvious next question is how do I change or further deepen my positive expectation responses?

  1. Anticipate outcomes that are favorable. Adopt the attitude that you can handle whatever comes your way. This first response reaction to bad news or potential problems signal that you have an inner confidence and background experience to manage life. It is not that you do not acknowledge that there could be hidden difficulties, of course there may be, but you know within that you can and will move beyond onto something else soon.
  2. Feel faith rather than fear. Faith is the presence of ability to move into a positive zone.  Fear is the absence of faith in the moment to re-frame initial negative cautionary reaction to protect yourself from threat.  A simple immediate change in perspective is the shift needed to flee fear and embrace faith in your knowledge, rich experiences, and ability.
  3. Greet each new experience with gratitude.  Rhonda Britten adds in her book, Change Your Life in 30 Days, “Gratitude is the first essential step to claim the innocence needed to see the world is for you…Gratitude cures the jaded, overprotective, and defended heart. Gratitude helps you see that the world is for you.”
  4. Accept a new truth – expect good and goodness.  Expect good, expect that you are more than capable, expect the operation of faith.

What you expect is what you get. What you see is what you get. What you feel  is what you get. You might as well expect, see and feel good-that is what you will get.

BE Thankful

“Be generous in prosperity and thankful in adversity.

Be worthy of the trust of thy neighbor and look upon him with a bright and friendly face.

Be a treasure of the poor, an admonisher to the rich, an answerer of the cry of the needy…

Be unjust to no man.

Be as a lamp unto them that walk in darkness,

Be a home for the stranger…

Be eyes to the blind….”


Fantastic Friday

What a day to celebrate – today is the day of one.  11-11-11 all ones that equal 1. One you, One God, One Faith, One humanity, One love, One grace, One focus, One family, One heart, One grace, One expectation….

Make your own One …. declaration. One ?


Today I want to highlight a concept for Fantastic Friday.  11 Alive News (www.11alive.com), a local television station in Atlanta, is celebrating what is fantastic, fabulous, and factitive about sharing and giving goodness from the heart.   The news takes a new twist at this station; instead of all gloom, fear and death, they are championing what is good that children and young people do to make this world a better place.

“It’s a movement meant to have a positive impact on people’s lives every day.”  Add to the Chain, using the example of Rachel Scott,  the first person killed at Columbine High School on April 20, 1999 is linking up Georgians all across the state. Her acts of kindness and compassion coupled with the contents of her six diaries have become the foundation for Rachel’s Challenge, is Georgia’s response of trans-formative positive impact.

Schools and businesses and people from across Georgia   volunteered time, contributed creative solutions and took an active part in giving that added to the chain of kindness. One random act from the heart makes a difference.

I plan to join the thousands of celeebrants at the Georgia Dome today for the culmination of  this year of service,  kindness and thoughtfulness and bask in the prominence of happiness and joy so that I have an indelible imprint to carry forward.

Don’t stop! It does not matter where you are in the world, keep the chain of kindness going.

Make a fantastic contribution of positive sharing today and everyday.  As six year old Zalissa Lomax of Gainesville, Georgia knows,  “just a smile can change something, and that’s never too small of an act of kindness.”

Recommended Reading: One Simple Act: Discovering the Power of Generosity Debbie Macomber, Howard Books, 2009

You are fantastic, be fantastic and give what is fantastic in you.

Happy Friday!

Favorite Friday

Each Friday this post will include something favorite. It may be an inspiring story about a hero, like today, or a favorite poem or joke. The main theme is to inspire happiness, to honor kindness, to solicit a heart response, or fuel a spark of inspiration.

CNN Hero Narayanan Krishman:

He was set for wealth, free from hunger and poverty as an award-winning chef with a five-star hotel group. But, according to CNN, a quick family visit home before heading to Europe changed everything.

“I saw a very old man eating his own human waste for food,” Krishnan said. “It really hurt me so much.  After that, I started feeding that man and decided this is what I should do the rest of my lifetime.”

Krishnan was visiting a temple in the south Indian city of Madurai in 2002 when he saw the man under a bridge. Haunted by the image, Krishnan quit his job within the week and returned home for good, convinced of his new destiny.

“That spark and that inspiration is a driving force still inside me as a flame — to serve all the mentally ill destitutes and people who cannot take care of themselves,” Krishnan said.

Krishnan founded his nonprofit Akshaya Trust in 2003. Now 29, he has served more than 1.2 million meals — breakfast, lunch and dinner — to India’s homeless and destitute, mostly elderly people abandoned by their families and often abused.


Choose to live and give

“Don’t speak to me about your religion; first show it to me in how you treat other people.
Don’t tell me how much you love your God; show me in how much you love all His children.
Don’t preach to me your passion for your faith; teach me through your compassion for your neighbors.
In the end, I’m not as interested in what you have to tell or sell as I am in how you choose to live and give.”
   ~ Cory BookerMayor of Newark, N.J.