Emotional Exercise 4

The happiest life is that which constantly exercises and educates what is best in us.    ~Hamerton

You have reached a pinpoint moment in your life by already completing Emotional Exercises 1, 2, and 3.  Really, I mean really, really feel good about doing the exercises.  Taking effective action and piercing your layers of socialization and emotional makeup is life altering.  But, we are not done yet, Emotional Exercise 4 is here.

But, before I begin the instructions for it, please sit in a quiet place with your feet on the floor and just smile. Smile deeply and feel the resonance of inner happiness and joy that knows you have begun to re-frame your emotions into a sacred personal picture/vision of who you are that is intimate with accurate and acute, deep feelings about what you passionately desire that is bordered with vivid coloration of WHY you deserve to have it all and more.  Smile from your eyes, smile from your heart and smile from your soul inside. Priceless

How refreshing.  Smiling releases healing endorphins which ready you for Emotional Exercise 4.  Here are your instructions:

  • Repeat Exercise 1 by refreshing your memory about the free-form word list that you wrote. You are only given three minutes for this part-look, review, and stop. Your three minutes are up.
  • Next, take five minutes and read your WHY list that you wrote in Emotional Exercise 2. Five minute review, stop!
  • Third, read your ONE value. It should be so ingrained in your being that you know, with an inner “I got this” knowing that you can recall your ONE value without paper.  If you have to look it up or find it, go back to Emotional Exercise 3 and repeat until you are clear and definite about that ONE value that surpasses all others.
  •  New instruction – have a Walmart moment; match it!  Match your one WHY with your ONE value and then write your goal using those words. 

For example: my WHY is to feel and be healthy at a weight that supports longevity and my ONE value is self-respect.  Therein, my goal statement is to exercise for at least 30 minutes a day and reach a pumping heart rate so that I will lose weight and reach a weight goal of 165 pounds which will strengthen my self-respect and heighten my peace of accomplishment.

Notice the words in my stated goal. You see action (exercise), you see a definite schedule (30 minutes a day), you see intensity (heart pumping heart rate), you see my end point (165 pounds) and you see how much I value self-respect and why (strengthen and heighten accomplishment).  This goal is clear and strong in that I acknowledge that I already have high self-respect and peace within myself around this specific goal.  Also, note that this is one goal – my value changes with each of my other goals. For instance, loving and being loved is the prime value in my relationship goal. This makes sense; each goal should carry a value specific to it.

→To complete Emotional Exercise 4 – write your value and goal statement that incorporates your WHY and ONE value that is definite, clear, meshes feelings with intent, and has an end point.  That is what a goal is – it is a written statement and mental picture that is full of emotion that states what you want to achieve that is definite and has a point of closure.   Match it! Line up these two things – what you value with your why – as a deliberate, absolute statement of intention that invests your deepest emotions and states a end point.

When all of this is synchronized and in harmony with your inner belief, you will see your choices and outlook radically change.  A study of achievers prove that this formula — a true match of WHY and VALUE with a ending time frame — is what sets them apart from those who talk and are guided by fear.

Hint, you can probably guess what Emotional Exercise 5 might be.  If not, and even if you can guess what it is, this closing exercise will seal your success, solidify your choices, and solve your recidivism.  Gaming is over, only goals are ahead.

For now, go back to your quiet place after you have finished writing your statement and SMILE! Get to your happy spot because you are designing YOUR happiest life which constantly exercises and educates what is best for you.

You are loved!

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New Year, New Achievement

How do you end a calendar marker such as 31 December and ready for the New Year? There are as many traditions, resolutions, or starts as there are people who pledge to makes changes in their lives starting when…you know the famous last word “tomorrow.”

Whatever you decide to change in the New Year, make your achievement intention realistic. Once you have decided what change(s) you intend to achieve, firm up your resolve.  Claude Bristol in The Magic of Believing this point of view “You are the product of your own thought. What you believe yourself to be, you are.”  Make your resolve believable then it is achievable.

One such timeless resolution, which I have stated and carried with me for the past four years, is to lose weight. Even though I did achieve most of the other resolution plans I had made in the past four years, weight loss has eluded me. I have written the books, earned more money, shed weighty relationships, and completed the Peachtree Road Race for seven years straight. That’s great, but weight loss is tougher for me because in my mind i still carry the “weight” of past misery and poor self image. The purpose for losing weight is not as primary as completing the Peachtree Road Race which I do in memory of my deceased brother who ran the Race for sixteen years. Weight loss obviously is not a powerful as writing books for I have published six books now, including Climb Every Obstacle: Eliminate Your Limits!

Still my weight gain over the years proved to be a regression. So, this year instead of making weight my resolution issue, I have decided to attract support in this area by applying to be a candidate on the television show What Not to Wear which will canonize a more palatable real need and that is to feel good about myself. The weight is a symptom of a combination of issues that I first needed to acknowledge and now resolve using a positive, embracing plan. I have also enlisted a paid support partner to hold me accountable and I have devoured The South Beach Diet and Geneen Roth’s book, Women, Food and God plus I have just received from Amazon a copy of A Course in Weight Loss by my favorite author, Marianne Williamson.

In addition to my reading stockpile on weight loss and self belief, I have purchased an annual gym membership at Bally Fitness. It appears that it will take this much effort on my part to inculcate new beliefs and new resolve for the New Year.

The other intention that I have for this year is to continue my Law of Attraction MeetUp group. This is an ancillary support session that augments this overall express of feeling good to manifest exactly what I want.

You too can manifest/achieve ANYTHING you want to do with a clear focus, laser intention, and positive affirmations of the change(s) that benefit you and ultimately humanity. One tip is to: create a vision board, take a snapshot of it and use it as your screen saver or create an online vision board at Oprah.com.

A healed and healthy you changes the universe.

We are more than a universe of one. Others, like me, need you to show up and achieve your BEST life now!

Tell me what your achievement resolutions are?

Send me a note by January 4th and I will send you a gift.

Happy New Year. My motto: I am noble healthy and fit woman.

Who are you?