It’s Time to Sing A Song

Sing a song. Today everybody can sing out loud and in  your soul a song that signifies  the character and strength to effect change that is within you.

Together we can sing a song, a uni-verse (a one word verse) that shifts your consciousness and heals the world.  It is time to sing a uni-verse for the universe.

“Praise and bless everything in the world, and you will dissolve negativity and discord and align yourself with the highest frequency-love.”  ~The Secret

Your uni-verse (one word verse) may include:

  • Peace
  • Love
  • Happiness
  • Gratitude
  • Unity
  • Diversity
  • Equality
  • Encouragement
  • Sensitivity
  • Change
  • Harmony

Sing any word (a uni-verse) that dispels hurt, pain, war, discord. Let that word change you and the world today. It is time to sing!

Sing.

 

Do You Know What Day It Is?

According to the GEICO camel, it’s Hump Day. Love that commercial, the camel is strutting through an office, asking workers do they know what day it is and then telling them with emphasis and rhythmic enthusiasm that Wednesday is hump day.

The Urban Dictionary denotes hump day as “the middle of a work week (Wednesday); used in the context of climbing a proverbial hill to get through a tough week.” You too can get your hump day rhythm today in spite of how many obstacles you’ve side stepped the past two days.

Hump Day motivation-Week 1:

  • Pause and send someone a short note of gratitude. Express with kind, professional words how they inspire or educate you so that you can do your job.
  • Send a hand written written note, that you post in the mail, to someone who is not affiliated with your job, telling them why you are grateful they are a part of your life.

Taking a small break from the Wednesday grind by thinking about others and sharing a note of gratitude with someone else allows you to reflect and put the week or situation in perspective. Make the day yours, express your gratitude.

“At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.”  ~Albert Schweitzer

True You

“I’m loved, I’m valued, and I’m capable of achieving balance in my life.

I can learn to eat well.  I can exercise. I can express gratitude for the simple act of being able to breathe in and breathe out.

I can move away from darkness and depression to light and hope.

I can be happy with who I am, not what I should be, or what I might have been, or what someone tells me I must be.

I am me, the true me;

you are you, the true you- and that’s good. That’s beautiful. That’s enough.”

                                              ~Janet Jackson True You (starting on page 151)

 

BE Thankful

“Be generous in prosperity and thankful in adversity.

Be worthy of the trust of thy neighbor and look upon him with a bright and friendly face.

Be a treasure of the poor, an admonisher to the rich, an answerer of the cry of the needy…

Be unjust to no man.

Be as a lamp unto them that walk in darkness,

Be a home for the stranger…

Be eyes to the blind….”

~Baha’u’llah

Emotional Exercise 2

How do you feel now that you have completed Emotional Exercise 1?

When I finished my exercise yesterday, as we journey through behavioral change together, and the past two times I have completed Emotional Exercise 1, I felt so connected to my pure truth of self. It felt like a gentle cleansing that washed away anything unworthy of my highest intention. I felt then and now feel again so light, clean, and assured.  Taking time for introspection, which is where the words you wrote yesterday came from, is an initial step to increased self-recognition. It is a power move that strengthens and clarifies the inner essence of you.  The authentic you is someone who trusts and loves. The inner you is confident, fearless. The subconscious is instinctive, emotionally free.

Emotional Exercise 1 exposes your power. That exercise also reveals the ingrained emotional enemies that sabotage your authenticity, happiness, wisdom, power, attitude, achievement, and eventually the ultimate manifestation of your true purpose in life.  This is why I suggest that you repeat Emotional Exercise 1 often and pair it with the learning insight you will get from Emotional Exercise 2.

I discovered three times (from each time that I completed Emotional Exercise 1) that I had an internal conflict that must be resolved in order for me to share a whole, supportive relationship with my intended helpmate. I GET it now! But, until this was revealed to me and I was willing to accept the truth that showed up three times, my relationship behavior that would attract the man who would love and support me would not happen.  Even though I knew that my previous preparation for a helpmate indicated a shift, this time I believe because I went deeper into my heart energy and I also opened up more to allow stronger illumination so that I could see what change I needed to adopt, I clearly know now what and who to allow within the sacred  space of my heart.

“Our greatest enemies, the ones we must fight most often, are within.” ~Thomas Paine

Now that you are energized, light hearted, uplifted, and fearless about your future, let’s get into Emotional Exercise 2.

Assignment:

  • Open your page from Emotional Exercise 1 (that you wrote out free form yesterday) and quickly read your words.  Still, no judgment, no negative chatter about how ridiculous what you wrote sounds like while reading it today, NOTHING. True objectivity is required here.  Just read and absorb the inner promptings from Emotional Exercise 1.
  • Next, write on the back of your page – WHY. At the top of the opposite page that you wrote out Emotional Exercise 1, write in longhand again in a free form style the reasons WHY do you see yourself in such a whole, happy place six months from now.  Dig into the emotions of WHY you will change and what it means to you.

Again, do not belabor this, just write. Write. Write for  30 minutes.  Get into WHY.  Challenge your surface emotions and go deeper into more real, substantive reasons WHY you know you want this emotional and behavior change and knowingly attach the feelings with it.  Write and feel the feelings too.  Write, open up, flow with the words of justification and right emotions.  No judgment, no fear, no doubt.  Don’t linger or get impatient.

Emotional Exercise 2 tends to be tougher because you are asking yourself why do you deserve the exhilaration of being in Sedona, why you are excited about losing weight and getting your sexy whole self back. You are probing deep into WHY you deserve joy and happiness in whatever form these Emotional  Exercises reveal unto you.

Stay with it, write for only 30 minutes. Feel the lightness in your being. Attach the emotions to your achievement. Exercise your emotions. Write.

  • Stop. Write and put your pen down after you have reached my requested 30 minutes of writing time. I know it feels good to get it out, to let the pent-up reserved part of your subconscious emotions that you buried safely and deeply to avoid the superficial injuries of doubt, sabotage, ridicule, fear, or impossibility maim your true destiny and happiness become known and your strengthen your inner resolve. All good, but Rome was not built in a day and you will not resolve these deep pockets of shaded pain in one writing session.  Stop writing and rest in the emerging feeling of deserved happiness inside.
  • Feel deserving of ALL you desire and are purposed for. Feel the emotions of the exercise and rest. Let this marinate, absorb the power and freedom you feel.  Internalize the emotions. Inculcate deeply your vision of purposeful joy.  Touch your authentic self.

You are in charge of this new point of view. See the glorious horizons, feel the joy.

Exercise 3 will come to you next week. Right now and for the days until we get to Emotional Exercise 3 – feel the feelings of your emotions.   Feel the joy. See your horizons.  Smell the refreshing resonance of pure, refreshing change. Stay with these feelings – don’t bury them again. Let your feelings breathe and you breathe rare, mountaintop pure air of your authentic self.

Don’t let these emotions go. Attach yourself to the illumination and guided light into your near future.  You deserve every second of elation. You need the strength of this new found exhilaration. You must travel to and make the behavioral change of your intended glory.

Feel the feelings and grow.

I thank you for completing Emotional Exercise 2. Let me offer my highest gratitude and expectation that you will ingest the feelings and learning from both Emotional Exercise 1 and 2 into your permanent being.  Live in-joy.

Emotional Exercise 1

Most people fear change. No matter how much you are aware of and talk about making a change in your life usually because of the undercurrent of fear it is not done.

The intent of the Emotional Exercise that I will write about and the Assignment given is to push you beyond the limiting fear. You can rule the world. You can live your dreams. You can climb any obstacle. You can live the best life ever!

 You cannot talk yourself out of what you behave yourself into

Talk just will NOT do it. It takes emotional exercise (action) to change behavior. The reason why I am attaching emotion to exercise is because it takes the two together to modify behavior and outlook. One without the other is futile; exercise without emotion often becomes a faded dream that eventually dissipates into a vague longing which eventually becomes a mark of disappointment.  The pile on of one disappointment after another is the primary reason most people  just give up and retreat to just repetitive sad talk about change.

You can change and be a better person. You can change and connect without fear. You can have the emotional freedom you desire. It takes personal accountability, seeing and feeling your mind power, emotional energy, patience, and potent joy. 

Use Emotional Exercise to create new behavior

Your Emotional Exercise 1 for today:

  • Clear all, I really mean ALL distractions for 30 minutes. No computer, no cell phone, no telephone, no handheld device, no smartphone, no email, no television-NOTHING for 30 minutes.  If you find you are having difficulty doing this for 30 minutes – leave the page. You do not want to change. You are not ready to change. More power to you.  But, if you are willing to invest 30 minutes to refine a new you, then take the next step.
  • Get a piece of paper or go to a clean page in your journal. Write. That’s all you are required to do for thirty minutes. Write free-form, no editing, no thinking about polite words, put your sanitized mind to rest for 30 minutes and just write in random form whatever comes to your mind.  Write everything, anything you want to write.

Write in longhand a stream of consciousness musing. Write what is in your mind. No filters. No judgment. No wrong or right words. Just write words. Describe you. Write.

  • Breathe. Write and breathe in the freshness of putting onto paper everything you can imagine about you, your life, your outcomes, your behavior for the next six months to a year

Take deep breaths, let the words you are writing go deep within-no judgement, no cynicism,  no doubt or fear. Just breathe in refreshing, restorative air and write for 30 minutes.

  • Feel your words. No judgment, no doubt, no reservations here. JUST FEEL! No censors.
  • Stop. When you have reached 30 minutes – STOP. Be disciplined here-stop. Fold your paper and put it away. Do NOT read what you wrote. Fold your page in the journal or fold the sheet of paper you wrote on and put it away. No discussion. Nothing. File your page away in a safe place where only you will see it when you get to Emotional Exercise 2.
  • You are done for the day – feel good about that!

This first imprint Emotional Exercise is complete. It is your pivot step to behavior change.

I am proud of what you have done today.  Look for Emotional Exercise 2 tomorrow. We will build upon this exercise to strengthen your behavior change.

Thank you for your trust and inner courage.

Do You Care or Curse?

Do You Care or Curse?

Ultimately, that is the choice we make with our feelings hundreds of times a day-care or curse? The difference between the two often means happiness inside or despotic misery.  The choice is real, most of the time automatic and situational, but once you begin to pay attention to your feelings and thoughts you will begin to realize that yes you do make one of the choices.

Interestingly, our natural proclivity is to care. You learn how to curse a situation.  Watch the natural choices of a mother in the animal kingdom and you will see an innate caring instinct. But, for survival purposes that mother teaches her young how to curse, or become a predator, in the wild. Humans, who have the added faculty of intelligence, make the same choice-we learn how to curse certain situations based on feelings.

But, human choice to curse is usually made under the guise of the same notion of protection found in the animal kingdom. But, this is wrong. We learn to curse the unknown or what we fear, curse each other as competitors, damn those who are different, curse obstacles that come into our lives as an impediment which was dumped into our lap to make our lives difficult.

The natural human choice is to care. In spite of how often we are bombarded with instances where the volume of cursing is turned up to shrieking noise, caring still happens. Three four and five year old girls decided to sell their own drawings which they made with crayon and color markers to help the tsunami victims in Japan two days ago.

Why did they do it, they cared. A high school baseball coach donated a kidney to one of his players. He did it, in his words, “because I cared.” A young man stops to help an elderly couple after an accident-he cared too.  Teachers teach because they care. Doctors and nurses save lives because they care. Daycare workers care. Architects care about the safety of a structure. Fathers care about their children. When you listen to someone without judgment, you care.

Those who curse care too, but in an inverted way. People who curse measure their care based on past memories of pain which them provokes them to shield caring in a cloak of bitter internalized nonchalance. But, the caring is there not far from the surface if you studied the air of a grumbling curmudgeon.  Reasonably, this is true because it is natural to care. So, even though someone exhibits a hardened shell that looks like they curse the world, a persistent dose of caring attention will usually soften their seemingly bitter heart. They too have happiness inside and a caring sensitivity toward others.

This is not a sentimental musing. Honestly, it is not. F. W. Sears writes, “when w permit ourselves to condemn a thing because we say it is “bad” or condemn some person for any cause whatever, that is taking a destructive attitude toward that thing or person no matter how just we may think our position in the case may be we cannot relate with these negative, destructive currents in our thought world and expect constructive and harmonious effects….”

Make it a practice to care about the bitter and downtrodden, lots of people do.  Pause for a moment to pick out caring moments that others do. Just last week I watched this new show, Secret Millionaire, on ABC. The tagline is giving back never fet soo good.” The premise of the show, from its premiere episode, is for millionaires to live undercover, where others do not know they are wealthy, and spend time in the community with people who are serving are caring for others and then give a portion of their money away to strengthen the work those caring servants are doing which benefit others.  On the premiere episode a woman, Dani Johnson, who was once homeless but became a millionaire, spent time in a food kitchen where two elderly twin ladies prepared hot food for those in the community who needed a hot meal. For the housebound, their volunteers visited with them when they took them their meals; what they did was care because often the visit was more healing than the food. Another lady on the show devoted her time, talent and money decorating rooms and granting wishes for children who were very sick. Even though she was a busy mother and wife, it was her calling to care to decorate these rooms with bright and cheerful motifs to uplift the spirits of the ill child and their devastated parents. The millionaire funded both of these causes with a gift of a check, but as importantly she connected to her heart of care.

You may not be a millionaire, neither am I, but what we do share is a willingness to care. Care just a little more about your neighbor, check in on someone who is sick or elderly, send a card you have not seen or talked to in a while, smile, show your happiness inside.

The main rule for caring is to do something for others with tenderness. Be tender and patient even with the one, human or animal, who has been scarred and appears to curse the world. Let them feel your care.  Make a care investment  everywhere, it is the harmonious thing to do.

Recommended Reading:  The Prosperity Bible (compilation)