It’s Time to Sing A Song

Sing a song. Today everybody can sing out loud and in  your soul a song that signifies  the character and strength to effect change that is within you.

Together we can sing a song, a uni-verse (a one word verse) that shifts your consciousness and heals the world.  It is time to sing a uni-verse for the universe.

“Praise and bless everything in the world, and you will dissolve negativity and discord and align yourself with the highest frequency-love.”  ~The Secret

Your uni-verse (one word verse) may include:

  • Peace
  • Love
  • Happiness
  • Gratitude
  • Unity
  • Diversity
  • Equality
  • Encouragement
  • Sensitivity
  • Change
  • Harmony

Sing any word (a uni-verse) that dispels hurt, pain, war, discord. Let that word change you and the world today. It is time to sing!

Sing.

 

Do You Care or Curse?

Do You Care or Curse?

Ultimately, that is the choice we make with our feelings hundreds of times a day-care or curse? The difference between the two often means happiness inside or despotic misery.  The choice is real, most of the time automatic and situational, but once you begin to pay attention to your feelings and thoughts you will begin to realize that yes you do make one of the choices.

Interestingly, our natural proclivity is to care. You learn how to curse a situation.  Watch the natural choices of a mother in the animal kingdom and you will see an innate caring instinct. But, for survival purposes that mother teaches her young how to curse, or become a predator, in the wild. Humans, who have the added faculty of intelligence, make the same choice-we learn how to curse certain situations based on feelings.

But, human choice to curse is usually made under the guise of the same notion of protection found in the animal kingdom. But, this is wrong. We learn to curse the unknown or what we fear, curse each other as competitors, damn those who are different, curse obstacles that come into our lives as an impediment which was dumped into our lap to make our lives difficult.

The natural human choice is to care. In spite of how often we are bombarded with instances where the volume of cursing is turned up to shrieking noise, caring still happens. Three four and five year old girls decided to sell their own drawings which they made with crayon and color markers to help the tsunami victims in Japan two days ago.

Why did they do it, they cared. A high school baseball coach donated a kidney to one of his players. He did it, in his words, “because I cared.” A young man stops to help an elderly couple after an accident-he cared too.  Teachers teach because they care. Doctors and nurses save lives because they care. Daycare workers care. Architects care about the safety of a structure. Fathers care about their children. When you listen to someone without judgment, you care.

Those who curse care too, but in an inverted way. People who curse measure their care based on past memories of pain which them provokes them to shield caring in a cloak of bitter internalized nonchalance. But, the caring is there not far from the surface if you studied the air of a grumbling curmudgeon.  Reasonably, this is true because it is natural to care. So, even though someone exhibits a hardened shell that looks like they curse the world, a persistent dose of caring attention will usually soften their seemingly bitter heart. They too have happiness inside and a caring sensitivity toward others.

This is not a sentimental musing. Honestly, it is not. F. W. Sears writes, “when w permit ourselves to condemn a thing because we say it is “bad” or condemn some person for any cause whatever, that is taking a destructive attitude toward that thing or person no matter how just we may think our position in the case may be we cannot relate with these negative, destructive currents in our thought world and expect constructive and harmonious effects….”

Make it a practice to care about the bitter and downtrodden, lots of people do.  Pause for a moment to pick out caring moments that others do. Just last week I watched this new show, Secret Millionaire, on ABC. The tagline is giving back never fet soo good.” The premise of the show, from its premiere episode, is for millionaires to live undercover, where others do not know they are wealthy, and spend time in the community with people who are serving are caring for others and then give a portion of their money away to strengthen the work those caring servants are doing which benefit others.  On the premiere episode a woman, Dani Johnson, who was once homeless but became a millionaire, spent time in a food kitchen where two elderly twin ladies prepared hot food for those in the community who needed a hot meal. For the housebound, their volunteers visited with them when they took them their meals; what they did was care because often the visit was more healing than the food. Another lady on the show devoted her time, talent and money decorating rooms and granting wishes for children who were very sick. Even though she was a busy mother and wife, it was her calling to care to decorate these rooms with bright and cheerful motifs to uplift the spirits of the ill child and their devastated parents. The millionaire funded both of these causes with a gift of a check, but as importantly she connected to her heart of care.

You may not be a millionaire, neither am I, but what we do share is a willingness to care. Care just a little more about your neighbor, check in on someone who is sick or elderly, send a card you have not seen or talked to in a while, smile, show your happiness inside.

The main rule for caring is to do something for others with tenderness. Be tender and patient even with the one, human or animal, who has been scarred and appears to curse the world. Let them feel your care.  Make a care investment  everywhere, it is the harmonious thing to do.

Recommended Reading:  The Prosperity Bible (compilation)

What is Love?

Woody Allen makes a point here:

“To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering, one must not love. But then, one suffers from not loving. Therefore, to love is to suffer; not to love is to suffer; to suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be happy, one must love or love to suffer or suffer from too much happiness.”

Whether you think Woody Allen’s comment is funny or not does not matter (I think it is privately humorous), the question here is what is love?

American relationship/marriage statistics are alarming (if you choose to focus on the divorce probability) unless you counterbalance those data numbers with heart memories. This is one reason I often refer to a book written by Julie Rainbow, Standing the Test of Time, that debunks the myth of divorced, dysfunctional Black families as she tells the story of Black couples who have been married fifty years or more and are still standing together.

I have other reasons for my knowing about love, my parents. My parents were married 53 years (until my Dad’s death in 2008) and his last words on this earth were to my Mom, saying “I love you.” Their eternal bond taught me something.

Adding another personal note, now that I have eulogized two brothers, one my twin, but both whom I loved deeply, I had to ask myself what am I learning about life through this experience?  I have been taught that love is a jewel that sparkles as brightly as you do. Well, I want to dazzle because that is the type of love that I want before I leave this earthly plane!

I have learned that “love” endures pain. It is an unquestioned face that relationships that mark years of longevity face pain. Even so, the pain of infidelity, disaster, trauma, or other disruptive issues do not destroy the core of love between two people who are devoted to each other.

I have learned that “love” smells different. Sometimes love stinks. But, like you learn to love your baby’s poop, love is the reason. Other times love smells like a fragrant rose, scented by time and passion. Love among two people may smell different from time to time, but each smell you learn to love.

I have learned that “love” ages. The longer you bottle love the more of an aged bouquet it has. Time and stillness together can create a bonus of a barrel of savory love.

What love is is individual. My impression of love is distinct from yours and you can bet yours is distinct from mine. When I was younger I equated love with lust, thus a divorce as soon as the hots cooled off. Now after taking years of celibacy instruction to heart, I have learned that even though love may lead to suffering, I’ll suffer any day for the aged, sweetness of love.

Brighten the Corner Where YOU Are

What is life all about anyway? Some say it is to build success, some argue it is to do good and spread goodwill, others pose that life is a self discovery journey that encompasses feeling good and doing good, a personal measurement of success and finding your “zen” passion points.

All true, no debate from me. But let me add that I think life is to be lived from one happy moment to the next. It is not that we don’t meet challenges or obstacles, I acknowledge that in my book Climb Every Obstacle: Eliminate Your Limits!

Of course we do face unsettling events, death, trauma, fear, or other mixtures of emotions that can of course blend into a simmering pot of caution. The message here is to find the bright side.

Brighten the corner where you are; in the present, right now. Once you learn how to ferret out even a second of bright clarity, you can begin to build an automatic gush of understanding and happiness. Something life changing actually happens when you STOP fighting with the way things are and live brightly in the present.

Right now I am reading, Women, Food and God. Gennen Roth,the author, has taken me to to my mythical core where I now see that the learned stories and past histories I have learned primarily from my Mom who does not accept or embrace her body as a prized sanctuary of grace, even though ironically her name is Grace, has shadowed my feelings about my own body and it outer worth.

My Mom is incredible. She is beautiful, intelligent, accomplished and a woman of worth. But, the way she shies away from her body shows a disconnect from the good God placed in her.

As her only daughter child, I am only now beginning to accept my body – no more abusive diets, no more starvation, no more over extension, no more people pleasing, no more avoidance, no more!

I know how to cast light, I really do. If there is one characteristic that I have inculcated it is my ability to let others shine and to find their brightness. I don’t need the limelight. But there is a hidden dagger with this last statement…no I don’t need the limelight, but I should too let my whole life, including my body, shine.

As late as last month if someone called me sexy, especially a man, I would cringe thinking I have been too forward or worse cast my femininity too far. Ridiculous!

Geneen Roth has helped me drill down into where those un-true stories I tell myself about being sexy came from. I had to scope my whole being, expose my lunacy, feel the heat, describe what I saw, listen to what I heard to find the controlling lies to re-write my truth and find the real joy of inner brightness.

The core answer to brightness in any corner where is are is LOVE; it’s the alpha and the omega. Only LOVE emits brightness. Geneen says when you are in a space of love “it feels like relief. It feels like infinite goodness… It feels like the essence of tenderness, compassion, joy, peace. Life LOVE itself.”

Learn this lesson well.

Whatever your inner issue is – food, addiction, money, loneliness, family, spirit, friends, sabotage, body image, sexiness – you can move beyond what dims your true light to a bright eminence that eclipses the light of sunshine.

You deserve lovely sunshine each and every day and so do the people who are in your bright corner.

Harmony: The Answer to Happiness

A New Earth

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It is axiomatic that when you are angry, stressed, frightened, or in any other toxic state of mind that you are not in alignment with your true, valued purpose for life. It is truly not possible to be happy and disturbed at the same time…utterly impossible!

I don’t care what the precipitating factors are for being out of alignment, whether external or internal in your mind, it is your mind that can restore balance and harmony. Right now, begin to center your mind and think about harmony; this is the only answer to happiness.

Let us begin: (Take FIVE minutes to restore your happiness)

* Clear all noise clutter- NO television, radio, telephone or computer
* Close your eyes
* Offer statement(s) of gratitude. “I am thankful for my breath” “Thank you universe for quiet peace” “My heart is grateful for …..”
* Visualize you in the most harmonious, happy place. Linger there and feel the profound wonders of joy, serenity, purpose
* Claim the calm that comes when you accept harmony, happiness
Say: I am happy! I am calm. I am a joyful and happy being. I am….
* Accept that you are happy. I am happy-let the universe know by showing your happiness with a smile, kind word, tender touch, or helpful action that broadens and deepens the harmony you have within.
* Open your eyes and your mind

You are happy. Go out and live happy-that’s your real purpose.

Repeat this restoration exercise often.
Harmony and happiness can be fleeting when we concentrate on events, situations, or stories which are otherwise.

Attract happiness and harmony with deliberate intention-focus your thoughts solely on being in this state of mind consistently and you will live the answer to happiness:harmony.

Be still, release the emotional noise and be in the pure essence of happiness. Eckhart Tolle

Are You Awake?

Parents, especially on school days, ask their children are you awake? to rouse them early in the morning to get them up for school. The children should return the favor and ask the parent, Are YOU Awake?

Adults do so many rut things strictly out of habit, automatically doing the same thing without thought. That’s okay, right. But, what a probing question it is to ask yourself every morning, Are you awake?

“Habits are at first cobwebs, then cables.” — Spanish Proverb

Wake up mind. Say: Mind, are you awake? Really, how awake is your mind? Are you alert, inquisitive, prepared, or are you sleepy and robotic when you start your morning?

Wake up your mind by going into quiet meditation, tagging mental exercises such as puzzles, making a task list, singing, or by physical action activities. Un-dull your senses, wake up mind.

Wake up body. Give your body a wake up call too. I had the chance to go out to Senior Citizen dance night at the mall near where I live. It was a joy to see elderly couples doing the swing or ballroom dances at their geriatric age.

Give your body an awakening jolt by being active. Dance, zumba, play bridge, lobby a few tennis balls, walk or job. Work up a sweat-wake up your body.

Wake up heart. Wake up your heart. Open yourself up to caring about yourself and others. Stimulate your emotional heart by saying loving words. Be positive, energetic, sincere as you awaken others to your peaceful heart.

Wake up life. Wake your senses. Live from all five-seeing, smelling, tasting, hearing, and touching. Discover what a sensory world we live in and play each waking moment as a “present” pre-sent just for you.

Singer, philanthropist, activist – John Legend has remixed “Wake Up Everybody” to remind us all that the “world won’t get any better if we just wait and see…we gotta change it…just you and me.”

Wake Up Everybody
Wake up everybody. It’s time to start a new day.
Be alive, be present, be awake!