Today’s Delight

“I get joy when I give it. So, I’m constantly thinking of ways to delight folks with kindness.”     ~Oprah (O magazine, October 2017, What I Know for Sure 

What is your way to delight others today?

Share what you have done to give joy (delight) to someone today. The FIRST response to the question, based on the quote by Oprah, will receive a gift copy of Climb Every Obstacle: Eliminate Your Limits!

 

One Thing You Must Do

You have heard the old line, “The only thing I have to do is pay taxes and die.” Wrong, the one thing you must do is LIVE…. Death and taxes will take care of themselves. Just live.

Psychologist, Dr. Henry Cloud, in his sensible book, 9 Things You Simply Must Do to succeed in Love and Life, categorizes nine life skills that are vital to living well. I understand and agree with them all, BUT in a nutshell what Dr. Cloud is really advising readers to do is live and live YOUR life well.

From the case studies documented in the book, many of his clients and a myriad of other people who are stressed, depressed, and need to give negativity a rest are in the spiral of malcontent because they lack the courage to truly live.

My advice: Be selfish, Make changes in your life that best for YOU!

Leo Tolstoy says, “Everyone thinks of changing the world, no one thinks of changing themselves.”

Change Yourself

As of today, right now – the one thing you must do is fearlessly create the change in your life that powers your soul. Select your passion, feel the excitement of choosing to live the life you want to live.

Do that one thing and be ecstatic about it.
Live your joy, that is the one thing you must to.

Monday Miracle: BFF Yourself

Today, give yourself a HUGE hug.

BFF yourself, be your own best friend.  Often our altruism is directed outward towards others which leads you to forget to show the same kindness, happiness, joy to yourself. In order to balance your inner growth, you need to be your own best friend too. Take a moment to smile deep within in a knowing special way just for you. Then, allow your eyes to sparkle and feel that sparkle all the way to your toes. Next, inhale a deep breath of joy and feel the elixir flow through your nose into your lungs and let it coerce to every cell in your body. When you do, you are illuminating the whole earth.

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Each inner kindness you show to yourself as your own BFF, alters the atmosphere of the earth and moves humankind to a circle of unity. The one hug, smile or breath of joy and happiness that you share with yourself and others today will be a part of the ring of hope that miraculously heals the world.

I hug you too.

Send me a note telling me what you did today to BFF yourself.

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12 Gifts for You

As you absorb the active spirit of giving, don’t forget to give to your inner self. It is important to pause and add your name to the gift list. Gifts oftentimes bestow happiness, especially when genuine thoughtfulness is attached to it. Then, it is not the gift or the cost of the item but the care and kindness that is associated with it.

Make it a practice and often used priority in your life to give a gift to yourself.

“Each day provides its own gifts.” ~Marcus Aurelius

12 Gifts for You:

1. Joy – greet every experience with joy. The feelings of appreciation, gratitude and acquiesce, regardless of the circumstance, are invigorating life learning moments. Joy gives you wings.

2. Affirmation – say “yes” to life. Affirm your ability to direct your life. You are the captain of your life ship; guide yourself to whatever you desire. Claim your gifts; the universe is saturated with gems of inestimable value that are just for you.

3. Confirmation – verifications are right in front of your face when you are thinking about and doing the right thing. The available gift is for you to recognize the confirmations that automatically follow right action.

4. Understanding – in all of your giving, get the gift of understanding. Kindness is the bedrock of understanding. Stand on the principled rock of kind understanding, people will listen.

5. Excellence – doing your best, making excellence your signature, is a legacy gift. The imprint mark of excellence that is associated with your life is an eternal evidence of your life.

6. Confidence – go boldly in the direction you have chosen. Respect your choice(s) to the fullest. Find your way by this spotlight and “see the dawn before the rest of the world,” says Oscar Wilde.

7. Exploration – the world awaits your discovery. The excitement and enlightenment that accompanies exploration are priceless gifts.

8. Silence – quiet introspection causes the world to listen. Allow the gift of silence to guide your ultimate happiness and success. Calm mindfulness is a balm.

9. Openness – there are lessons to learn every day. Be open to teachable moments, these innocent gifts guide you closer to source.

10. Compassion – first never do harm. Gentle compassion to you is a gift that gives premium, perpetual joy. Give yourself the gift of compassion and then continuously give it away to others.

11. Peace – let the soft flowing water of peace buoy your life. Regardless of what happens, and many things will intrude upon your peace, quickly restore your calm with the gift of peace.

12. Love – love you! Love every piece of you; love your mind, heart, body, soul. Love you and all of the essence that composes this priceless pearl that you are. Love you in all of your uniqueness, there is nothing better than love.

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Happiness: A-Z

Acceptance

Balance

Compassion

Direction

Exploration

Forgiveness

Generosity

Harmony

Imagination

Justice

Kindness

Laughter

Mastery

Nurturence

Openness

Praise

Quest

Respect

Serenity

Thanks

Understanding

Vision

Wisdom

Xpungence

Yen

Zeal

Rev Up Your Activation Energy

You are at your goal start line, rev your success engine. Only you can put the pedal on your life accelerator. Nobody else can rev   your engine, you alone must press the pedal that accelerates your life. Only you can drive the lane to your success.

This is a reality: YOU control your life pace. Many want to blame outside forces and rationalize external happenings as the reason they stall out at the start line. Others get started, but fail to maintain their goal lane because they are looking everywhere else to see what someone else is doing.  And then there are those who make it close to the goal line and stall out right there-completely out of gas because they did not plan for their success.

All of these defense mechanisms – blame, irrational rationalization, lack of focus, stalling, not planning – are all negative psychological tendencies that flatten your activation energy; the fuel that masters any goal. There is no way you will climb over obstacles to live a happy, fulfilled life when these energy barriers dominate your thinking.

Shawn Achor, seen on the PBS special program “The Happiness Advantage”, is a Harvard educated researcher on life fulfillment and happiness, asserts that “the real story of happiness is that every person has a range of potential — in terms of intelligence, athletic ability, musicality, creativity, and productivity — and we are more likely to achieve the upper bounds of our brain’s potential when we’re feeling positive, rather than negative or neutral.”

What can you do when you just float along? How far do you go when your energy is sapped? How happy do you really feel when your mind is clouded with worry and despair?

Your success and ultimate happiness depends on your ability to activate your energy. In fact, Mr. Achor says “long-term success is based upon your ability to positively adapt to the world: optimism, social support creation, and viewing stress as a challenge instead of as a threat.” This adaptive perspective is called your “activation energy.”

Regardless of where you are in your life, it is time to rev up your activation energy. Here’s how to rev up your activation energy:
1. Want more joy. You have to want more happiness and inner joy in your life. This first you step is the fulcrum of being joyful. You can be happy. You deserve to be happy.

2. Activate your energy. Now that you seek more joy and fulfillment in your life, it is time to actively pursue your happiness. Stop waiting around for someone to make you fell good. Go out and do the things that support your happiness and don’t stop until you feel joyful.

3. Disavow negativity. Get away from anyone or anything that disturbs your happiness. Take a “feelings” assessment: tune in to what and who feels good to you. When you find those energy drainers, and you definitely will, get rid of them.

4. Practice happiness. Give away your joy. Smile more, volunteer, sing, dance, fiddle, get in your zone. You will attract more and more happiness energy to play the harp of joy everyday in your life.

Activate your positive energy. Be happy. Take advantage of abundant joy-you deserve it.

Fantastic Friday

What a day to celebrate – today is the day of one.  11-11-11 all ones that equal 1. One you, One God, One Faith, One humanity, One love, One grace, One focus, One family, One heart, One grace, One expectation….

Make your own One …. declaration. One ?

Fantastic!

Today I want to highlight a concept for Fantastic Friday.  11 Alive News (www.11alive.com), a local television station in Atlanta, is celebrating what is fantastic, fabulous, and factitive about sharing and giving goodness from the heart.   The news takes a new twist at this station; instead of all gloom, fear and death, they are championing what is good that children and young people do to make this world a better place.

“It’s a movement meant to have a positive impact on people’s lives every day.”  Add to the Chain, using the example of Rachel Scott,  the first person killed at Columbine High School on April 20, 1999 is linking up Georgians all across the state. Her acts of kindness and compassion coupled with the contents of her six diaries have become the foundation for Rachel’s Challenge, is Georgia’s response of trans-formative positive impact.

Schools and businesses and people from across Georgia   volunteered time, contributed creative solutions and took an active part in giving that added to the chain of kindness. One random act from the heart makes a difference.

I plan to join the thousands of celeebrants at the Georgia Dome today for the culmination of  this year of service,  kindness and thoughtfulness and bask in the prominence of happiness and joy so that I have an indelible imprint to carry forward.

Don’t stop! It does not matter where you are in the world, keep the chain of kindness going.

Make a fantastic contribution of positive sharing today and everyday.  As six year old Zalissa Lomax of Gainesville, Georgia knows,  “just a smile can change something, and that’s never too small of an act of kindness.”

Recommended Reading: One Simple Act: Discovering the Power of Generosity Debbie Macomber, Howard Books, 2009

You are fantastic, be fantastic and give what is fantastic in you.

Happy Friday!

Miracle Monday

America the resilient. This is what I felt after watching many of the tributes to those who lost their lives and those who responded with heroic courage on 9/11/2001. We are resilient people and this nation is resilient –  God bless us all.

We are blessed – salute that within your heart. I am so grateful for my girlfriend Monica who stopped by to share her love with me. She came bearing gifts – a lovely candle (which I needed) and a packet of sachet pillows for my drawers (stop laughing I mean the furniture kind) this past weekend. It felt so good to just sit and talk for a while which as a residual from our friendship time together set up beautiful flowing happiness for me all weekend long. Love you Monica!

That act of spontaneous love sparked other miracles. Being this is miracle Monday think about what acts you have done that may have made somebody else happy and probably precipitated residual joy for them. What kind act from your heart have you done for someone else lately? Share it with us, please. The reason is that giving to others without expectation of reciprocation is a miracle magnet.

So let me ask again: What kind act from your heart have you done lately?

Do one or more random act of kindness for someone else today. Just do it and make this your Monday Miracle.


“I have found in life that if you want a miracle you first need to do whatever it is you can do – if that’s to plant, then plant; if it is to read, then read; if it is to change, then change; if it is to study, then study; if it is to work, then work; whatever you have to do. And then you will be well on your way of doing the labor that works miracles. ” ~Jim Rohn

Emotional Exercise 2

How do you feel now that you have completed Emotional Exercise 1?

When I finished my exercise yesterday, as we journey through behavioral change together, and the past two times I have completed Emotional Exercise 1, I felt so connected to my pure truth of self. It felt like a gentle cleansing that washed away anything unworthy of my highest intention. I felt then and now feel again so light, clean, and assured.  Taking time for introspection, which is where the words you wrote yesterday came from, is an initial step to increased self-recognition. It is a power move that strengthens and clarifies the inner essence of you.  The authentic you is someone who trusts and loves. The inner you is confident, fearless. The subconscious is instinctive, emotionally free.

Emotional Exercise 1 exposes your power. That exercise also reveals the ingrained emotional enemies that sabotage your authenticity, happiness, wisdom, power, attitude, achievement, and eventually the ultimate manifestation of your true purpose in life.  This is why I suggest that you repeat Emotional Exercise 1 often and pair it with the learning insight you will get from Emotional Exercise 2.

I discovered three times (from each time that I completed Emotional Exercise 1) that I had an internal conflict that must be resolved in order for me to share a whole, supportive relationship with my intended helpmate. I GET it now! But, until this was revealed to me and I was willing to accept the truth that showed up three times, my relationship behavior that would attract the man who would love and support me would not happen.  Even though I knew that my previous preparation for a helpmate indicated a shift, this time I believe because I went deeper into my heart energy and I also opened up more to allow stronger illumination so that I could see what change I needed to adopt, I clearly know now what and who to allow within the sacred  space of my heart.

“Our greatest enemies, the ones we must fight most often, are within.” ~Thomas Paine

Now that you are energized, light hearted, uplifted, and fearless about your future, let’s get into Emotional Exercise 2.

Assignment:

  • Open your page from Emotional Exercise 1 (that you wrote out free form yesterday) and quickly read your words.  Still, no judgment, no negative chatter about how ridiculous what you wrote sounds like while reading it today, NOTHING. True objectivity is required here.  Just read and absorb the inner promptings from Emotional Exercise 1.
  • Next, write on the back of your page – WHY. At the top of the opposite page that you wrote out Emotional Exercise 1, write in longhand again in a free form style the reasons WHY do you see yourself in such a whole, happy place six months from now.  Dig into the emotions of WHY you will change and what it means to you.

Again, do not belabor this, just write. Write. Write for  30 minutes.  Get into WHY.  Challenge your surface emotions and go deeper into more real, substantive reasons WHY you know you want this emotional and behavior change and knowingly attach the feelings with it.  Write and feel the feelings too.  Write, open up, flow with the words of justification and right emotions.  No judgment, no fear, no doubt.  Don’t linger or get impatient.

Emotional Exercise 2 tends to be tougher because you are asking yourself why do you deserve the exhilaration of being in Sedona, why you are excited about losing weight and getting your sexy whole self back. You are probing deep into WHY you deserve joy and happiness in whatever form these Emotional  Exercises reveal unto you.

Stay with it, write for only 30 minutes. Feel the lightness in your being. Attach the emotions to your achievement. Exercise your emotions. Write.

  • Stop. Write and put your pen down after you have reached my requested 30 minutes of writing time. I know it feels good to get it out, to let the pent-up reserved part of your subconscious emotions that you buried safely and deeply to avoid the superficial injuries of doubt, sabotage, ridicule, fear, or impossibility maim your true destiny and happiness become known and your strengthen your inner resolve. All good, but Rome was not built in a day and you will not resolve these deep pockets of shaded pain in one writing session.  Stop writing and rest in the emerging feeling of deserved happiness inside.
  • Feel deserving of ALL you desire and are purposed for. Feel the emotions of the exercise and rest. Let this marinate, absorb the power and freedom you feel.  Internalize the emotions. Inculcate deeply your vision of purposeful joy.  Touch your authentic self.

You are in charge of this new point of view. See the glorious horizons, feel the joy.

Exercise 3 will come to you next week. Right now and for the days until we get to Emotional Exercise 3 – feel the feelings of your emotions.   Feel the joy. See your horizons.  Smell the refreshing resonance of pure, refreshing change. Stay with these feelings – don’t bury them again. Let your feelings breathe and you breathe rare, mountaintop pure air of your authentic self.

Don’t let these emotions go. Attach yourself to the illumination and guided light into your near future.  You deserve every second of elation. You need the strength of this new found exhilaration. You must travel to and make the behavioral change of your intended glory.

Feel the feelings and grow.

I thank you for completing Emotional Exercise 2. Let me offer my highest gratitude and expectation that you will ingest the feelings and learning from both Emotional Exercise 1 and 2 into your permanent being.  Live in-joy.