Radiate Confidence

Confidence

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Hold your head high.

Look into the eyes of the person you are talking to. Radiate confidence, you are strong enough to be bold.  Bold confidence allows you to feel wonderfully lively, radiant and vibrant. Because when you radiate confidence, you are likely to attract a different type of attention.

You may find that you magnify an assurance which is noticeable.  Not only should others take notice, so should you. Pay attention to the different responses you get when you radiate confidence. More smiles, more flirts, more offers of support and assistance. Your high energy mood can make you feel like a star.

Stand erect.

Square your shoulders. Tighten your tummy. Project out to the world that you are a confident person.  When you radiate confidence, it is natural to attract attention.  Bask in the moment.

“You must break out of your current comfort zone and become comfortable with the unfamiliar.  Start smashing through those emotional barriers.  Move forward.  Life doesn’t magically give you what you want in your mind; it gives you what you insist upon with your actions.” ~Mark Hack

Even if you are not entirely sure of yourself or very comfortable with this new radiant, confident persona, do it anyway.  Affirm your qualities.  Say out loud: I am radiantly confident. Speak this affirmation right now with fervor and conviction. Immediately feel how different you are once you remind yourself of your true value.

Believe in yourself.

You are confident. You are radiant. You are impressive.  Let the aura of radiant confidence permeate.  Avoid any negative self-talk. Speak confidently, attract the life you deserve. Show others that you adore who you are.

Radiant confidence allows you to act decisively. That’s right, you know who you are and what you intend to accomplish.  When others notice that you are resolute, the universe begins to magnetize into existence exactly what you want provided that you maintain confidence and pinpoint focus and are ready to work diligently to accomplish those aims.

Ambition is very good, so is confidence. The combination of the two attributes does not have to equate to arrogance. There is a huge difference. Arrogance presents itself as haughty, self-importance. But, confidence shows up as an inner knowing that is gracious.

Be confident.

Confidence begets radiance. You are allowed to shine. You must shine; the light of confidence is already inside of you. Let it out, glow.  Choose to be happy today, right now. Don’t wait to share your radiance. Be confidently assured that your time to shine is right now.

Lift yourself up to cloud nine.

Life is flying by; you will only get to the top clouds in life if you decide to be more radiant than sour. Discouragement, bad news, anguish, doubt grounds you if you choose to be bound to it. Soar, lift yourself above negativity. Get to cloud nine.

Confidence depends on the quality of your thoughts. Think happiness. Be radiant. Be a confident you.

Share your confidence –comment below. Tell others what you do to sustain your confidence. Let’s talk about radiance – how do you exhibit radiance?

5 Ways to Banish Stress

starsStress happens.

However, you do not have to allow stressful situations to implode your peace of mind. You can manage stress and the events that may precipitate stress for you which are personal to your personality. There are definite coping strategies which help you to live a life stress-free.

Life is not meant to be a stress rehearsal.

Fill your life with harmonious, healthy thoughts and experiences. Make a mantra for your life which banishes stress. One that I use is simply: love, joy, and peace. 

Effort is taken every day to not allow anything or anyone to violate the love, joy and peace that is integral to my well-being.

Actually, one’s well-being is intrinsic to the well-being of others too. When you feel good, you share good and that good which then expands to heal the world. Life is bestowed upon everyone; make sure you inculcate what is good so that you expose good to others. Good begets good. Good can banish stress

Five Secrets to a Stress-Free Life:

  1. Pay attention. Really listen to and hear your feelings. Release stress by tuning your mind to what you are feeling right now. The more attentive you are to your true feelings, the faster you recognize negative energy and can stop stress triggers from invading your intrinsic peace.
  2. Be still. Activity is over-valued. Stop and smell the evergreens, slow down and notice the beauty around you. Listen to the bees or watch a butterfly graciously wing its flight. Meditate on the things that are joyous and peaceful. Draw a Mandela or walk a labyrinth. Slow your pace, seek tranquility.
  3. Connect deep. Connect with others, go beyond polite conversation and build a deep association with someone in your life. You will likely find that blending your life with another in a non-sexual friendship improves your outlook and resolves the stress inducing emptiness of isolation.
  4. Get involved. Make a life investment in something or someone. Fight apathy. Instead of accepting a problem as unsolvable, seek a solution. Become a one person drummer, others will gain courage from your passionate conviction and soon a change movement will gain momentum.
  5. Love life. The practice of loving life, in spite of turmoil, minimizes stress. Bless your stress with omniscient love, ever-present, ever-lasting. Devote the majority of your energy to loving life, feel the eruption of gratitude. Give thanks, give love. Love your life!

Keep it simple.

Simplify your emotions so that your soul can breathe. Inhale deep breaths of calm, restfulness, kindness and joy.  Exhale harshness and seek balance, tenderness and gentle grace. Stress is a learned response to events or situations that alarm your inner good. Go with the flow, walk along with the soothing waves in your life. Restore relaxation, take it slow and easy. Live an intentional stress-free life.

BOSS Happiness in Your Life

  1. Plan ahead.  Keep pantry staples list, keep gas tank at least ½ full, make copies of keys. Check it off.
  2. Say NO!  Don’t over schedule your time with extra events, projects, or invitations.
  3. Get up fifteen minutes earlier and/or go to bed fifteen minutes earlier.  Give yourself a big hug.
  4. Don’t procrastinate.  Do it NOW! Schedule projects, events, vacations, or even dinners ahead of time.
  5. Prepare for the morning the night before.  Plan the first hour or two of the next day.
  6. Write it down!  Don’t rely on your memory.  Write each appointment on a calendar on in your PDA.
  7. Learn.  Take a magazine, inspirational book or tapes/CDs with you to use while you wait.
  8. Add $9.00. Buy an extra book of postage stamps.  Then your mail/bills won’t be delayed.
  9. Get a good night’s sleep or take a short power nap on the weekend.  20 minutes of real rest is divine.
  10. Ring, ring. Let the answering machine/message service take the call.  But promptly retrieve messages.
  11. Slow down!  It is permissible to stop and smell the roses, swing in the park, swim or relax.
  12. Simplify!  Enlarge your file 13 (garbage box) so that you keep the things that you only need.
  13. Give gifts.  Give away good items that you no longer need or want.  Someone else may treasure it.
  14. Make personal or family time a priority.  Build in some “me or us” time every day.
  15. Make one night a week family fun.  Do something exciting with a member of your family.
  16. Turn off the television/video games.  Tune into yourself and each other for real conversation.
  17. Adopt a hobby.  Paint, build, exercise, practice an instrument, or make crafts together.
  18. Schedule household assignments.  Create a simple reward system.  Create a checklist.
  19. Volunteer!  Research and commit to a volunteer project. Share your time and talent.
  20. Laugh, laugh, laugh!  Keep a jokes file or watch a funny movie.  Laughter is medicine for the soul.
  21. Stretch.  Take mini stretch breaks after long meetings or sits.  Stretch and breathe deep.
  22. Write weekly goals.  Look for gaps and over commitment.  Eliminate tension builders.
  23. Use email or voice mail reminders to yourself and others to cut out any stress.
  24. Enjoy a good meal or dessert or snack.  Don’t just rush.  Savor each flavor.
  25. Take breaks.  Do NOT work through lunch.  It is important to leave your desk.
  26. Look at your color choices.  If you see that your predominant color is neutral or black, add color!
  27. Delegate.  Choose responsible people, designate specific tasks, and let it go.  Don’t micro-manage.
  28. Journal.  Keep a journal.  You will be amazed at how much you achieved in a year.
  29. Be a friend.  Care about others and lean on them for comfort too.  Confidential sharing relieves stress.
  30. Vacation.  Plan relaxation days (bookend to a weekend) or plan a longer vacation to rest, relax, restore.
  31. Visualize.  See your success in exact, vivid detail.  Plan what success is and looks like ahead of time.
  32. Avoid negativity.  Negative people or situations should be avoided.  Maintain optimism.
  33. Worry less.  Don’t deny your concerns, but spend minimal time worrying.  Decide what must be done.
  34. Change.  If your routine is reflexive, you do the same things.  Change where you go or what you do.
  35. Be private.  Allow time every day for privacy, quite time or solitude to reflect on what’s important.
  36. Do the hardest first!  Get it out of the way so that you can pleasantly, leisurely enjoy the rest.
  37. Count.  Count to fifty (50) before you speak.  Pausing a few minutes before an outburst saves anxiety.
  38. Forgive.  Standardize your expectations of yourself and others.  Expecting perfection is stressful.
  39. Smile.  Be optimistic and project joy.  You will feel good and so will others around you.
  40. Gather loose change.  Count all of your coins and give yourself a treat.
  41. Say Thank You!  Express gratitude.  Appreciate and recognize the goodness in others.
  42. Make something.  Try origami; build a kite, ceramics, pottery.  Find a creative outlet.
  43. Dance.  Turn on the music.  Dance, step lively for a few minutes a day.
  44. Talk positive.  When your words are positive, encouraging others respond in kind.
  45. Sing.  Let the melody flow.  Even if it is only in the shower, add vocal rhythm to your day.
  46. Meditate.  Be still.  Listen to earth sounds, hear the birds chipper, connect with nature.
  47. Cry.  Release tension with a good cry.  Let it all out and let it go. Then, smile and move on.
  48. Try something new.  Candy-making, belly dancing, sign-language, fitness, weights, bike riding, skating.
  49. Take a bath. No quick shower. Fill the tub with warm, soothing water and chill. Add aromatherapy.
  50. Redlight.  While stopped at a red light, say to yourself, “I am happy” or “I am an achiever.”
  51. Take a class.  If you are challenged in areas of your life, take a class. Learn something different.
  52. Renew every day. BOSS or TOSS something in your life everyday and live anew.

 

 

3 Happiness Helpers

Joy is what happens when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are. ~ Marianne Williamson

Happiness is synonymous with joy.  Having an inner exuberance is a definite happiness helper.  Life happens, so sometimes there may be moments that it is more difficult to recognize “good” in your life. That’s okay, there is still a reservoir of internal happiness for you to dip into that will quickly restore your joy. Then there may be times it takes more effort and longer lapses before you can return to your inner pool of happiness, this is okay too. But, if you find that you are feeling that your happiness is waning to a distant point and you are staying away from feeling the “good” for more and more days, it is time for intervention. Your intervention may mean that you talk with your doctor about the longer days of feeling blue or it may mean getting help in other forms.

Get over the what if happiness destroyers: what if I had done X, what if I had said Y, what if I had gone Z—what if you are happy and at rest with joy for being who you are? What if that!

You can be happy. You should be happy.  Be happy. Use these 3 happiness helps to fill up your joy pool and dip in it often:

  1. Know truth, rather than worry about vain imaginings.  I agree with Epictetus.  He said,”Men are disturbed not by the things that happen, but by their opinion of the things that happen.” Your opinion can instantly shift from worry to happiness when you acknowledge the truth. Rather than speculate or ruminate over distresses, work on validating the truth that measures your joy.  It is not the event that is causing your pain, it is your projected, often wrong, opinion that creates the scaring. Be truthful with yourself first and then take appropriate active steps to remedy a misstep if that moves you back to your joy reservoir.  Look for evidence of joy, it’s there. Joy surrounds you.
  2. Restore positive beliefs. Many times our beliefs get distorted by adopting the perspectives of other people. But, the pivotal question for inner joy is to ask: What do I believe? This happiness helper requires you to state what you know to be true.  When you find yourself doubting or pooling in negativity, pause right then and examine what you are thinking.  Challenge the accuracy of your less than positive mental conversation and restructure those mental moments with honest positive belief.  This world is not crumbling, you are a part of the axis of its positive spin.
  3. Float, let  negativity pass you by.  Wave off scorn, snub gossip, draw away from criticism, move beyond damaging thoughts.  You have too much joy to allow negativity to attach to your mind and heart.  This happiness helper gives you the social and mental spirit of discernment; you know with an inner instinct that this does not agree with who you are and the happiness you feel and spread to others.  Shun negativity, keep your happiness glasses on. Be happy.

You control your happiness. Bathe in the secret of inner happiness that covers all things. Be mindful of your birthright, you were born to live as a joyful and happy being.

 

The Depression Cure: The Six Step Program to Beat Depression Without Drugs, Stephen S. Ilardi

Climb Every Obstacle: Eliminate Your Limits!, Anita Jefferson

Be Happy! – How to Stop Negative Thinking, Start Focusing on the Positive, and Create Your Happiness Mindset, Nichole  Fisher

The Roles We Play: 2 Ways to Shift Right Now

Do you give too much? Are you expected to “save the day” or be the shoulder to cry on? If so, you may be blocking not only your happiness but the maturity of responsibility in the other person that  is required by life in any relationship.  Overdoing levels of concern, or in other words becoming a doormat rescuer, is not happiness.  Living by purpose demands  balance – a reciprocity of sharing.

Dr. Robert Holden asks: Do you ever play “the giver” who only gives and never receives; or “the helper” who suppresses any personal needs; or “the independent one” who never asks for what they want; … or “the martyr” who cannot really give unconditionally because they do not really receive?

Honest review of these questions may be your pivot of change.

The roles we play ultimately become the binding roles that we accept.  Hidden within the play roles of “rescuer” or “giver” or “helper” or “independent one” or “martyr”  or a blend thereof is an internal desire to be wanted or know that you are wanted by someone. This unexamined inner longing imposes upon your preeminence. So, you must change roles.

There are two ways to shift roles that drain you or no longer serve your higher purpose now:

  1. Pay attention to how you respond in every relationship for a week. Write down the name of the person and the role you used while interacting with them. Be diligent here – every day for one week – identify the role you play with others.
  2. Next, categorize each role.  Look at how often you accept each role.  Now, add how do you feel after playing each role-this is difficult but necessary.

Once you objectively identify each role and which one you switch on and off to accommodate people in your life, you will start the engine of change.  The roles you play become so embedded and expected of you that pausing to examine the usefulness of these roles is not even not thought of as changeable.

But, change you must in order to find your your core identity.f

Know the roles that you play. Own up to and accept the roles that are positive and productive  in your life. Shift, release low performing, often toxic roles, and allow other people to claim their authentic responsibility by shifting your responses.

Live according to your known purpose -tend to your life seeds – and balance often your authenticity scales.

Care for others, care about others but care about yourself first.

Leap Year Day: 3 Tips for Leaping Life

It’s Leap Year 2012. Alright, fine. What makes this year extraordinary is that for the first time in four years you can leap your life to the top. Leap life.  Get ahead of mediocre mindset, minimum living and modest money.

by nattavut

Don’t waste the day, instead plan to make this day a leap to your success.  In case a refresher reminder is necessary to aide your towering leap to your success in 2012 these three tips can maximize your achievement:

  1. Speak positive truth all day. Talk out loud to yourself. Affirm in a thundering voice positive mantras. If you have not written a personal mantra, write one. Mine is-I am child of a rich father. I deserve the best for it is my right. This is my positive truth that I proclaim in a booming voice to leap life everyday.  Shout with strong emotion your affirmation and other positive messages all day.
  2.  Don’t worry, be happy this leap year day. Clear out all negativity today. Replace worry with gratitude, find sources of happiness. Whistle, sing, dance, collect memories, draw, paint, swing in the playground, walk in the park, skip rope, play flag ball, smile, say something tender. You get the point, control unrewarding input. Guard your ear-gate and heart-gate. Shut away the news. Find what is fun and funny. Make yourself and others happy – leap ahead just like a frog.
  3. Think and see your goal checklist for the year. Let me recommend a website for goal-setting, www.achieve-goal-setting-success.com.   This site is full of free goal setting, success, achievement strategies and life skills for adults and children to leap your year.  It is a well documented fact that goal-setters succeed, and people who succeed have goals. Make your goal road map using the tools found on the website or create one independently, whatever route you take to make definite your goals that have a start and end date that will allow you to leap life, do it NOW-29 February 2012 is your start date.

Make major efforts to identify and supercharge your success.  Never despair or get discouraged since, even with the strongest leap, goal attainment takes times.  Work and prepare and work persistently.  Keep on keeping on, leap this year to your success!

Leap Year 2012 is your date to energize your actions for success.

True You

“I’m loved, I’m valued, and I’m capable of achieving balance in my life.

I can learn to eat well.  I can exercise. I can express gratitude for the simple act of being able to breathe in and breathe out.

I can move away from darkness and depression to light and hope.

I can be happy with who I am, not what I should be, or what I might have been, or what someone tells me I must be.

I am me, the true me;

you are you, the true you- and that’s good. That’s beautiful. That’s enough.”

                                              ~Janet Jackson True You (starting on page 151)