Friday Final Thought


“Observe the invincible tendency of the mind to unify. It is a law of our constitution that we should not contemplate things apart without the effort to arrange them in order with known facts and ascribe them to the same law.”

~Ralph Waldo Emerson (1836)




75 Questions: Day 50

When this 75 Questions series began, there were 75 days before the glittery start of a new Gregorian calendar year. So, for the next 25 days (Monday – Sunday) the blog postings will ask you one question. That question may inspire you, it may perplex you, it may anger you, or it may tickle you.  It’s about the dharma in you.

The intent of the 75 questions is to probe, to prompt a reaction, to get you to stretch, to press beyond tradition or boundaries, to think broader, to break free and then give a thoughtful answer to the question. Truly, it is to release the “Elephant” in your mind. To get to an epiphany.

elephantfrom Quan Jewelry

The overall intent of the 75 questions is to capture change. The questions are to be a catalyst for inner change that leaves you feeling more dynamic, safe, powerful, intrigued, and authentic. You are powerful. You have the courage and strength to grow and change.

When these amazing emotions are opened up within you (they already exist), you change and your world changes and the whole world changes with you.

Question 50: What is the elephant in your mind?

The Right Continuity: Three Ways to Sanity

“Skill to do comes of doing.”

                                                                                  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

You are not insane!  So many people have adopted the “insanity” definition – doing the same thing expecting a different result – that they are paralyzed with fear over the notion of looking insane.  Repeat after me:  I am NOT insane.  I am not insane! Continuous pursuit of what is right for you, that you passionately believe in is right.

Instead, you are practicing the right continuity.  You are pursuing your passion, lead by your inner drive to effect change.  You see a different path, you hear a different drumbeat, and you live a sane driven life to see your dream fulfilled.  The right continuity often means that you may have to go solo, which is fine so long as you are solid in the endeavor.  The Beatles were told to get lost, people would hnot listen to their music.  Dorothy Irene Height was told that her fight for African American women was in vain.  J. K. Rowling was told that children would not read her books.

These world changing pioneers, and a broad spectrum of others, continued right on.  They spoke out, they wrote-even on a napkin, they sang…over and over again.  Consuming passion meant to them that they could not stop even though it looked like what they were pursuing was insane.

You have the right to continue to pursue your hearts desire.  Instead of giving up, practice these sanity tips:

  1. Check your heart.  Do you feel deep in your heart that what you are doing is right and worthy?  If so, be happy and continue.  If not, objectively make the changes that resonate rightness within your heart and then continuously and bravely move forward.
  2. Check your eyes.  Are you seeing a sane future?  It matters not the chaos of the external world, what matters singularly doing with skill what you see that you must do.  We are all purposed with vision, many cloud their eyes by allowing the myopic cataract of fear to blind them to their right, purposeful and passionate pursuit of a better world.  Keep your eyes clear-see a sane future.
  3. Check your mind.  What are you saying to yourself?  Noticing what you are telling yourself, the stories you believe, can enrich your sanity or drive you to feel that you are insane.  Are you encouraging your passion or slowly blotting it out.  Repeat: I am not insane!

Use words that affirm, see a clear conclusion, and feel in your heart that your a right and that you have the right to continue to pursue your passion and life work.  Develop the skill of doing, practice sanity and rightly continue.

Miracle Monday: Imagination

What a day this will be, great bounties I can already see in my mind all possibility.

image provided by Idea go

Imagination governs the human race according to Napoleon.  The use of visualization allows you to imagine and see your miracle.  You already use imagination a lot every day, but to make it a Monday Miracle exercise, let’s amplify its use. For a test answer the following questions:

  1. What is the color of your bedspread?
  2. Does the bedspread have flowers?

How did you do? I am sure you were 100% accurate because you used the strong power of your imagination to vividly recall the answers.  You can do this for anything. Test it out. You can “see” or imagine yourself doing anything in the future or you can use your imagination to capture photographic memories of the past.  When you imagine happy things, you create happy memories along with similar feelings to go along with them. When you think of past pain, the same is true – you can recreate those solemn feelings too.  But,  the useful difference is that with imagination you can choose to picture these feelings any way that you want.

The mind cannot tell the difference

between a real or a vividly imagined experience.

So with each happy imagination you can make each one a miracle when the image is BOLD, BRIGHT, VIVID, COLORFUL and filled with feelings of emotional intensity. For the somber imaginings you can minimize their emotional effect by doing the exact opposite. Make somber, sad imaginations DRAB, GRAY, SMALL and no longer add feelings when you see this drab past.  Each time you think with sadness, do not deny the feeling, rather de-color it in your mind and move it far away from present memory far into the distance and fade it out as a gray grainy picture of the past.

Make vivid what brings you joy. Imagine peaceful happiness today, make that your miracle.

You Didn’t Say That!

You Didn’t Say That-no you didn’t!

We are bombarded with a minimum of 70,000 thoughts day and night. New science suggests that the number of thoughts that we process through our mind now reaches over a million given the frenetic, over stimulated environment we now live in. And, researchers add that almost 70% of those 1.2 million thoughts are negative. It causes one to wonder why there is so much stress, anger, and worry in the world.

Negative thoughts are learned. They come from previous messages that we have internalized, as early as childhood, which we have personalized and adopted as truth. Nothing could be further from the truth.

You are not those negative messages.

You were created with an inner happiness thermometer that should be blasting with joy, tranquility, understanding, love and compassion.  Happiness is natural to our being.

Thoughts become things, varied behaviorist, including those featured in The Secret: The Movie, validate this point.  When your life expressions are sourced from inner happiness you rise to your innate nobility and you walk and talk with an irresistible confidence that magnetizes and magnifies what you want and who you are. You begin to discover a vast unlimited power within yourself that frees you from fear and outer manipulation.

This is exactly why I opened my book, Climb Every Obstacle: Eliminate Your Limits, with a chapter that teaches you how to release your fear.  Fears become obstacles, fear destroys inner happiness. In the book you learn how to change 101 obstacles into opportunities- true opportunities for living well and happy.

You tap into your inner happiness with a powerful self belief that you are happy and deserve to be happy. Then we become beacons, we experience abundance and experience exhilarating tranquility.

Inner happiness already exists within all of us, no exception.  But because of our programming, it is clouded or covered over with mundane distractions and distortions.  You are whole and happy NOW!

Negative chatter is known to contribute to suicide, depression, obesity, bulimia, anorexia, fear, doubt, cancer, high blood pressure, autoimmune disease, stroke, heart attacks, infertility, impotence, loneliness, bullying, criticism, anger and a host of other physical, social and mental ills that stem from that 70% negative dialogue that goes on in our heads. Think about how we are bombarded and over stimulated day and night with images that do not feed our happiness. Yet, we thirst for release.

There is a reason why the new television show Secret Millionaire is a blockbuster hit. In fact the last show with millionaire Jerry Farber closes with this remark from him “if you want inner happiness do something for somebody else.” We all want to feel good even if it is vicariously.

In fact studies have shown that our mood is elevated just by the act of watching someone else do an act of kindness. Remember thoughts become things and the thing that we all want is happiness. It is just that basic.

Let us suppose our life is a tree. The laws of nature prove that if we water the tree with nourishment it will grow green and produce fruit. The same is true with our inner dialogue. If we water our minds with nourishing, positive inner happiness messages our tree will bear sweet, succulent fruit otherwise we will cultivate bitter, sour fruit and eventually our tree will become diseased and die.   One happy inner thought bears more fruit and life energy than ten sour thoughts.

Consciously change. Wipe your inner slate clean—like a tabla rosa.  Let me start by giving everyone this exercise:

For the next 21 days, the amount of time for your brain to create new pathways and habits, I want you to repeat to yourself ONLY positive words. Stand in front of a mirror with your hand over your heart and repeat something like this: In my world nothing ever goes wrong, or I am me and I love me and my world, or I am a happy and joyful being and then touch your head. Repeat these mantras declarations often every day for 21 days with a gorgeous smile and I guarantee you will feel a transformation and shift to a restful pace of inner happiness. Repetition and emotion are the most powerful way to change mind responses.

Next, I want you to pay attention to the mental pollution that goes on in your mind and then diffuse the negativity by following these ABCD steps:.

Ask yourself – is this true? One of the best ways to recognize these automatic negative feelings is to be still, meditate, pause and slow down and listen to the sickening inner dialogue.  Then, question the validity of the thought and immediately take the second step which is to brand a new belief.

Brand into your mind that you are wonderful, exciting, lovable, valuable. Go back to your 21 day exercise if you need too and use those positive words to create your inner happiness.

Combat and challenge negative self-talk. That’s what I had to do. Call it out, fight for your inner happiness. Say out loud, You DIDN’T say that, get an attitude about it, be emphatic- your happiness depends on it.

DO your bucket list now. By this I mean that inner happiness requires that you start doing the fun and exciting things that you enjoy now rather than wait until you can wear purple – build inner happiness in the present without doubt or fear.

Remember thoughts become things and the thing that you deserve is happiness. This is your birthright – nobility and happiness.