Come Clean in 2019

New Year'S Day, New Year'S Eve, Abstract

Make this your new all-year mantra:

I will Come Clean in 2019

Say it again: I will come clean in 2019

Right now today and every day from now on all through 2019—do what it takes for you to come clean so you can authentically live your dreams.  Be honest about your dreams, tell the truth about what’s in your heart, expose how you are really doing (maybe for the first time ever), acknowledge your doubts and fears, be bold-share your challenges and success.

The challenge for you in 2019 is essentially internal—know who you are inside and out.  Invest in hearing your true inner thoughts. Evaluate your insecurities, claim your goals and desires, accept that you can and will change, and vividly see your achievements.

First, have no fear. Hear and feel the authentic YOU. Quietly, without judgment, examine in increments your doubts and insecurities.  Everyone has them; face whatever comes up with courage and confidence.  Change any thought of “impossible” to I’M POSSIBLE, that’s really who you are.

Start now by celebrating 2019.  This is your year to make changes in your life and thus in the world.  It may feel daunting at first to accept responsibility for self-change and then think about how this change , however minute, affects the world. Make life changes- feel the fear (doubt or insecurity) and dogmatically do it anyway.

Next, accept that change is both a challenge and a bounty that you desire and deserve. Get ready now, work on yourself with a positive mindset, so that you are prepared to proudly claim your goals and desires.

I will come clean in 2019

The year 2019 is 365 days long; keep who you are and what you purpose to do in your heart, mind and soul all day every day and make progress towards that by vamping up your selective activities, network, contacts, and incremental projects to reach your goal(s).

Remember a goal without a definite completion date is only a longing. Write down each goal with a close out date.

       “Do one thing every day that scares you.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt

What one daily activity will you do to come clean in 2019? Write out your list of tasks (they may scare you) that stretch your exposure zone every day.

Here are suggestions that will enable you to make the scary into the sacred:

  • Read:

Climb Every Obstacle; Eliminate Your Limits! – Anita Jefferson

The 9 Steps to Financial Freedom: Practical and Spiritual Steps so You Can Stop Worrying –Suze Orman

The Abundance Book

Strengths Finder – Tom Rath

Wake Up Happy – Michael Strahan

Living Large for the Long Haul – Clark Howard

The Secret

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success – Deepak Chopra

Oh, the Places You’ll Go – Dr. Seuss

“Congratulations! Today is your day…You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. YOU can steer yourself any direction you choose….” ~Dr. Seuss


  • Meditate

Meditation is to the mind what aerobic exercise is to the body.

  • Write it down

Write It Down Make it Happen: Knowing What You Want and Getting It  (Henriette Anne Klauser, Ph.D.)

  • Make a Goal List

Goal Setting

  • Make a Dreamboard
  • Listen to music
  • Dance
  • Repeat daily as often as you like – I will come clean in 2019

Make each day in 2019 your day to come clean.  Examine what scares you (doubts, fear, insecurity) and make it sacred.

“Fear does not exist, only interpretations.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche

75 Questions: Day 13


There are 75 days before the start of a new Gregorian calendar year. So, for the next 63 days (Monday – Sunday) the blog postings will ask you one question. That question may inspire you, it may perplex you, it may anger you, or it may tickle you. The whole thrust of the 75 questions is to prompt a reaction and honest answer to the probe.

The unfiltered intent of the 75 questions is to capture change. The questions are to be a catalyst for inner change that leaves you feeling more dynamic, powerful, intrigued, and authentic. When these salient emotions are opened up within you (they already exist), you change and your world changes and the whole world changes with you.

Post your answers, you will get a response to your replies and we will use these 75 questions to lift life as the year 2017 begins.

What does the world need now?

Do It Your Way

Millions watched the 100 year birthday celebration for Frank Sinatra last night, it was extraordinary.  My primary take-away is that Mr. Sinatra loved music, people and life.  He made no apologies for living his way and that is what I submit for you to do in 2016-Live your life your way.frank sinatra@franksinatra

His smile, Sinatra’s persona, his life of inclusion-were all done his way. The benefit of living your life “your way” is that you authentically live YOU and only you.

  • You suspend seeking approval from others, you instead know yourself intimately and choose to live as you creatively dictate.
  • You forego personal vacancy, instead you kindly occupy your own life space.
  • You cancel imitation and chart your purposed destiny.

Be your own “Chairman of the Board” and live your life and love your way!

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Fantastic Friday: Andrea Bocelli

Andrea Bocelli

When renowned tenor Andrea Bocelli sings, the world listens. Audiences listen with rapt attention as this man, also known as the “fourth tenor” touches hearts with his gifted voice. It appears Bocelli was destined to sing, but his life is varied and rich-that’s what is so fantastic.

Andrea Bocelli was born with the middle name, Angel, 22 September 1958 in Lajatico, Italy to parents who defied medical advice to abort their angel. It became apparent at an early age that Bocelli had a sight impairment but his parents encouraged him to play sports and develop his musical talent, allowing him to start studying the piano from age six. His musical passion extended later to the trumpet, guitar, flute and the saxophone but it was his golden voice that charted his destiny.

“Destiny has a lot to do with it, but so do you. You have to persevere, you have to insist.” ~Andrea Bocelli

He persevered, in spite of a slate of obstacles, to earn a law degree from the University of Pisa. But singing and music remained a passion. So, he sang in Italian piano bars at night and was eventually discovered. His tenor voice is distinct,  recognized without introduction.

You just know its Andrea. He started his music soliloquy winning contests, in operas and performing awe-inspiring concerts in Italy, Germany, the United States.   He was won prestigious awards, sang for the Pope, and enjoyed his life as a father to three children.

Accustomed to leaping over apparently insurmountable obstacles, the Tuscan tenor proves that insistently living your passion is the guidance of destiny. Amazing grace.

Fantastic, I am a devoted fan.

‘Tis the Season

We are already being bombarded by commercials and ad solicitations that could entice us to buy…tis the season. But, the operative word in the sentence above is COULD.

You control your choices. Yes, you could buy and spend or you could save and create memories without accumulating more things and debt. The choice and the outcome is up to you.

Here’s a seasonal suggestion:
*Spend some time alone. Reflect on the power of you. Really get in tune with your recessed greatness and then build upon that awareness as your seasonal starting point for powerful lasting change.

Seasons arrive in symmetry for a reason. Take this season to reason out who you really are. Tap into your passion and go out and live from that passion born of the season.

For example, if you enjoy music-say for instance country music, then that may be a latent passion of yours. Instead of just listening to country music this season, go a little deeper and may be write a short country music song. You may want to copyright the lyrics you have penned and shop them for publication and eventual performance by a country music artist or yourself even. Or, you just may want to keep your lyrical musings private in your own collection.

The main point here is to activate your passion with ACTION! Do something that you love. Dr. Wayne Dyer, in the Power of Intention, writes that “Whatever you intend to create in your life involves generating the same life-giving active quality that brings everything into existence.”
Bring your passion into existence this season,

Material things just don’t satisfy long-term. But, soul-born passions endure until infinity. Live beyond tomorrow.

Don’t Stereotype

We are so bombarded with negative images and commentary about young Black males that it takes effort to counteract the constant news flashes of them in chains before a judge or being loaded in a police car.

I am taking the effort tonight to tell my story. Last night after a horrendous flight on Delta Airlines from Chicago to Atlanta I struggled to walk to get to my car in the parking lot. Many people walked right by me without even a glance of concern (where was ABC’s John Quionnes for this one?) but two young Black males helped me not only get on the escalator but also ran ahead to catch my bag which I had thrown on earlier.

Now if I had just looked at their dress or age group or race I would have expected them to pass me by too, but they did not. These young men stopped and helped and then went on their way. It felt so natural; I believe their parents taught them respect and manners.

Even though they wore the baseball cap and were not spiffy in their dress, they defied stereotype hype and helped me just like a caring gentle-man would. I owe it to them to say “thank you.”

Instead of bending to fear based on stereotypes, I willingly accepted their help.

There is a story circulating around about a women who won a big jackpot in Las Vegas. She decided to take her winnings to her room, but as she entered the elevator there stood two tall Black males and one said “hit the floor.” The white woman fearing for her safety fell down and lost all of her coins while the men laughed uncontrollably. After the elevator door opened they helped her pick up her coins and put them back in her bucket while still laughing hysterically as they went down the hall to their room. The next morning the woman received a humongous bunch of roses with a hundred dollar bill attached to each rose with a note, “Thanks for the best laugh we have ever had. Signed Eddie Murphy and Michael Jordan.”

Don’t stereotype – there are so many good young Black men in this world that are overlooked in the media and in our communities. Praise them and let’s change this violent mass image that we often see and read about.

Send in your comments and positive stories about Black youth and Black men.

I am  not denying that there is an epidemic of crime committed by young Black males. What I am saying is that we should not typecast every person in that classification as thugs. I do not and nor should you.

Recommended Reading: The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness (The New Press:2010)  by Michelle Alexander.