“Nothing is so strong as gentleness; nothing is so gentle as real strength.”
~De Sales, St. Francis (1567-1622)
When the blog questions began 75 days ago it was exactly 75 days before the beginning of New Year 2017, according to the Gregorian calendar. The countdown began and now there are 5 days until New Year starts (Monday – Sunday). As is customary, the remaining blog postings will ask you just one question. That question may inspire you, it may perplex you, it may anger you, it may be the catalyst for indelible change, or it may even tickle you.
The intent of all 75 questions is to probe, to prompt a reaction, to get you to stretch, to press beyond tradition or boundaries, to think broader, to break free, to face the fear, or liberate you by confirming what you already know for sure. You are only asked to respond each day with a thoughtful answer to the question.
Each question, ultimately, is to give you the intimate space to recover how to love yourself which universally expands and to allow you to love and live with empathy for others.
These 75 question can precipitate change. The question is to be a inquiry into pathways of inner change that leaves you feeling more healthy, safe, in control, powerful, intrigued, and authentic.
Question 70: What is your zone of peace?
There are 75 days before the start of a new Gregorian calendar year. So, for the next 52 days (Monday – Sunday) the blog postings will ask you one question. That question may inspire you, it may perplex you, it may anger you, or it may tickle you. It’s about the real in you. The whole thrust of the 75 questions is to prompt a reaction and honest answer to the probe.
The overall intent of the 75 questions is to capture change. The questions are to be a catalyst for inner change that leaves you feeling more dynamic, powerful, intrigued, and authentic. When these salient emotions are opened up within you (they already exist), you change and your world changes and the whole world changes with you.
Post your answers, you will get a response to your replies and we will use these 75 questions to lift life as the year 2017 begins.
Question 23: What must you forget?
There are 75 days before the start of a new Gregorian calendar year. So, for the next 59 days (Monday – Sunday) the blog postings will ask you one question. That question may inspire you, it may perplex you, it may anger you, or it may tickle you. The collective thrust of the 75 questions is to prompt a reaction and honest answer to the probe.
The unfiltered intent of the 75 questions is to capture change. The questions are to be a catalyst for inner change that leaves you feeling more dynamic, powerful, intrigued, and authentic. When these salient emotions are opened up within you (they already exist), you change and your world changes and the whole world changes with you.
Your countdown continues…
Question 17: When are you at peace?
The path to inner peace is actually simple. Yet, most find it difficult to release old wounds, quiet frustrations, or sidestep stress in order to reach the nirvana of inner peace. When you decide that the past is over and that you can only accept the future, then you can enter the realm of loving peace.
“Full of love for all things in the world, practicing virtue, in order to benefit others, by this man alone is happy.” ~Guatama Buddha (563-483BCE)
Love all things, even challenges that present themselves for your growth. Challenges are teachable moments which intend to re-train old destructive habits and responses into graceful acceptance of what is now present. Life is full of pain, it is how you respond to the impulse of emotional pain that changes the person.
Life is not meant to be a stress rehearsal.
Rather than waltz to stress dis-cords, fill your life with loving, healthy thoughts and experiences. Create a mantra for your life that represents love, joy, and peace and do not allow anything or anyone to violate the love, joy and peace that is integral to your well-being.
It is axiomatic, when you feel good, you share good and that good then expands to heal the world. Life is bestowed upon everyone; make sure you inculcate what is good so that what you expose to others is good.
5 Secrets to Inner Peace
- Pay attention. Really listen, and hear your feelings. Capture peace by attuning your mind to what you are feeling right now. The more attentive you are to your true feelings, the faster you recognize negative energy and can stop stress triggers from invading your intrinsic peace.
- Be still. Activity is over-rated. Stop and smell the evergreens, slow down and notice the beauty around you. Listen to the bees; watch a butterfly graciously wing its flight. Meditate on the things that are joyous and peaceful. Draw a Mandela or walk a labyrinth. Slow your pace, seek tranquility.
- Connect deep. Connect with others, go beyond surface, polite conversation and build a deep loving association with someone in your life. You will likely find that blending your life with another in a non-sexual friendship improves your outlook and resolves the stress inducing shadow of isolation.
- Get involved. Make a life investment in something or someone. Fight apathy. Collaborate with others who seek solutions. Gain courage from your passionate conviction. Share your talent(s) and soon a change movement will gather momentum.
- Love life. The practice of loving life-in spite of turmoil-contributes greatly to inner peace. Bless your life and the lives of others with omniscient love, ever present and ever-lasting. Devote the majority of your energy to loving life, feel the eruption of gratitude. Give thanks, give love. Love your life!
Simplify your emotions so that your soul can breathe.
Light up the world, illumine your inner peace.
“For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.” ~The Honorable Nelson Mandela
President Mandela broke every chain. In breaking his chains, he always lived free. Prison may have confined him, but the burning core of unity in diversity and the cause of freedom for humankind was his everlasting freedom song.
“I hate race discrimination most intensely and in all its manifestations. I have fought it all during my life; I fight it now, and will do so until the end of my days.” ~Rolihlahla Mandela
The summary of his life, the longevity of his struggle, and Mr. Mandela’s compassion ultimately formulated his resolve. Human rights, peaceful struggler, and learned fearless leadership are limited descriptions of this insightful man who defied prison and chains.
Madiba Mandela was a humanitarian. His foundations, including 46664 – his number while at Robben Island – embeds engagement. This indefatigable, renowned world leader engaged the consciousness of nations and individuals to speak and live peace.
Peter Beinart, in a recent article, Don’t Sanitize Nelson Mandela: He’s Honored Now, But Was Hated Then, reminds the world, especially Americans, that Mr. Mandela struggled, yet stood firm in his clarity that America “was not pure.” Thus, according to Beinart, “not long ago, in Washington‘s highest circles, he was considered an enemy of the United States. Unless we remember why, we won’t truly honor his legacy. In the 1980s, Ronald Reagan placed Mandela’s African National Congress on America’s official list of “terrorist” groups. In 1985, then-Congressman Dick Cheney voted against a resolution urging that he be released from jail… As late as 2008, the ANC remained on America’s terrorism watch list, thus requiring the 89-year-old Mandela to receive a special waiver from the secretary of State to visit the U.S.”
In spite of his “enemy” status, Nelson Mandela came to America in 1990; I was among one of the cheering crowds who were honored to be in the presence of this humble giant who championed the prize of freedom. How long, not long could have been his mantra since he knew his freedom, in spite of the oppression of apartheid every day. Not long, but at least 27 years of unjust confinement, never truly imprisoned the spirit of the man.
Freedom and restful peace, Mr. President Mandela
- Nelson Mandela Was On The U.S. Terrorist Watch List Until 2008 (huffingtonpost.com)
- Nelson Mandela, revered statesman and anti-apartheid leader, dies at 95 (news.yahoo.com)
- Rest in peace, Madiba. Thank you for everything. (dailymaverick.co.za)
- Mandela, My Countryman (newyorker.com)
- Day 5: Honoring The Great Nelson Mandela (ameliareid.wordpress.com)
Success demands finality. Progress is determined by completion. Thus, progressive success is predicated upon finishing. Equivocation, sitting on the fence does not bring closure.
Closure comes from finality. Making a final decision, checking off your lists of tasks, clearing clutter miraculously bridges the divide between getting things done with final flair or remaining in a vacillating vacuum. Closure fights fear-you’ve done it. That final resolution, regardless of how painful or muddled the situation was, is a triumph that is stored in your soul and cannot be taken away.
Professor Hossein Arsham believes that “decisions are at the heart of leader success, and at times there are critical moments when they can be difficult, perplexing, and nerve-racking. However, the boldest decisions are the safest.”
Finality is stimulating and is safe. The more you finish, the more you will finish. Getting things done by reaching a final decision is restorative. Many people use vacillation or procrastination because they are afraid.
The what if? questions prompts wavering and doubt. Delaying decisions will only delay your peace of mind. Once you have made a final choice, that is done and over with-FINALLY! Keep your peace, make a decision and release fear and doubt.
Here is a tip to reach a final decision:
- Play out the “what if?” scenario for a block of time. Make a decision tree. Decision-making experts say that this exercise can take from 15 minutes to a 1/2 day to multiple days depending on the complexity of the problem you are considering. Regardless of time frame, you will conclude with a final decision.
Finality is a breath of relief. Breathe deep, make a decision. Oh what a relief it is.
- Making A Decision (halsom200.wordpress.com)