Emotional Exercise 5

Exhale, you have been through four rigorous exercises. Job well done; finish line ahead.

  1. How do you feel?
  2. What has changed?
  3. Who are you?

Don’t skip over these three questions – answer them out loud with your hand over your heart. Feel the vibration as you orally recognize that you feel different, are different and are fully aware of your mental and physical being.

In fact, send me your answers so that you too have a written record for posterity. When you write your feelings and your expectations along with vocalizing them, according to Jack Canfield in The Power of Focus, you are imprinting inviolable strength and tapping  your inner support for powerful change.

What really makes me happy is knowing I can tap into the well of strength that rests within me…

No one can ever take from you … the assurance that you are enough, that you are the joy the world needs.”—  Samantha Page

Now that you have done this, you are ready for the final Emotional Exercise Five. Congratulations.

Emotional Exercise 5:

     Draw a mandala and place your goal (the WHY and VALUE statements with an end point) from Emotional Exercise Four at the bottom of your mandala.

A mandala in simple terms means “circle” or “center.” Shapes and patterns are added to a clearly identified calming central point.

  • Mandalas are the merging for healing of body, spirit and soul
  • Mandalas uncover your own creativity
  • Mandalas help you discover what is real for you
  • Mandalas allow you to master your inner and outer being
  • Mandalas aide calm and assist you to gain trust and composure

Do an internet search on mandalas and you will find origin information, free mandala drawing pages, and all sorts of interesting information about creating your own unique artistic representation of yourself and your goal.  It does not matter if your mandala is crude or intricate, the main point here is to use your creative, fun, and free-spirit side of your brain and your life.

You have become a master creator.  Post your mandala with your goal written at the bottom, the one you created, in a prominent place that you will see daily and often.  Free your mind, the outcome will follow.

Life is the performance of function; and the individual really lives only when he performs every function – physical, mental, and spiritual – of which he is capable.”       ~Dennis Wattles

You have a right to what you desire, so pursue your intentional goal(s) with unbiased fervor. Want completely.  Love intensely.  Live with passion that is with full faith and function.

Emotions are indicators of inner feelings that should be exercised or exorcised, depending on where they come from.  The emotions that we have exercised, I along with you, has oxygenated a new you, defined a passion, and inculcated an imprint of exciting rich, colorful change.   There is no more to be done.  Remain active, exercise your emotions often – pause and take the time for more inner discovery.

Don’t stop at one mandala, unless you want to. You can do this for each goal, outcome that you have. Create a symbolic picture of your core value and goal.

Emotional Exercise Five is complete – when your mandala masterpiece with the goal written at the bottom is done.

Feel free, I absolutely invite you to do this, to upload your creative images to this blog. This would be wonderful!

Give thanks.

Be, just be.

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Recommended Reading:

The Power of Focus, Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Les Hewitt

Climb Every Obstacle: Eliminate Your Limits!, Anita Jefferson

The Mandala Book: Patterns of the Universe, Lori Bailey Cunningham

When Perfect isn’t Good Enough, Martin Anthony and Richard Swinson

Websites:

http://www.mandalaproject.org

http://www.free-mandala.com

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Emotional Exercise 4

The happiest life is that which constantly exercises and educates what is best in us.    ~Hamerton

You have reached a pinpoint moment in your life by already completing Emotional Exercises 1, 2, and 3.  Really, I mean really, really feel good about doing the exercises.  Taking effective action and piercing your layers of socialization and emotional makeup is life altering.  But, we are not done yet, Emotional Exercise 4 is here.

But, before I begin the instructions for it, please sit in a quiet place with your feet on the floor and just smile. Smile deeply and feel the resonance of inner happiness and joy that knows you have begun to re-frame your emotions into a sacred personal picture/vision of who you are that is intimate with accurate and acute, deep feelings about what you passionately desire that is bordered with vivid coloration of WHY you deserve to have it all and more.  Smile from your eyes, smile from your heart and smile from your soul inside. Priceless

How refreshing.  Smiling releases healing endorphins which ready you for Emotional Exercise 4.  Here are your instructions:

  • Repeat Exercise 1 by refreshing your memory about the free-form word list that you wrote. You are only given three minutes for this part-look, review, and stop. Your three minutes are up.
  • Next, take five minutes and read your WHY list that you wrote in Emotional Exercise 2. Five minute review, stop!
  • Third, read your ONE value. It should be so ingrained in your being that you know, with an inner “I got this” knowing that you can recall your ONE value without paper.  If you have to look it up or find it, go back to Emotional Exercise 3 and repeat until you are clear and definite about that ONE value that surpasses all others.
  •  New instruction – have a Walmart moment; match it!  Match your one WHY with your ONE value and then write your goal using those words. 

For example: my WHY is to feel and be healthy at a weight that supports longevity and my ONE value is self-respect.  Therein, my goal statement is to exercise for at least 30 minutes a day and reach a pumping heart rate so that I will lose weight and reach a weight goal of 165 pounds which will strengthen my self-respect and heighten my peace of accomplishment.

Notice the words in my stated goal. You see action (exercise), you see a definite schedule (30 minutes a day), you see intensity (heart pumping heart rate), you see my end point (165 pounds) and you see how much I value self-respect and why (strengthen and heighten accomplishment).  This goal is clear and strong in that I acknowledge that I already have high self-respect and peace within myself around this specific goal.  Also, note that this is one goal – my value changes with each of my other goals. For instance, loving and being loved is the prime value in my relationship goal. This makes sense; each goal should carry a value specific to it.

→To complete Emotional Exercise 4 – write your value and goal statement that incorporates your WHY and ONE value that is definite, clear, meshes feelings with intent, and has an end point.  That is what a goal is – it is a written statement and mental picture that is full of emotion that states what you want to achieve that is definite and has a point of closure.   Match it! Line up these two things – what you value with your why – as a deliberate, absolute statement of intention that invests your deepest emotions and states a end point.

When all of this is synchronized and in harmony with your inner belief, you will see your choices and outlook radically change.  A study of achievers prove that this formula — a true match of WHY and VALUE with a ending time frame — is what sets them apart from those who talk and are guided by fear.

Hint, you can probably guess what Emotional Exercise 5 might be.  If not, and even if you can guess what it is, this closing exercise will seal your success, solidify your choices, and solve your recidivism.  Gaming is over, only goals are ahead.

For now, go back to your quiet place after you have finished writing your statement and SMILE! Get to your happy spot because you are designing YOUR happiest life which constantly exercises and educates what is best for you.

You are loved!

Emotional Exercise 3

Strength can only be developed by practice and effort. Emotional Exercise strengthens the mental  power vital to success.

 

By now you have completed Emotional Exercise 1 and Emotional Exercise 2. Congratulations-you have undertaken two mental power components that strengthen your purpose vitality.  It will be helpful, as we proceed to Emotional Exercise 3, to review both exercises again. Remind yourself of WHAT you want and WHY these wants are important/valuable to you.  The emotional linkage of the two is vital to conquering doubt and fear.  Reminder: re-reading or even re-doing either or both is perfectly fine. I have done this exercise three times already and tested it twice out on a diverse population sample in advance of posting it to you. Repetition is good, practice and effort strengthens.

Emotional Exercise 3: 

  • Take a look at the ten things listed in the column below:  Write ALL ten down on a separate piece of paper.
  1. Job and money
  2. religion/spirituality
  3. good health
  4. friends
  5. family
  6. independence/ability to make your own decisions
  7. self-respect
  8. being a loving person/being loved
  9. freedom
  10. good life/social parties/entertainment
  • Now, take away four of those from the list above. Just cross them out on your sheet of paper.
  • Next, take away four more. Cross out four more from the list.
  • Take away ONE more from the list.
  • STOP and look at the one thing you have left from the list. Really pause and see the word you have kept from your list.  This word is what you value and hold most precious.  This is your ONE THING that is sacred, soul-touching, most valuable to you in the present.

Write the ONE THING you have left on a separate piece of paper or page in your journal.  This is important because that ONE THING is your mental governor, the thing that you will do anything to protect and hold secure in your life.

  • Ask yourself – write down the answer here – am I making decisions and living the life that proves that this ONE THING is my lifeline, my purpose? Am I living on purpose – protecting what I MOST value right now?

I know this part of Emotional Exercise 3  is difficult, hard to use an inner scope of thought to see and feel the ONE thing that you value and then probe into how you are living to protect that ONE thing.  But, strength only comes with practice and effort.  Take the effort of clearly comprehend this ONE point of your POWER and TRIUMPH.  Once you inculcate this, you become a strong fortress.  Don’t hold back-make the effort. Identify what you are doing, or not doing, to strengthen your ONE THING. Write it all down, study this question over and over again. Over and over again, probe and study this question until it becomes a legitimate, honest true concentration of who you are; until it becomes an unarguable purpose that is only for you and only made for you and can only be done by you.  

This is heavy stuff, but your mental freedom depends on the effort and practice of cleaning up the dross and defining in clear detail the ONE THING for you.

  • Write your ONE THING on multiple pieces of paper – post it notes, stickys, index cards,  poster stock, color paper.
  • Place your ONE THING everywhere. In the bath mirror, on exit doors, in your wallet, on the desk, in a photo frame, as wallpaper on your computer, in OneNote; see it often.

We will continue with Emotional Exercise 4 later in the week. For now, do Exercise 3 with fortitude and grace; see and concentrate on your purposed ONE THING.

Thank you for the trust and work you have done in Emotional Exercise 3 and for the tolerance you have exhibited to get you here. Know your ONE THING or work harder and with purposeful effort to get to know your one thing. Once this is crystallized and deeply ingested, you are on the precipice of lasting change.

I purpose you goodness, be well.

Emotional Exercise 2

How do you feel now that you have completed Emotional Exercise 1?

When I finished my exercise yesterday, as we journey through behavioral change together, and the past two times I have completed Emotional Exercise 1, I felt so connected to my pure truth of self. It felt like a gentle cleansing that washed away anything unworthy of my highest intention. I felt then and now feel again so light, clean, and assured.  Taking time for introspection, which is where the words you wrote yesterday came from, is an initial step to increased self-recognition. It is a power move that strengthens and clarifies the inner essence of you.  The authentic you is someone who trusts and loves. The inner you is confident, fearless. The subconscious is instinctive, emotionally free.

Emotional Exercise 1 exposes your power. That exercise also reveals the ingrained emotional enemies that sabotage your authenticity, happiness, wisdom, power, attitude, achievement, and eventually the ultimate manifestation of your true purpose in life.  This is why I suggest that you repeat Emotional Exercise 1 often and pair it with the learning insight you will get from Emotional Exercise 2.

I discovered three times (from each time that I completed Emotional Exercise 1) that I had an internal conflict that must be resolved in order for me to share a whole, supportive relationship with my intended helpmate. I GET it now! But, until this was revealed to me and I was willing to accept the truth that showed up three times, my relationship behavior that would attract the man who would love and support me would not happen.  Even though I knew that my previous preparation for a helpmate indicated a shift, this time I believe because I went deeper into my heart energy and I also opened up more to allow stronger illumination so that I could see what change I needed to adopt, I clearly know now what and who to allow within the sacred  space of my heart.

“Our greatest enemies, the ones we must fight most often, are within.” ~Thomas Paine

Now that you are energized, light hearted, uplifted, and fearless about your future, let’s get into Emotional Exercise 2.

Assignment:

  • Open your page from Emotional Exercise 1 (that you wrote out free form yesterday) and quickly read your words.  Still, no judgment, no negative chatter about how ridiculous what you wrote sounds like while reading it today, NOTHING. True objectivity is required here.  Just read and absorb the inner promptings from Emotional Exercise 1.
  • Next, write on the back of your page – WHY. At the top of the opposite page that you wrote out Emotional Exercise 1, write in longhand again in a free form style the reasons WHY do you see yourself in such a whole, happy place six months from now.  Dig into the emotions of WHY you will change and what it means to you.

Again, do not belabor this, just write. Write. Write for  30 minutes.  Get into WHY.  Challenge your surface emotions and go deeper into more real, substantive reasons WHY you know you want this emotional and behavior change and knowingly attach the feelings with it.  Write and feel the feelings too.  Write, open up, flow with the words of justification and right emotions.  No judgment, no fear, no doubt.  Don’t linger or get impatient.

Emotional Exercise 2 tends to be tougher because you are asking yourself why do you deserve the exhilaration of being in Sedona, why you are excited about losing weight and getting your sexy whole self back. You are probing deep into WHY you deserve joy and happiness in whatever form these Emotional  Exercises reveal unto you.

Stay with it, write for only 30 minutes. Feel the lightness in your being. Attach the emotions to your achievement. Exercise your emotions. Write.

  • Stop. Write and put your pen down after you have reached my requested 30 minutes of writing time. I know it feels good to get it out, to let the pent-up reserved part of your subconscious emotions that you buried safely and deeply to avoid the superficial injuries of doubt, sabotage, ridicule, fear, or impossibility maim your true destiny and happiness become known and your strengthen your inner resolve. All good, but Rome was not built in a day and you will not resolve these deep pockets of shaded pain in one writing session.  Stop writing and rest in the emerging feeling of deserved happiness inside.
  • Feel deserving of ALL you desire and are purposed for. Feel the emotions of the exercise and rest. Let this marinate, absorb the power and freedom you feel.  Internalize the emotions. Inculcate deeply your vision of purposeful joy.  Touch your authentic self.

You are in charge of this new point of view. See the glorious horizons, feel the joy.

Exercise 3 will come to you next week. Right now and for the days until we get to Emotional Exercise 3 – feel the feelings of your emotions.   Feel the joy. See your horizons.  Smell the refreshing resonance of pure, refreshing change. Stay with these feelings – don’t bury them again. Let your feelings breathe and you breathe rare, mountaintop pure air of your authentic self.

Don’t let these emotions go. Attach yourself to the illumination and guided light into your near future.  You deserve every second of elation. You need the strength of this new found exhilaration. You must travel to and make the behavioral change of your intended glory.

Feel the feelings and grow.

I thank you for completing Emotional Exercise 2. Let me offer my highest gratitude and expectation that you will ingest the feelings and learning from both Emotional Exercise 1 and 2 into your permanent being.  Live in-joy.

Emotional Exercise 1

Most people fear change. No matter how much you are aware of and talk about making a change in your life usually because of the undercurrent of fear it is not done.

The intent of the Emotional Exercise that I will write about and the Assignment given is to push you beyond the limiting fear. You can rule the world. You can live your dreams. You can climb any obstacle. You can live the best life ever!

 You cannot talk yourself out of what you behave yourself into

Talk just will NOT do it. It takes emotional exercise (action) to change behavior. The reason why I am attaching emotion to exercise is because it takes the two together to modify behavior and outlook. One without the other is futile; exercise without emotion often becomes a faded dream that eventually dissipates into a vague longing which eventually becomes a mark of disappointment.  The pile on of one disappointment after another is the primary reason most people  just give up and retreat to just repetitive sad talk about change.

You can change and be a better person. You can change and connect without fear. You can have the emotional freedom you desire. It takes personal accountability, seeing and feeling your mind power, emotional energy, patience, and potent joy. 

Use Emotional Exercise to create new behavior

Your Emotional Exercise 1 for today:

  • Clear all, I really mean ALL distractions for 30 minutes. No computer, no cell phone, no telephone, no handheld device, no smartphone, no email, no television-NOTHING for 30 minutes.  If you find you are having difficulty doing this for 30 minutes – leave the page. You do not want to change. You are not ready to change. More power to you.  But, if you are willing to invest 30 minutes to refine a new you, then take the next step.
  • Get a piece of paper or go to a clean page in your journal. Write. That’s all you are required to do for thirty minutes. Write free-form, no editing, no thinking about polite words, put your sanitized mind to rest for 30 minutes and just write in random form whatever comes to your mind.  Write everything, anything you want to write.

Write in longhand a stream of consciousness musing. Write what is in your mind. No filters. No judgment. No wrong or right words. Just write words. Describe you. Write.

  • Breathe. Write and breathe in the freshness of putting onto paper everything you can imagine about you, your life, your outcomes, your behavior for the next six months to a year

Take deep breaths, let the words you are writing go deep within-no judgement, no cynicism,  no doubt or fear. Just breathe in refreshing, restorative air and write for 30 minutes.

  • Feel your words. No judgment, no doubt, no reservations here. JUST FEEL! No censors.
  • Stop. When you have reached 30 minutes – STOP. Be disciplined here-stop. Fold your paper and put it away. Do NOT read what you wrote. Fold your page in the journal or fold the sheet of paper you wrote on and put it away. No discussion. Nothing. File your page away in a safe place where only you will see it when you get to Emotional Exercise 2.
  • You are done for the day – feel good about that!

This first imprint Emotional Exercise is complete. It is your pivot step to behavior change.

I am proud of what you have done today.  Look for Emotional Exercise 2 tomorrow. We will build upon this exercise to strengthen your behavior change.

Thank you for your trust and inner courage.