Planget Quiet: Just for You

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It is time to relax, take a seat and remove the head mire in plangent quiet.

So often each day is full of frenetic movement,  help given without reserve, and mindless habits such that taking a rest is uncommon.  Yet, after exiting the womb, it is common for the baby to close their eyes and rest. Be like a baby for now; rest. Restore your mind and body.  Take a moment, right now, and relax and rest. Quiet, please.

Plangent quiet could be an oxymoron, a truly extreme juxtaposition of words. But, it this post, it is meant to remind you to relax in the place where you are right now. Delaying is not optional unless it  would thrust you into danger; then use caution but when you are safe, relax in the quiet. Injury to yourself or others is not the intent, but what is is the directive to safely take a moment to rest.

The adjective plangent means resounding loudly. Adding the word quiet to plangent implies a deliberate, resounding intention to be still and bask in the self-need for quiet for a moment. Take a few minutes then to kindle the spirit of hope, charity, love and passion-let it move into your being and cast out activity, worry, sadness, doubt, fear.

Be still, be quiet and contemplate you.

“The sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.” ~Carl G. Jung

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Clear Vision: Clarity in 3 Steps

Red smudges shaped as heart            Corbis photographer:© Thanh-Khoa Tran/Corbis

“Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” —C.G. Jung

Look inside, awaken to clarity.  Looking around, hither and yon, seeking external confirmation does not lead to inner discovery. You must look deep into your heart to clearly see what is purposed for you.  Clear vision often happens when you soul search but you must need to do more. Dig deep and penetrate as you concentrate. Penetrating your inner desires, manifests clarity of passion, purpose, and power.

Passion, purpose and power is not a dream state, but a clear knowing that is integral to you. It matters not the source to which we turn outside of ourselves to fix ourselves, it cannot be done. Try as hard as you can to point to “if only” or “someone” to complete you, it is a futile projection. Only you can awaken to life and clear vision.

The premise of the book, Climb Every Obstacle: Eliminate Your Limits! is that you are the CEO of your life, only you. Once you recognize that you are your life’s chief operator and begin to trust your influence and ability, the things you intend to achieve is then actualized through the benefit of clear vision.

Clarity is achievable. Use these three steps to clear your vision:

  1.  Pause for a minimum of five minutes a day for the next twelve days (the time it generally takes to inculcate a new habit) and listen to your heart. Really probe, examine what is your true heart’s desire. Embrace whatever surfaces; let the longing of your heart express itself.
  2. Plan for what you hear from your heart.  Oftentimes, a true longing from the heart is so buried within, encased in fear, that not only do you not know what your heart whispers, but you systematically suppress what is inside with busy-ness. This time, hear your heart and plan to carry out what’s inside. Your plan may involve a one day activity i.e., go to a play or you may hear from your heart that you want to be a thespian.
  3. Accept the prompting from your heart with sincere gratitude. Be mindful, with graciousness, that this is clearly what you are meant to do and then attentively do it.

You are awakened. You can see clearly, all obstacles have vanished and out of your way. Gone are the dreams that linger on the outside, you clearly see, know and must act with clarity.

GO!

Go! On your mark, get set, ready, GO! This is the time, today, to go for what you want.  It doesn’t matter how farfetched your dream, how remote your goal, or how immeasurable your vision. What matters is that you have a dream, a goal or a vision.

It is time to go for it; get into the race for the finish line-the attainment of victory. Today is your day to take one elongated step and then another and then another until you are draped with or crowned a success.  No more wallowing, no more wondering, and no more wavering, go.

Tomorrow is twenty-four hours away, that won’t get you to finish today. Today is your GO day.  Garner your energy, renew your purpose, feel deeply your passion and GO!  Inculcate success; take on the confidence of an Olympic athlete for a moment.  They practice and train to respond to the word GO.

Be an athlete. Be you and never succumb to wariness. There are times in life that you feel tired and frustrated: tired of trying to make it in spite of all that you do, tired of waiting for your business to grow, tired of dealing with sickness, tired of a difficult boss.  You may feel tired of it all; that’s the time to GO!

Pump up your endorphins. Go on, hold on a little bit longer, and see the victorious end in colorful splendor.  You can’t allow yourself to become weary. You can’t be tempted to quit pursuing your goals and dreams -not now. Exactly what you want is right ahead.

Belief creates its verification.” ~William James

The dreariest moment is right before a victory. The darkest time of the night is right before dawn. The weariness of defeat is right before your success.  Claude Bristol in The Magic of Believing says the problem with most people is that they give up and get weary too soon.  They lose their passion, they discard their dreams, and they tell themselves they are a failure inches before what they wish is claimed.

The magic of believing is that you set your passion thermostat, you decide the pace, and you, and only you, own the mental fortitude to win.  Bristol says, “it needs to be in the spirit-that the work has already been done…actually see yourself successful.”

You are magic-believe it.

Now, GO!

Fantastic Friday: Altruism

Giving helps. Researchers confirm what we already know: giving benefits the giver as much or sometimes more than the receiver.

On this Fantastic Friday, exercise your altruism muscle so that your heart stays strong.

Ho Su Kim was recently honored for his volunteer work at The Center for Pan Asian Community Service, Inc., where he founded the Food Pantry program providing food assistance to families and seniors in need in metro-Atlanta. His fantastic act of care – building a sustainable program of giving selflessly so that others will have food to eat is worthy.  Mr. Kim decided to get busy and exercise his heart muscle by doing something that now benefits hundreds of families per week.

You too can do good by giving with an altruistic spirit. Look around, identify a need, and share what you have.  It may be a random pay-it-forward act or it could be using a hammer at a Habitat build, or helping the elderly or a child with homework for free.

The options you have for altruism are as open and unique as you are. The main thrust here is to give and to give with heart. Your altruism may be a one-off act or it could be longer term like Mr. Kim or similar to Karen White and her family, whom I admire so much. They adopted two children from Africa and life is great for the family.

Whatever act of altruism you choose this Friday, do it and feel fantastic!

 

Miracle Monday: Imagination

What a day this will be, great bounties I can already see in my mind all possibility.

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Imagination governs the human race according to Napoleon.  The use of visualization allows you to imagine and see your miracle.  You already use imagination a lot every day, but to make it a Monday Miracle exercise, let’s amplify its use. For a test answer the following questions:

  1. What is the color of your bedspread?
  2. Does the bedspread have flowers?

How did you do? I am sure you were 100% accurate because you used the strong power of your imagination to vividly recall the answers.  You can do this for anything. Test it out. You can “see” or imagine yourself doing anything in the future or you can use your imagination to capture photographic memories of the past.  When you imagine happy things, you create happy memories along with similar feelings to go along with them. When you think of past pain, the same is true – you can recreate those solemn feelings too.  But,  the useful difference is that with imagination you can choose to picture these feelings any way that you want.

The mind cannot tell the difference

between a real or a vividly imagined experience.

So with each happy imagination you can make each one a miracle when the image is BOLD, BRIGHT, VIVID, COLORFUL and filled with feelings of emotional intensity. For the somber imaginings you can minimize their emotional effect by doing the exact opposite. Make somber, sad imaginations DRAB, GRAY, SMALL and no longer add feelings when you see this drab past.  Each time you think with sadness, do not deny the feeling, rather de-color it in your mind and move it far away from present memory far into the distance and fade it out as a gray grainy picture of the past.

Make vivid what brings you joy. Imagine peaceful happiness today, make that your miracle.

Emotional Exercise 1

Most people fear change. No matter how much you are aware of and talk about making a change in your life usually because of the undercurrent of fear it is not done.

The intent of the Emotional Exercise that I will write about and the Assignment given is to push you beyond the limiting fear. You can rule the world. You can live your dreams. You can climb any obstacle. You can live the best life ever!

 You cannot talk yourself out of what you behave yourself into

Talk just will NOT do it. It takes emotional exercise (action) to change behavior. The reason why I am attaching emotion to exercise is because it takes the two together to modify behavior and outlook. One without the other is futile; exercise without emotion often becomes a faded dream that eventually dissipates into a vague longing which eventually becomes a mark of disappointment.  The pile on of one disappointment after another is the primary reason most people  just give up and retreat to just repetitive sad talk about change.

You can change and be a better person. You can change and connect without fear. You can have the emotional freedom you desire. It takes personal accountability, seeing and feeling your mind power, emotional energy, patience, and potent joy. 

Use Emotional Exercise to create new behavior

Your Emotional Exercise 1 for today:

  • Clear all, I really mean ALL distractions for 30 minutes. No computer, no cell phone, no telephone, no handheld device, no smartphone, no email, no television-NOTHING for 30 minutes.  If you find you are having difficulty doing this for 30 minutes – leave the page. You do not want to change. You are not ready to change. More power to you.  But, if you are willing to invest 30 minutes to refine a new you, then take the next step.
  • Get a piece of paper or go to a clean page in your journal. Write. That’s all you are required to do for thirty minutes. Write free-form, no editing, no thinking about polite words, put your sanitized mind to rest for 30 minutes and just write in random form whatever comes to your mind.  Write everything, anything you want to write.

Write in longhand a stream of consciousness musing. Write what is in your mind. No filters. No judgment. No wrong or right words. Just write words. Describe you. Write.

  • Breathe. Write and breathe in the freshness of putting onto paper everything you can imagine about you, your life, your outcomes, your behavior for the next six months to a year

Take deep breaths, let the words you are writing go deep within-no judgement, no cynicism,  no doubt or fear. Just breathe in refreshing, restorative air and write for 30 minutes.

  • Feel your words. No judgment, no doubt, no reservations here. JUST FEEL! No censors.
  • Stop. When you have reached 30 minutes – STOP. Be disciplined here-stop. Fold your paper and put it away. Do NOT read what you wrote. Fold your page in the journal or fold the sheet of paper you wrote on and put it away. No discussion. Nothing. File your page away in a safe place where only you will see it when you get to Emotional Exercise 2.
  • You are done for the day – feel good about that!

This first imprint Emotional Exercise is complete. It is your pivot step to behavior change.

I am proud of what you have done today.  Look for Emotional Exercise 2 tomorrow. We will build upon this exercise to strengthen your behavior change.

Thank you for your trust and inner courage.