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You Are Responsible

“We must never merely…provide people with  programs which have little or nothing to do with their own preoccupations, doubts, hopes, and fears….It is not our role to speak to people about our own view of the world, nor to attempt to impose that view on them, but rather to dialogue with the people about their view and ours.”

~Paulo Freire, Pedagogy of the Oppressed

You are responsible! Regardless of how others may define “being responsible”, you hold the key to action and words which reflect a living response to situations or people which then canonize your values and ultimately declare who you are.

Paulo Freire is on point. Who has the right to determine, without broad input, what is good for others. Given the salient underpinning of each person’s environment from birth which shape one’s perspective and ego, everyone should consult and undergo a personal deepened examination of oneself before acting to salvage those who act, in their mind, less responsible.

Recent examples of environmental bias involve racism, homophobia, sexism, religious judgment, abuse in its may forms which result in actions that oppress and injure due out of external programs brokered by fear and undergirded bias.  How could one call the police on an 11 year old black boy who was innocently delivering papers unless the callers response was colored by racial bias? Or, how can a woman wearing a t-shirt stamped Puerto Rico be verbally abused unless there is a lack of honest responsibility and true caring for others.

Let’s probe further. Is it responsible to use religion and the bible to separate children from parents or deny legal rights only because they are of other nationalities than European?  Are you living responsible when you bombast same sex relationships by only imposing your view? Do women and men who are abused by someone in an authority role deserve justice?

What are responsible answers to these questions? What questions do you have that expand the dialogue so that accepted preoccupations, doubts, hopes or fears are challenged?

It is the responsibility of each one to care enough to question and gain knowledge. Once informed dialogue happens with a varied population of stakeholders a blended truth can emerge which heals rather than harm.

You are responsible, take it seriously. Own and accept your role in activating change.

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75 Questions: Day 22

 

Hearts

Unity from the heart

There are 75 days before the start of a new Gregorian calendar year. So, for the next 53 days (Monday – Sunday) the blog postings will ask you one question. That question may inspire you, it may perplex you, it may anger you, or it may tickle you.  It’s about your growth. The whole thrust of the 75 questions is to prompt a reaction and honest answer to the probe.

The major intent of the 75 questions is to capture change. The questions are to be a catalyst for inner change that leaves you feeling more dynamic, powerful, intrigued, and authentic. When these salient emotions are opened up within you (they already exist), you change and your world changes and the whole world changes with you.

Post your answers, you will get a response to your replies and we will use these 75 questions to lift life as the year 2017 begins.

How do you combat racism?

75 Questions: Day 14

There are 75 days before the start of a new Gregorian calendar year. So, for the next 62 days (Monday – Sunday) the blog postings will ask you one question. That question may inspire you, it may perplex you, it may anger you, or it may tickle you. The whole thrust of the 75 questions is to prompt a reaction and honest answer to the probe.

The honored intent of the 75 questions is to capture change. The questions are to be a catalyst for inner change that leaves you feeling more dynamic, powerful, intrigued, and authentic. When these salient emotions are opened up within you (they already exist), you change and your world changes and the whole world changes with you.

Post your answers, you will get a response to your replies and we will use these 75 questions to lift life as the year 2017 begins.

Do you pray?

Choose to live and give

“Don’t speak to me about your religion; first show it to me in how you treat other people.
Don’t tell me how much you love your God; show me in how much you love all His children.
Don’t preach to me your passion for your faith; teach me through your compassion for your neighbors.
In the end, I’m not as interested in what you have to tell or sell as I am in how you choose to live and give.”
   ~ Cory BookerMayor of Newark, N.J.

Emotional Exercise 3

Strength can only be developed by practice and effort. Emotional Exercise strengthens the mental  power vital to success.

 

By now you have completed Emotional Exercise 1 and Emotional Exercise 2. Congratulations-you have undertaken two mental power components that strengthen your purpose vitality.  It will be helpful, as we proceed to Emotional Exercise 3, to review both exercises again. Remind yourself of WHAT you want and WHY these wants are important/valuable to you.  The emotional linkage of the two is vital to conquering doubt and fear.  Reminder: re-reading or even re-doing either or both is perfectly fine. I have done this exercise three times already and tested it twice out on a diverse population sample in advance of posting it to you. Repetition is good, practice and effort strengthens.

Emotional Exercise 3: 

  • Take a look at the ten things listed in the column below:  Write ALL ten down on a separate piece of paper.
  1. Job and money
  2. religion/spirituality
  3. good health
  4. friends
  5. family
  6. independence/ability to make your own decisions
  7. self-respect
  8. being a loving person/being loved
  9. freedom
  10. good life/social parties/entertainment
  • Now, take away four of those from the list above. Just cross them out on your sheet of paper.
  • Next, take away four more. Cross out four more from the list.
  • Take away ONE more from the list.
  • STOP and look at the one thing you have left from the list. Really pause and see the word you have kept from your list.  This word is what you value and hold most precious.  This is your ONE THING that is sacred, soul-touching, most valuable to you in the present.

Write the ONE THING you have left on a separate piece of paper or page in your journal.  This is important because that ONE THING is your mental governor, the thing that you will do anything to protect and hold secure in your life.

  • Ask yourself – write down the answer here – am I making decisions and living the life that proves that this ONE THING is my lifeline, my purpose? Am I living on purpose – protecting what I MOST value right now?

I know this part of Emotional Exercise 3  is difficult, hard to use an inner scope of thought to see and feel the ONE thing that you value and then probe into how you are living to protect that ONE thing.  But, strength only comes with practice and effort.  Take the effort of clearly comprehend this ONE point of your POWER and TRIUMPH.  Once you inculcate this, you become a strong fortress.  Don’t hold back-make the effort. Identify what you are doing, or not doing, to strengthen your ONE THING. Write it all down, study this question over and over again. Over and over again, probe and study this question until it becomes a legitimate, honest true concentration of who you are; until it becomes an unarguable purpose that is only for you and only made for you and can only be done by you.  

This is heavy stuff, but your mental freedom depends on the effort and practice of cleaning up the dross and defining in clear detail the ONE THING for you.

  • Write your ONE THING on multiple pieces of paper – post it notes, stickys, index cards,  poster stock, color paper.
  • Place your ONE THING everywhere. In the bath mirror, on exit doors, in your wallet, on the desk, in a photo frame, as wallpaper on your computer, in OneNote; see it often.

We will continue with Emotional Exercise 4 later in the week. For now, do Exercise 3 with fortitude and grace; see and concentrate on your purposed ONE THING.

Thank you for the trust and work you have done in Emotional Exercise 3 and for the tolerance you have exhibited to get you here. Know your ONE THING or work harder and with purposeful effort to get to know your one thing. Once this is crystallized and deeply ingested, you are on the precipice of lasting change.

I purpose you goodness, be well.