Resolutions and Solutions

As you approach the calendar marker of January 1st, it is typical for many to begin to nervously bite their nails as they get ready to make a new list of resolutions.  Don’t fret or stall this year because you are going to plot your resolutions differently-this year you will focus on creating solutions that are connected to each resolutions.

Put away the emery board, the only file you will need is a notes file which you will use to create a winning strategy of resolution solutions. There is a system to achievement. Ask any goal-directed person, you will hear that they worked from a productive mindset to create a repeatable success plan.T. Harv Eker, in his seminal book, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, says:

“It’s  what’s under the ground that creates what’s above the ground. It’s what’s invisible that creates what’s visibleif you want to change the fruits (achieving your resolutions), you will first have to change the roots.”

Resolution success involves fertilizing your roots.  Resolutions, at any time or date, are nothing more than affirmations you plant in the soil of achievement.  When you add solutions-nothing more than a road map to your affirmed resolutions- you are then operating with the dynamic power of the invisible and the visible. Become a tree planted by the water, be NOT moved.

Resolution Solutions Steps:

  1. Go ahead.  Start writing your heartfelt resolutions. Make each one in the form of a declaration. Use “I am” statements-create your future truth.
  2. Each declaration must also have a solution statement or page-depending on the breath and depth of what you are resolving to do. For example: Resolution-I am an author, I will publish my manuscript by September 2014. Your solution statement may be-I will write or edit two pages every day.
  3. Post your resolutions and solution statements in your meditation room, on the refrigerator, on the mirror, and/ or on your bedroom door.               Success Solution:  tell three  people what you have resolved to do (make sure you solidify your base of support by telling at least one person who has done what you resolve to do, solicit the help of an expert who will support you).
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created by ChrisGorgio

Bringing forth your resolutions from the “invisible” also means that your resolution tree is grounded, planted with indissoluble definiteness. In the book, Climb Every Obstacle: Eliminate Your Limits!, the opportunity step for the obstacle doubt is to write “I believe” statements.

Say: “I believe” a million times a day, especially when you pass the areas where you have written your resolution/solution statement(s). Pause, plant roots in your life soil often, think about what you believe-make the invisible visible. Write it, say it.
Resolution solution suggestion:  Once your initial list is complete, start off by using the first 25 days to inculcate your resolutions.  Stand in front of your page(s) and repeat out loud every resolution you have written.  Say the resolution, then put your hand over your heart and affirm out loud using the words “I believe” after each one. Master this technique. Toss the emery board, get a resolution board. Toss the calendar, get started writing your resolutions and solutions today!

Resolutions and solutions are the invisible roots that make visible your life tree.

Email your resolution/solution list to me – anita@anitajefferson.com – and I will send you a mid-year reminder as a check-in to give you support.

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Make a Mistake Right

created by Stuart Miles                                                                                    (graphic created by Stuart Miles)

Have you ever made a mistake?

Do you regret some mistake you’ve made? Of course. If you are breathing and not in denial, regardless of how long you have lived you have made mistakes and assuredly you have regrets about some of them. Threats to your confidence come and go, but you can change a threat into a treat! Find opportunity

Mistakes happen! That’s right, mistakes are a human frailty which are a consequence of the mind’s ability to make choices.  Humans are the only species on earth who have the capacity of thought and reason. Some choices are on target and others lead to mistakes. But, there are teaching moments and learning points even when you make a mistake. Don’t fret!

What you can do about it?

  1. Remind yourself that mistakes happen. Don’t beat yourself up and create negative energy around a happenstance mistake. Lingering in the fear of making a mistake is actually an act of self sabotage.
  2. Consider the mistake to be a right mistake. It could be a blessing in disguise.  The change precipitated by that choice could actually guide you to alternate options you would never have considered.  It’s quite possible for your new open-eyed view to lead you to an experience which is more beneficial; this regularly happens.
  3. Think about it. A right mistake usually prompts introspection. As is written in Climb Every Obstacle: Eliminate Your Limits!, mistakes magnify learning. If you take the time to graciously learn from your mistake, rather than ignoring it or being angry about it, you will begin to see its learning value.

Dig deep into the mistake.

BEWARE: If you are making mistakes that throw off your focus, skew your self-worth, damage another person, or create chaos – then what you are doing is probably not a mistake. Such behaviorism indicates fear. They even point to a deep sense of unworthiness.

Oprah columnist Martha Beck advises to be still in those moments. She says,“If we’re still enough to hear our own inner voices at this subtle, almost silent level, we tend to choose the course through life that feels most blessed and least traumatic.” Work that ego-centered pain out. Dig in, get an answer to the question why did this happen.

HALT. Stop before the distress starts. It’s unnecessary to beat yourself up. Instead, do something that diverts harmful emotions instantly. Don’t allow that pesky inner voice of past pain to ruin your true presence of goodness and goodwill.

Mistakes are a part of success. For one thing, they often improve your problem-solving skills. Those who avoid mistakes ultimately avoid success.

“The greatest mistake you can make is to be continuously fearing that you will make one.” ~Elbert Hubbard

Every right mistake has a right solution.