“Nothing is so strong as gentleness; nothing is so gentle as real strength.”
~De Sales, St. Francis (1567-1622)
There are only 10 questions left. Are you amazed about the changes evident in you?
When the questions began, 75 days ago, which then was the exact number of days before the opening of a new year 2017, according to the Gregorian calendar. The countdown began and now there are 10 days until New Year (Monday – Sunday). As is customary, the remaining blog postings will ask you just one question. That question may inspire you, it may perplex you, it may anger you, it may be the catalyst for indelible change, or it may even tickle you.
The intent of all 75 questions is to probe, to prompt a reaction, to get you to stretch, to press beyond tradition or boundaries, to think broader, to break free, to face the fear, or liberate you by confirming what you already know for sure. You are only asked to respond each day with a thoughtful answer to the question.
Each question, ultimately, is to give you the intimate space to recover how to love yourself which universally expands and to allow you to love and live with empathy for others.
These 75 question can precipitate change. The question is to be a inquiry into pathways of inner change that leaves you feeling more healthy, safe, in control, powerful, intrigued, and authentic.
When these amazing emotions are opened up within you (they already exist), you change and your world changes and the whole world changes with you.
Question 65: How healthy are you?
Really? Do you want to experience these things?
The answer lies in your DNA. The ability to practice DNA -Do Not Argue- heals hearts, connects you to your soul, and allows you to experience pure, radiant joy. To many, arguing seems the only way they can make a point or “feel” the pseudo power of dominance. WRONG!
Exercising the healing practice of DNA-Do Not Argue is the real power that each person has. There is no weakness in DNA, instead you feel the ascendancy of knowing who you are and what values are inviolable. DNA is strength.
Someone disagrees with you, DNA. Offer your truth, if necessary, and move on. You are wrongly accused, DNA. Seek justice using facts, you will prevail. You are supposedly disrespected, shuck it off. Life is too short to spend it arguing over the mundane.
When you live from your heart and soul centered strong self and put that dominate practice into your daily actions and decisions, your true powerful DNA sense of being ascends. That is the path to a happier, truer, more wholesome you.
“The senses of your soul help you express your whole truth, and being true to yourself takes work, because it’s so easy to get sidetracked and influenced by others. It’s easy to get caught up in the drama. You have to put in the effort and stand strong every day to honor your own ideas, feelings, intuitions and aspiration” ~Marc and Angel Hack
How do you live your DNA life?
“Do not tolerate the thing that you have a no-tolerance rule against.” ~Henry Cloud
There is such a thing as justifiable hatred. Successful people know this and practice it judiciously. To hate well means that there are some hard-fast character, social, and mental rules that you mark as inviolable. You stand against racism or oppression no matter what. You stand again lying or manipulation no matter what. You stand against the act, not the person.
Dr. Henry Cloud, in his book 9 Things You Simply Must Do, writes that hating well always means that you have a loving or kind response to the person but evince a very strong stance on the issue. Strong well placed hatred means unmovable, non-equivocal standards without meanness or malice toward the person. In this way, strong non-judgmental values allow you to operate around the things that you hate without being infected by them while you work to remedy the situation or help someone.
Become a person who objectively chooses to hate well. This allows you to discard the charged emotions that often damage or destroy the valued good you intend. Then, you will preserve your integrity, shorten any stress, and contribute to well-being in your relationships.
Subjective hatred destroys. When you choose to hate a person or an act and then react venomously, you are not separating what you value from either the person or situation. Dr. Cloud says this is global hatred. In essence because you have been offended by a person, all people who look like that person or even more broadly is the same gender as the offender is treated malevolently. Wrong!
Hate well instead. Separate the charged emotions and previous pain you have internalized from the current person or situation that reminds you of a former space of injustice. Subjective hatred often projects onto others angry, unjustified disdain and harsh judgment whereas objective hatred is precise in its assessment and addresses the infraction in ways that preserve the dignity of the person.
Hatred, as a healing and appropriate response to anything which infringes on your values, is good. Either you stand for something or you perish for the lack of standing. Those who hate poverty but not the impoverished hate well. Those who hate hunger but not those who hunger hate well. Those who hate profanity but do not curse the curser too hate well.
Distinguish what you hate. Stand firm on the issue, and graciously on the person.
Tell us what you hate and how you make the choice to objectively hate well. Send me your comments.
You’ve got moxie, the ability to succeed. Power, courage, roots, determination, strength, spirit, creativity – you have all of these traits, and more, embedded in the fiber of your beings. Your DNA is composed of moxie. Actually, you are moxie.
When you think of yourself as moxie, you will climb every obstacle. You will eliminate your limits. Moxie people find a way out of no way, they never settle with half-finished work. Moxie winners toll and strive and sacrifice until they heave a herculean weight; power moxie believers complete the task.
Up your moxie power.
That is it-moxie people believe. Most people have short-sighted belief; they earnestly pursue a goal until someone tells them they are “crazy” for even thinking they can play professional basketball when they are only 5’6 inches tall. But, moxie man Charlie Criss ignored naysayers and joined 6’6 giants on the basketball court. A 28-year-old Criss became, in the words of Sports Illustrated, “the NBA’s smallest player and oldest rookie” when he joined the Atlanta Hawks as guard.
Mamie “Peanut” Johnson still has plenty of moxie. Author Michelle Y. Green, in her book, A Strong Right Arm, tells the courageous story of the first African American female baseball player. In a tribute to her, the National Baseball Hall of Fame writer Emily Voss says, “In the late 1940s, she wanted to join the All-American Girls Professional Baseball League, and assumed that because Jackie Robinson had broken barriers in the major leagues, the AAGPBL would welcome black players too. The AAGPBL refused to let her try out, but Johnson came away more determined than ever to play ball.”
Moxie Matthew Webb became the first to make the crossing without the aid of artificial buoyancy. His first attempt ended in failure, but on August 25, 1875, he started from Admiralty Pier in Dover and made the crossing in 21 hours and 45 minutes, despite challenging tides (which delayed him for 5 hours) and a jellyfish sting.
Zhang Xin, this young moxie woman was a former factory worker, Zhang is CEO of Beijing’s largest commercial real estate developer, regularly featured on lists like Forbes magazine’s “World’s Most Powerful Women” and “Top Ten Billionaire Women We Admire” is renowned for her commitment to justice, equality and ethical business.
CNN Hero of the Year for 2013, Chad Pregracke, has the moxie to clean rivers and waterways of debris. After removing over 67,000 tires from rivers, he says find a cause, take action. Be moxie.
Moxie believers are unstoppable. They all evince power, courage, determination, strength, spirit, creativity. Therefore, heritage, ethnicity, gender, intellect, age, education, health, wealth, weight, environment or any perceived obstacle can never be a success barrier – moxie prevails.
Self-belief can stand alone.
You’ve got moxie-you are moxie. Never stop.
- Have A Little Moxie (partywiththepanda.com)
Keep on trucking…do you remember that 70’s saying? If not, that phrase was common then as a motivator to be steadfast in what you are pursuing. Trucking on is as valuable today as it was then. Steadfastness is a goal-maker.
Do a little bit more today. Serve your solid sense of responsibility. Take pride in both your work and your reputation for responsible, responsive action. Make the effort to stretch your current boundaries; commit to delivering even more than is expected…keep trucking a little longer.
Steadfastness extends beyond merely meeting deadlines; rather, it is a dedication to reach a level not experienced before that gives you a glimpse of your inner strength and pure power. You may choose to exercise five minutes more today. It may mean that you conclude a project not only before the deadline but that you expand the dimensions by going beyond what was expected. Steadfastness connotes delivery, taking concrete action to finish with flourish.
Steadfast behavior builds capacity. We all have the capacity to do more, go beyond your thought and action boundaries today-add one more step, reach beyond the goal post. See yourself expand…be steadfast and grow.
Keep on trucking, baby.