“Truth be told, inner peace begins the moment you take a new breath and choose not to allow an uncontrollable event to dominate you in the long-term. You are not what happened to you. You are what you choose to become in this moment. Let go, breathe, and begin again…” ~Marc and Angel Chernoff, authors of Getting Back to Happy: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Reality, and Turn Your Trials into Triumphs
Kiss your indecision goodbye. Kiss your complaints or conflict goodbye. Kiss fault lines goodbye. From now on, all you have to do is KISS life.
KISS – a simple formula to navigate life.
Keep your words and intention short and sweet, meaning live from your empathetic heart. Instead of talking to someone in a raging diatribe, KISS it. Say what you mean simply but absent venom. Managing any relationship can present challenges, but the sweetness of life offers the opportunity to regulate emotions and re-assign fault.
When you KISS a decision, it lifts you beyond the messiness of constant quandary. Think about the choices you have when posed with a personal challenge and then think short and sweet of the outcomes after which it is time to make a decision.
Japanese use the term arugamama to describe a sense of acceptance. KISS is your arugamama – you accept what you need to confront and then use simple, sweet active steps to live whole.
You are whole, now KISS life.
There are 75 days before the explosive start of a new Gregorian calendar year. So, for the next 26 days (Monday – Sunday) the blog postings will ask you one question. That question may inspire you, it may perplex you, it may anger you, or it may tickle you. It’s about the real in you.
The dramatic intent of the 75 questions is to probe, to prompt a reaction, to get you to stretch, to press beyond tradition or boundaries, to think broader, to break free and then give a thoughtful answer to the question.
The overall intent of the 75 questions is to capture change. The questions are to be a catalyst for inner change that leaves you feeling more dynamic, powerful, intrigued, and authentic. You make the choice.
When these fruitful emotions are opened up within you (they already exist), you change and your world changes and the whole world changes with you.
Question 49: How big is your universe?
There are 75 days before the glorious start of a new Gregorian calendar year. So, for the next 27 days (Monday – Sunday) the blog postings will ask you one question. That question may inspire you, it may perplex you, it may anger you, or it may tickle you. It really is about a detox of your emotions to discover the insightful truth within you.
The truest intent of the 75 questions is to probe, to prompt a reaction, to get you to stretch, to press beyond tradition or boundaries, to think broader, to break free, and then give a thoughtful answer to the question.
The intent of the 75 questions is to capture change. The questions are to be a catalyst for inner change that leaves you feeling more powerful, intrigued, happy, and authentic.
When these amazing emotions are opened up within you (they already exist), you change and your world changes and the whole world changes with you.
Question 48: Will you detox your emotions today?
We are almost halfway – your answers are so powerful.
There are 75 days before the start of a new Gregorian calendar year. So, for the next 43 days (Monday – Sunday) the blog postings will ask you one question. That question may inspire you, it may perplex you, it may anger you, or it may tickle you. It’s about the real in you. The intent of the 75 questions is to prompt a reaction, to get you to stretch, to think beyond tradition or boundaries, to reach higher, and then get a truthful answer to the probe.
The overall intent of the 75 questions is to capture change. The questions are to be a catalyst for inner change that leaves you feeling more colorful, dynamic, powerful, intrigued, and authentic. When these healing emotions are opened up within you (they already exist), you change and your world changes and the whole world changes with you.
Post your answers, you will get a response to your replies and we will use these 75 questions to lift life as the year 2017 begins.
Question 32: What are you reaching for?
There are 75 days before the start of a new Gregorian calendar year. So, for the next 46 days (Monday – Sunday) the blog postings will ask you one question. That question may inspire you, it may perplex you, it may anger you, or it may tickle you. It’s about the real in you. The cellular intent of the 75 questions is to prompt a reaction and get a truthful answer to the probe.
The overall intent of the 75 questions is to capture change. The questions are to be a catalyst for inner change that leaves you feeling more dynamic, powerful, intrigued, and authentic. When these salient emotions are opened up within you (they already exist), you change and your world changes and the whole world changes with you.
Post your answers, you will get a response to your replies and we will use these 75 questions to lift life as the year 2017 begins.
Question 29: How honest are you?
Really? Do you want to experience these things?
The answer lies in your DNA. The ability to practice DNA -Do Not Argue- heals hearts, connects you to your soul, and allows you to experience pure, radiant joy. To many, arguing seems the only way they can make a point or “feel” the pseudo power of dominance. WRONG!
Exercising the healing practice of DNA-Do Not Argue is the real power that each person has. There is no weakness in DNA, instead you feel the ascendancy of knowing who you are and what values are inviolable. DNA is strength.
Someone disagrees with you, DNA. Offer your truth, if necessary, and move on. You are wrongly accused, DNA. Seek justice using facts, you will prevail. You are supposedly disrespected, shuck it off. Life is too short to spend it arguing over the mundane.
When you live from your heart and soul centered strong self and put that dominate practice into your daily actions and decisions, your true powerful DNA sense of being ascends. That is the path to a happier, truer, more wholesome you.
“The senses of your soul help you express your whole truth, and being true to yourself takes work, because it’s so easy to get sidetracked and influenced by others. It’s easy to get caught up in the drama. You have to put in the effort and stand strong every day to honor your own ideas, feelings, intuitions and aspiration” ~Marc and Angel Hack
How do you live your DNA life?
“Do not tolerate the thing that you have a no-tolerance rule against.” ~Henry Cloud
There is such a thing as justifiable hatred. Successful people know this and practice it judiciously. To hate well means that there are some hard-fast character, social, and mental rules that you mark as inviolable. You stand against racism or oppression no matter what. You stand again lying or manipulation no matter what. You stand against the act, not the person.
Dr. Henry Cloud, in his book 9 Things You Simply Must Do, writes that hating well always means that you have a loving or kind response to the person but evince a very strong stance on the issue. Strong well placed hatred means unmovable, non-equivocal standards without meanness or malice toward the person. In this way, strong non-judgmental values allow you to operate around the things that you hate without being infected by them while you work to remedy the situation or help someone.
Become a person who objectively chooses to hate well. This allows you to discard the charged emotions that often damage or destroy the valued good you intend. Then, you will preserve your integrity, shorten any stress, and contribute to well-being in your relationships.
Subjective hatred destroys. When you choose to hate a person or an act and then react venomously, you are not separating what you value from either the person or situation. Dr. Cloud says this is global hatred. In essence because you have been offended by a person, all people who look like that person or even more broadly is the same gender as the offender is treated malevolently. Wrong!
Hate well instead. Separate the charged emotions and previous pain you have internalized from the current person or situation that reminds you of a former space of injustice. Subjective hatred often projects onto others angry, unjustified disdain and harsh judgment whereas objective hatred is precise in its assessment and addresses the infraction in ways that preserve the dignity of the person.
Hatred, as a healing and appropriate response to anything which infringes on your values, is good. Either you stand for something or you perish for the lack of standing. Those who hate poverty but not the impoverished hate well. Those who hate hunger but not those who hunger hate well. Those who hate profanity but do not curse the curser too hate well.
Distinguish what you hate. Stand firm on the issue, and graciously on the person.
Tell us what you hate and how you make the choice to objectively hate well. Send me your comments.
Trust should be earned, it is not an inalienable right in any relationship. Even so, the ability to trust others is power. Why? Trust is the motor oil of life. Your quality of life pivots upon the ability to have trusting relationships. Otherwise, what are relationships for?
Rather than live a cautious, suspicious life-learn to trust others upon building a more than instinctual relationship. Get to know the integrity of the person, pay attention to what is important to them to see if there is true compatibility, and wait for the chemistry of trust to materialize. Trust is earned; don’t give away your power.
Some trusting relationships fail, still value the trusted relationships that you have. Although you may feel anger, disappointment for the moment in them and within yourself it does not mean that you lack the ability to form trusting relationships or that all people cannot be trusted. Regain trust, for it is a part of your life force.
You can regain your trust in others by:
- restoring a self-trust, acknowledge the truth that you have a strong ability to trust yourself even when others make mistakes which pain you.
- Look for the truth. You may want to quietly reflect, think deeply and honestly about the present betrayal you feel. Allow your intuition to become your north star guide to resolve the trust issue.
- Remember the good decisions you have made which blossomed your ability to trust. Never linger too long is the valley of doubt. Move past this infraction, restore your ability to trust.
Listening to your intuition will help you determine the right action to take to reestablish your sense of trust. When we have been stung by another person’s lack of honesty, it can be easy to dismiss from our feelings. But, trust requires honesty on both parties. Therefore, you should not bury your emotions and move on as if nothing happened. Instead, evaluate whether the relationship should be restored and how you will proceed or decide the breech signifies a permanent break
Trust yourself and deal with others honestly. Develop and cherish relationships that are built on trust, truth and understanding-this is your lifeline to happiness and success.
- Ten Ways to Cultivate Work Relationships and Grow Trust (psychologytoday.com)
- Fast Advice Of Quotes On Honesty Examined (backyardmedia.org)
- I-Inspire: 7 good ways to build trust in a relationship (eurekaviews.wordpress.com)
- Trust (diaryofthev.wordpress.com)
You deserve zen, slow your life down a bit and get into the zone.
Zen is the practice of experiencing a calm peacefulness.
A Zen Zone is your mental space where you are flowing with an inner consciousness that is not interrupted with physical noise or corrosive thoughts.
You are in the moment, feeling your inner breath. You are euphoric, rhythmic, and light connected.
A Zen Zone allows you to release stress, calm worry, disperse despair so that your mind is at ease.
Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass,
it’s about learning to dance in the rain.
Tap your toes, lift your feet, dance in the sunshine or rain.
You are alive, feeling the beat of your heart, hearing the sound of your breath, and seeing the rays of discovery all around you. You can dance, you can feel, you can see. You can Zen! It does not matter a bit what the external sensations are, you can capture your Zen Zone anytime, anywhere. The four pivotal steps to a Zen Zone experience are:
Zen in 4 easy steps.
- Create quiet. The intention here is to quiet your life for a few, maybe 10, minutes. Unplug-silence the telephones, move away from the computers or tablets, turn off the television and begin by taking 9 deep breaths. Inhale and exhale for nine complete cycles.
- Next, start tapping using a cupped hand. Begin with a soft touch at the wrist and move all the way up your arm to the shoulder and end at your heart. Reverse and tap back to your wrist and then do the same soft tapping sequence on the opposite side. Tapping stimulates meridian nerves and situates calmness. Do this three full times using both sides of the upper body.
- Again center your mind and begin to look to your right. Turn your shoulders and extend to look over your right shoulder inviting the appearance of possibility. Now, do the same mental and physical exercise by looking over your left shoulder. See newness, see resolution, intensely see the infinite. Do this two times for each side.
- Extend your left arm and punch away negativity and then open your palm and draw in opportunity. Extend your right arm, punch away negativity and open your right palm and draw in opportunity. Do this five times each side. Feel the energy as you punch out and then draw in opportunity with your open-hand. Feel limitless, sense your power.
Quietly remind yourself that there are no limits and that there are no unsolvable problems. Mouth a mantra and gradually balance yourself again as you gradually re-enter the physical earth space you retreated from in your Zen Zone. Continue to breathe love, joy and inner peace, with each breath. Tell yourself: “I love you.”
Love you, zone into your Zen. Affirm your power and live your Zen.
- Have You Found Zen Lately? (permzen.wordpress.com)
- Zen… (hummingbirdonpause.wordpress.com)
- The Zen of Management (thedevelopmentguy.com)
- What More Do You Want?: Zen Questions, Zen Answers by Albert Low (evolutionarymystic.wordpress.com)